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Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Gentlemen,

I have a few questions brewing in my mind and might be making a bit of posting for a while. So in this specific post, the question I ask is this:

I feel like the reputation of being a player can be handled correctly if the girl, regardless of how much player stuff she heard about you, meets you in person. If she hears all about you, then two things could happen:

1. She thinks you play women and break hearts
2. She’s turned on by your sexual might and is interested in bedding you.

If 1 occurs, then all that needs to happen is that she needs to meet you in person and see that you aren’t the meanie that the rumours say you are (since the rumours tend to blow up like that). After she meets you and is freshened by your charm, all that’s left is to get her into situation 2. That is, that you are the sexual prize, and that she might enjoy herself with you.

How true do you think this is?
Is there a limit to how much gossip she can take about someone before she permanently autorejects him even if she meets him and he doesn’t seem that bad? Can a person become that blinded?

If the answer is no then I feel like there’s a process one can follow in order to charm the girl no matter what she hears regarding a person’s promiscuity. And if there is, I’m guessing that the first step is always to be a civil person no matter how pissed off you get with any one of your girls. That way the reputation won’t be as bad as it could. But in the end, it all boils down to this:

How to answer:
Are you a fuckboy?
People say you’re a player. Is that true?
How many women are you seeing?
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foggy

Modern Human
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Never ever answer those questions directly. The best thing to do is agree and amplify, redirect, misinterpret, or turn it around to challenge her and put her on the spot. Here's some answers I like to use:

Girl: Are you a fuckboy?
Fog: Why, are you interested?

Girl: Are you a fuckboy?
Fog: Do you ask this to every guy you talk to?

Girl: People say you’re a player. Is that true?
Fog: You could say I've dabbled in tennis. What about you, what do you play?

Girl: People say you’re a player. Is that true?
Fog: Yeah, I'm the biggest player in the whole wide world. So big that I'm in the Guinness Book of World Records.

Girl: How many women are you seeing?
Fog: Including you, 16.

Girl: How many women have you slept with?
Fog: What, today? Not many.
Girl: Tell mee!
Fog: Counting back how far?
Girl: Since forever!??
Fog: My memory is pretty poor. I don't believe I've slept with anyone today though. :)
 

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Tool-Bearing Hominid
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Ah yes. The suave sidestep. I forgot we could do that :)

Thanks fog. Its quite effective because it also maintains an air of mystery after you do it. So it has a dual-effect.

Two birds, one stone :D
 
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