What an exciting place to be! You can do anything
I also dealt with some alcoholism ,but even after/while I was succeeding with girls! Also did a fair number of drugs but didn't really feel as addicted to them (mainly weed and occasionally some coke or molly) as I did alcohol. So good you got that out of the way now!
I would be careful looking at others as "enjoying the fruits of their labor." I know plenty of successful guys who, while having it good in some aspects, really suck dick in others.
If you don't enjoy doing something, it's really hard to motivate you. If you like gaming, then go all in and make career out of it. Is the market saturated? Sure, but so is the dating market lol. Doesn't mean you don't try to get pussy right?
So what do you like to do? I'd start there. If you don't know, then try different things (hence why I said it's an exciting time for you!)
As for dating, I can only recommend 10000000000% to start doing day game. If you're socially unskilled and don't have any outright genetic advantages, then it's going to be a hard learning curve. I won't sugarcoat it - you're going to get rejected. But, if you put in the work, you can probably see some results in ~3 months. Or maybe you'll catch on quick! Can't say for sure.
With regards to day game, I have a course on it and I'll give it to you for free, cuz why not (normally it's $300). Shoot me a PM on here and I'll send you a link to download everything on google drive or maybe
@Chase can hook you up with a free account on here, if he has the free time. The only thing you gotta do for me is once you get some results, give me a testimonial
That's seriously the best way to change your dating life and it'll give you a start moving in the right direction while you figure out money/spirituality. That's going to be your other avenues of exploration. You need to find a reason why you live (spirituality) and be able to provide for yourself (finances). I make a living from teaching guys how to fuck girls and besides working at bars/clubs, I've never had a real job, so don't ask me how to make money any other way hahaha.
Spirituality, you'll need to do your rounds. Obviously I'm a buddhist and would recommend buddhism, but it's something you need to look for yourself. Your nihilism actually has SOME merit to it, but without the shitty ending. There is no "grand purpose" in the universe, but it doesn't mean there is NO purpose. Purpose is what you make it! And you're free to do whatever you like, so long as you don't break the five rules (don't kill, don't steal, don't be unfaithful sexually, don't lie, and don't drink/do drugs). Avoid these evils and you can largely avoid being reborn as an animal, a ghost, a demon, or being tortured in hell. We are made by our decisions and mindsets. The reason you have no success in this life is because of your choices in this life and your previous life. But just becoming sober is a decision that could potentially save you from a LOT of bad shit down the road, both in this life and the next. So it can't be stressed enough how important that is (I'm nearly 4 years sober myself!) There are plenty of people who are "succeeding" but who rely on alcohol and drugs, so in my mind, you're way ahead of 99% of them. Good fucking shit, dude.
My best starting place would be to watch videos by my teacher, who is a very experienced monk. He's German born, but lives in Thailand and has been a monk for around 30 years. His teacher was a fully enlightened Arahant (100% enlightened). He's a bit harsh/direct, but I like that, so he fits my personality. There are other teachers you might better fit with, but it's a good place to start.
Here is his channel:
https://www.youtube.com/@ForestDhammaTalks
So I can't really give you any clues about money, but spirituality and girls I have figured those out. I'll give you my course for free and you just gotta do the work. But your life already sucks dick so what's some rejection? haha. And Buddhism is a religion of grind and hard work, too. No free tickets to heaven or Nirvana just because you believe. You have develop genuine faith by meditating and examining your life, your mind, and your feelings/thoughts. It will take a lot of practice, but if you do it right, you can enter the first level enlightenment even in this life (called stream entry or sottapana). Do that and you are guaranteed to only have a maximum of 7 rebirths before you get fully enlightened. Along the way, also, you won't be reborn in hell, the animal realm, or as a ghost. Pretty good deal. Anyways, that might sound totally whacky to you (I mean who the fuck talks about buddhism in one sentence and fucking girls in another?)
Like I said, get to work. Your life already sucks, which is a really good place to be, because usually people don't make lots of changes when they're happy! Haha.
Send me that PM and get to work.
Hector
