I get angry when the girl I'm with talks about other guys.

[Duke22]

Seducers,

I was with this girl, and got really angry when she talked about some guy, like again and again about few selected guys. It really passed me off, like REALLY. So, I got angry and left.. ...she did asked me what happened to me, but I wasn't in mood to answer and left.

So, am I boring to her or what? It just happened today just half an hour ago, haven't still talked to her yet.

I do get uncomfortable when girls I'm with looks at other guys even I'm with them. Seriously.

Edit : do I tell the first girl if she asks me again that I got pissed off because of some guys she wanted to talk about in our next meet up, or over the phone if she does call me.

And what to say to other girls when they are out with me.

 

[lostnumber]

I'm going to be honest with you Duke, and I dont want you to take this the wrong way. It sounds like you have some insecurity issues. Its something I've struggled with myself, so I totally get it.

The answer to your question is that you need you tackle this problem at its source and develop thicker skin. You can't be losing your cool and storming off because a girl is talking about other men.

When girls talk about other guys it should be amusing to you, because you realize how much better you are then the other men she's been with. And if that is NOT true then you should be working to improve yourself so that it is.

 

[Big Daddy]

Also, you have to realize that they are doing exactly that, testing your reaction. If you react like you did, you lose. If you keep your calm, you win.

This will give more insight on the matter: viewtopic.php?f=3&t=16757

 

[Duke22]

-lostnumber

Thanks for that. Yeah, I think I do have insecurity. But the way say it should be amusing to you how great you are than other guys, it helped a lot man.

I have field report going on "girl from the class"

Well, this girl did mentioned that she have guys, two guys whom she talks to... .and she had made them her brothers. LOL. That just made me realize how better I'm compare to those guys.

-Big Daddy

Thanks man, and yeah I'll try to keep reminding myself to stay calm whenever I'm getting insecure or angry. And the link you sent was really helpful. I'm glad I read it before I went to my class. Didn't read it fully, but read Richard's reply to not acknowledging the guy. That was really cool.

 

[adi13]

Shit test. You engage, you lose, you look the other way, you win.
You need to do more for yourself and for the seduction stuff. Looks like you have some internal emotional problems. Don't take it the wrong way.
Search for the books: No More Mrs Nice Guy, The Flinch. Read them. Also, read some articles on GC and the most important thing is go out and approach.

All the best

 

[Duke22]

Yeah, I recently realised that they test you more than you can count. Thanks for Anderson09 for that who made me realised about the shit test.

But, in all honesty, I still get confused what a shit test really is. How do I know she really meant what she said or was just fucking around with me.

It's not easy for me to control my emotions, but I've gotten a grasp on it, but still there seems some holes here and there. So I react emotionally, like angry, frustrated, upset etc.

It happens when the girl declines my request or something, it feels like she doesn't love me or something. Which is hard for me to not take personally.

 

[adi13]

Some of the shit tests are subtle and even they are doing them unconsciously. You have to be more grounded and not get affected by everything they say or do, you need abundance. Go out more often, and when you go out do this for you, not for getting girls or for sex.
I liked this book https://www.amazon.com/No-More-Mr-Nice- ... 0762415339

 

[Sandman]

But, in all honesty, I still get confused what a shit test really is. How do I know she really meant what she said or was just fucking around with me.

Shit test does not mean that she is actively, consciously trying to test you. Sometimes she is, but usually it's just her behaviour that is meant to test your mettle. It's instinct. She may not even realize she is testing you. But she feels a kind of weakness in you and she presses to see if you are strong or weak.

Hope it makes sense^^

 

[Duke22]

So, basically, I should ignore it. Let me try that.

Examples of shit test would be helpful, it will give me the general idea what I'm dealing with.

Plus, how to react?

I really want to handle this part or I'll keep suffering it. Like reacting in anger.

 

[adi13]

Example of shit tests are useless, they are not going to change you. You want to learn this by the book, by some rules, but is not working like this.
Even if we post some shit test examples here, you are still going to fail them and suffer because you are not grounded, you have that negative energy in you. You say one thing and your body language and voice tone will say another thing. Girls get this immediately.
From what I'm reading here, you are in just for sex. Sex is fun, is good, but game is not just about sex.
Like I've said: go out more, approach more, read more and in a few months you should see the difference.

 

[Sandman]

So, basically, I should ignore it. Let me try that.

Examples of shit test would be helpful, it will give me the general idea what I'm dealing with.

Plus, how to react?

I really want to handle this part or I'll keep suffering it. Like reacting in anger.

It would be too long to write here but Chase has a few articles on women's tests and how to overcome them. Search for it on the main blog. Plus he explains it much better than I ever could After you read them, if you've got a specific question, come ask again. We'd be happy to help^^