Hey guys,
just found this board like 3 days ago and it really helped me a lot to see what Ive been doing wrong or what I've already been got at from the start.
However after reading this board I think I found out about a major mistake I made with a girl I matched on tender. I wanna share the story with you guys and I'd like really to know if there is any possibility to salvage the situation. Since the everything was in german I will try to translate as accurate as possible.
ok first I started of with bantering (ofc) and she was really in to it, since I was her first match (well at least she told me so).
So then I was like
me: "What made you install tinder?"
she: "how honest do you want the answer to be? oh and can you write smileys here?"
me: "As honest as you can be, since we can only chat at first. and no sadly not, you have to use your keyboard.:/"
she: "The answer could scare you away, so think wisely."
me: "Haha well then think about it as a first way to distinguis between guys you wanna meet and don't wanna meet later.
"
she: "Good point"
ok she then starts to say that she actually has a partner and that she really likes him, but that they both are very unhappy in terms of sex, they don't get along well there. So they decided to have an open relationship, so thats why she is on tinder.
So then I banter a bit again, tell her that it's awesome how hopen she can talk about this blabla. and then start to talk seriously, life etc. pp.
She says she thinks my job is awesome and everything rolls a long good so I ask for her number and she gives it to me.
We keep on talking via whatsapp until she has to go to do some sports.
and thats I think where it slowly went downhill. She comes back from sport we talk I try to set up a meeting she says she doesnt have time on the weekend but the next week would be great.
I think I did make a major mistake not setting up a time right there and then.
So then we talk a bit more nothing too serious just fun stuff and thats it. And then I think I started to write to much without her responding really.
me: "and everything prepared for the trip on the weekend"
She no response
me the next day: "and how is frankfurt?"
She no response
me next day: "so what do you say, tuesday 14:00 in a quiet cafe so we figure out if we actually like each other"
she no response
that was the last message I send her and that was nearly 3 days ago now. So ofc I made the mistake on writing too much too quickly without getting a response that must have turned her off I think It was the prospect of me getting very very easy sex, because normally I am a really slow responder, because I don't care too much and I work long hours, however atm I don't work.
Anyhow is there a way to salvage this situation? Or is the window shut already? She told me when we were still bantering that she already got more matches on tinder but doesnt talk too much with them yet.
really like to hear from likeminded/professionals
Cheers from Germany, Chris
PS: Setting the time, date and place really worked for me so far with every single girl I wanted to meet they really dig it if you plan everything for them. Sometimes they don't have time so you set another time but eventually they come along. However its the first time ever I didn't get a reply.
just found this board like 3 days ago and it really helped me a lot to see what Ive been doing wrong or what I've already been got at from the start.
However after reading this board I think I found out about a major mistake I made with a girl I matched on tender. I wanna share the story with you guys and I'd like really to know if there is any possibility to salvage the situation. Since the everything was in german I will try to translate as accurate as possible.
ok first I started of with bantering (ofc) and she was really in to it, since I was her first match (well at least she told me so).
So then I was like
me: "What made you install tinder?"
she: "how honest do you want the answer to be? oh and can you write smileys here?"
me: "As honest as you can be, since we can only chat at first. and no sadly not, you have to use your keyboard.:/"
she: "The answer could scare you away, so think wisely."
me: "Haha well then think about it as a first way to distinguis between guys you wanna meet and don't wanna meet later.
"she: "Good point"
ok she then starts to say that she actually has a partner and that she really likes him, but that they both are very unhappy in terms of sex, they don't get along well there. So they decided to have an open relationship, so thats why she is on tinder.
So then I banter a bit again, tell her that it's awesome how hopen she can talk about this blabla. and then start to talk seriously, life etc. pp.
She says she thinks my job is awesome and everything rolls a long good so I ask for her number and she gives it to me.
We keep on talking via whatsapp until she has to go to do some sports.
and thats I think where it slowly went downhill. She comes back from sport we talk I try to set up a meeting she says she doesnt have time on the weekend but the next week would be great.
I think I did make a major mistake not setting up a time right there and then.
So then we talk a bit more nothing too serious just fun stuff and thats it. And then I think I started to write to much without her responding really.
me: "and everything prepared for the trip on the weekend"
She no response
me the next day: "and how is frankfurt?"
She no response
me next day: "so what do you say, tuesday 14:00 in a quiet cafe so we figure out if we actually like each other"
she no response
that was the last message I send her and that was nearly 3 days ago now. So ofc I made the mistake on writing too much too quickly without getting a response that must have turned her off I think It was the prospect of me getting very very easy sex, because normally I am a really slow responder, because I don't care too much and I work long hours, however atm I don't work.
Anyhow is there a way to salvage this situation? Or is the window shut already? She told me when we were still bantering that she already got more matches on tinder but doesnt talk too much with them yet.
really like to hear from likeminded/professionals
Cheers from Germany, Chris
PS: Setting the time, date and place really worked for me so far with every single girl I wanted to meet they really dig it if you plan everything for them. Sometimes they don't have time so you set another time but eventually they come along. However its the first time ever I didn't get a reply.
