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Jacksonville01

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Introduction​

Allow me to introduce myself. I'm 37 years old (though girls usually say I look 25) and live in London. My primary focus is day game, which I started last summer. I went from being the shy guy in my social circle—unable to even approach a woman—to being the guy among my friends who can approach and talk to almost any girl.

I collected plenty of numbers that didn’t go anywhere, but by the end of summer, I improved and managed to go on three dates within a month. While they were average dates, with no strong sexual vibe, I now understand in theory how to greatly improve that.

Initially, I used direct openers ("You were walking by and thought you looked kind of cute.") and shifted towards the end of summer to using more genuine compliment openers, which I found improved my results.
Moving forward, I want to focus more on indirect approaches, as I think it aligns better with my personality. Also when I think of a top-class seducer—James Bond comes to mind—indirect game is what they tend to use.

I took a break during the winter as it was too cold and I lost motivation but I plan on continuing from where I started now that the weather has picked up.


Below is what I’ll be using moving forward for my approaches. They definitely feel like they would be a major improvement compared to my old approach but only testing will tell.

Day Game Process​

Main:
Get Her Attention → Project Sexual Energy → Indirect Opener / Reality Pacing / Statement of Teaching / Rainbow Ruse → Social Frame Control → Create a High Note → Give Indicators of Interest → Insta-Date / Number Close

Insta-Date / Date = Social Frame Control + Emotional Stimulation + Sexual Arousal

Fallback:
Genuine Compliment / Observation Opener


Indirect Opener​

(This is Gunwitchs opener but I hate just copying something and always like to make something my own so I tweaked it.
I also like to have different variations of openers I can use and test on different types of girls)

I found accusing a girl of being trouble or posh usually gets good reactions so I'll continue to test that in some of my openers.

You Remind Me of an Ex
"You kind of look familiar / You kind of remind me of someone…"
"This [Say a nationality she looks like] girl I used to date, you have a similar look to her—”

“except I feel like you have a different kind of vibe and energy."
"except I feel like you have more of an innocent vibe to you"
"except I feel like you have more of a not so innocent vibe to you."


Genuine Compliment / Observation Opener​

Troublemaker Vibe
“I noticed your [Fashion/Grooming/Movement/Presence]... [specific detail]. I wanted to come say hi, but you seemed like you might be trouble.”

Innocent Vibe
“I noticed your [Fashion/Grooming/Movement/Presence]... [specific detail]. I wanted to come say hi, but you seemed like you might be way too innocent for me to talk to.”

(I think these openers have qualifying elements in them as well)


Rainbow Ruse​

Mischievous
“You seem to have this playful, mischievous spark—like you know how to easily charm your way out of trouble… or into trouble. But at the same time I get the feeling there might be a softer, sweeter side to you that people might miss.”

Innocence
“You seem to have this sweet, innocent vibe at first glance—like the type who’s genuinely kind and caring. But I don’t know… I also get the feeling there’s a little mischievous side to you that only comes out with the people you’re really close to”


Reserved
"You seem like someone who’s a bit more reserved at first, like you take your time getting to know new people. But I get the sense that once you let someone in, you’re actually really open and emotionally deep—maybe even a little trusting."

Approachable
"You seem like someone who’s really open and approachable, like you don’t mind connecting with people right away. But I get the feeling that there’s more to you once someone really gets to know you—like maybe a more thoughtful or complex side that not everyone sees."



One of the main things I have problems with is running out of things to say and not connecting emotionally with a girl. On my last date I revised a list of topics to talk about which definitely helped but the girl jokingly accused me of interviewing her so I need to ask less questions, deep dive deeper and stay on topics longer


List of Conversation Topics

1. Light Rapport Topics

Used for breaking the ice, small talk, or initial stages of a conversation.
  • Basic Info: Name, Nationality, Age, Place of Abode.
  • Interests: Hobbies, Food, Entertainment.
  • Travel: Vacations, favorite places, dream trips.
  • Job
  • Current Reality: Location, Setting, Observations
  • Logistics: What’s She Doing Now, Who is She With, Free Time


2. Medium Rapport Topics

For deeper connections, suitable for dates, friends, or acquaintances.
  • Relationships: Friends, family, romantic experiences.
  • Social Life: Drugs, Partying/Staying Out Late/Getting in trouble, What’s Going On in Her Life, Social Preferences
  • Personal Experiences: Getting into trouble in high school, childhood memories/upbringing, fun stories, Best/Worst Experiences.
  • Aspirations: Dreams, motivations, passions, Life goals, What would you do if you won the lottery?.
  • Opinions of Each Other: First impressions, how she perceives you, your dynamic together so far, Tell me 3 things you love about me
  • Personality & Self-Perception: Traits that define her personality, How She Wants Others people to perceive Her, How she thinks other people perceive her, how she perceives herself, 3 Favourite Animals Game, The 7 deadly sins, Emotions
  • Lifestyle: Daily Routine, Sports, Fitness, Diet, Mental Wellness


3. Heavy Rapport Topics

For meaningful connections or late-stage conversations (e.g., dates, close friends).
  • Self-Reflection: Fears, Hates, Biggest Regrets, Insecurities, Vulnerabilities.
  • Intimacy: Emotional vs. Physical Intimacy, Physical Preferences, Boundaries, Comfort Levels, Desires and fantasies.
  • Philosophical: Exploring Life Philosophies, Predictions.
  • Life-Changing Moments: Defining experiences, turning points.


And to help me emotionally connect with women better I plan on incorporating some of these techniques

Deep Emotional Connection Anchoring


Detect Emotional Cues (Listening for What Matters to Her)​

Before creating emotional depth, first identify what emotionally moves her.

🔹 How to Detect Emotional Cues:

✔ Voice Tone Shifts (Excitement, hesitation, or emphasis).
✔ Key Words & Phrases ("I love that…" / "It just feels amazing…").
✔ Repeated Emotional Themes (Freedom, adventure, deep connection).


Deepen the Emotional Thread (Expanding the Emotion She Feels)

Once you detect an emotion, don’t move on—make her feel it deeper.

🔹 Techniques to Deepen It:

✔ Reflect Back the Emotion (Mirroring her emotions and paraphrasing them back).
✔ Label the Emotion (Verbally identifying her emotional state).
✔ Expand the Emotion (Exploring why the emotion is meaningful to her).
✔ Amplify the Emotion (Intensifying her emotions).
✔ Add a Personal Insight (Gives meaning to the moment by relating it to a belief or value).
✔ Emotional Contrast (highlighting shifts between opposing emotions).
✔ Validate Her Emotions (Make her emotions feel understood & accepted).
✔ Emotional Sharing (Reveal a related personal experience).


Shape the Emotional Flow (Steering the Conversation Where You Want)​

Once you’ve deepened emotions, steer them toward attraction & connection.

🔹 Techniques to Shape the Flow:

✔ Emotional Anchoring (Tie positive emotions to your presence).
✔ Reality Pacing (Show you understand her external reality ).
✔ Meta Pacing (Show you understand her internal reality ).
✔ Sensory Amplification (Make her relive emotions stronger).
✔ Socratic Questioning ("What If" Statements) (Expand possibilities to spark curiosity).
✔ Cognitive Reframing (Shifting someone's perception by introducing a new perspective on a situation, thought, or belief).
✔ Reverse Deep Diving (Make her project emotions onto you).
✔ Reverse the Perspective (making her visualize the absence of something meaningful).
✔ Cementing Emotions (reinforcing and solidifying specific emotional states).
✔ Cementing Emotional Connections (reinforcing positive emotions by linking them to her self-identity)


Elicit Core Values (Uncovering Her Deepest Emotional Drivers)​

Once you’ve shaped the emotional flow, dig into what truly matters to her.

🔹 Techniques to Elicit Core Values:

✔ Eliciting Core Emotions (uncover a woman’s deepest emotional drivers).
✔ Self-Identity Reinforcement (linking emotions to who she is as a person).



So this is mostly the major things I 'll be working on for this year.
I’ll be updating this journal in the near future with insights on how it goes.
 

Teevster

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This is how you make a proper game-plan!

Try it out and report back how it works for you :)

-Teevster
 

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I am going to keep tabs on your progress. Make us proud!
 
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KJ Francis

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I think these openers have qualifying elements in them as well
These are nice! Consistent with what Karea just posted too, qualifying after direct open.


Rainbow Ruse
Very cool, like undeniable cold read haha, smart


One of the main things I have problems with is running out of things to say and not connecting emotionally with a girl.
I was going to say you might be interested in reading Franco's books. He writes about when women say "I wish you would communicate with me more" in relationships, it's not about deep topics... It's just feeding back active listening regarding her present emotions (and then amplifying whatever emotion to make her horny).

I keep forgetting to do it on dates, but recently a girl showed me a video of her dance class showcase. My immediate response to it was about her sensual movements, but then I followed up with asking about what she feels when she's dancing, etc. Her face lit up like no man had ever communicated in this way with her before. It seems like a powerful technique when fractionated with what Franco terms more yang/masculine sexually-escalating comments.


Deep Emotional Connection Anchoring
Then I kept scrolling and saw your whole emotional threading stuff. Amazing. Where did you learn this?
 

Jacksonville01

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Summary

Had a headache today but still pushed myself to go out. Ran my usual route—through three parks and then looping back—about two hours of walking and biking.

Missed 3–4 opportunities due to approach anxiety, but it’s my first day back, and I didn’t do any meditation or affirmations beforehand.

I wasn’t as flirty as usual, but I’m easing back in and remembering little things I used to do, like lingering handclasps.

Absolutely loving the ex girlfriend opener atm. The reactions feel more varied and engaging even from just the few girls I used it on. One girl laughed and said, "Oh no, I’m not famous or anything!" after I told her she looked familiar. Feels more natural and comfortable going indirect—I only went direct once today.

Didn’t get a chance to test the Rainbow Ruses yet since I don’t remember them well enough.

Overall
Happy with today. Glad I haven’t regressed back to square one. Just need to keep the momentum going.



Approach Stats

Total Approaches: 10
Girls Who Ignored Me: 2
Early Ejections: 3
Convos That Went Past the Opener: 5
Walking Approaches: 6
Stationary/Seated Approaches: 4
Insta-dates: 0
Numbers: 0



Interactions

Italian Girl

This was my first approach coming back to Day Game. She was sitting on a bench reading a book. I opened in a low voice, which I immediately noticed and got in my head about. This set the tone for the interaction—I started forgetting what to say and caught myself asking too many questions. Ejected early, didn’t even try for a number close.

Nigerian Girl
Spotted her sitting on a bench. She wasn't my type, but approached for the extra XP. We talked for 5–10 minutes; she had a bit of an attitude and was testing me. I felt more confident than my first approach but still ejected too soon. Forgot to create a high note and give her IOI's before asking for her number—she playfully laughed and said no.

Filipino Girl
Walking approach. She seemed really sweet and super shy, especially after I told her she seemed like she had a not so innocent vibe. Right after that, she said she had to go.
Looking back, saying she had an innocent vibe might have been better since that actually matched her energy. I said not so innocent on autopilot, which probably didn’t fit the moment.

Ukrainian Girl
Walking approach. She struggled to understand me at first, so had to explain what I was trying to say a few times. We talked for a few minutes, but I ejected early. Language barriers always frustrates me, also when two people walked by, I got a bit self-conscious.

Portsmouth Girl (Best Interaction of the Day)
Walking approach. Noticed that my best interactions (and number closes) tend to usually happen towards the end of the session, probably because I’m warmed up and in a better state.

Talked for 5–10 minutes—she was asking questions, laughing. I teased her about sounding posh for a Portsmouth girl (which she did), and I qualified her a little about cooking. She said she had to go and she has a boyfriend.

Fitness Girl
Saw her leaving the shops but hesitated to open since she wasn’t that attractive. Noticed her ass as she walked past and regretted it.
Five minutes later, I spotted her again walking in the same direction while I was riding my bike home. Opened her while still on my bike, which I don’t usually do—I prefer getting off first. It also might have seemed like I was following her. She said she was in a rush after my opener.

Two girls ignored me completely

Two 16 yr old girls

Two of the girls said they were 16 so had to auto eject.



What I did well
  • Approached most girls without hesitation – Didn’t let approach anxiety fully stop me, even after time off.
  • Dropped the nervous, cheesy smiling I sometimes used to do – Stayed more composed and natural instead of forcing a smile during convos.


What I can improve on
  • Voice wasn’t as slow and flirty as usual
  • Increase voice volume – I’ve had this problem since last year and really need to fix this. I think it’s a combination of being worried of people overhearing me and also my voice not sounding as good when its louder. Maybe try voice exercises
  • Smoother flow with opener – Felt a bit rusty, but this should naturally improve with more reps.
  • Tease and flirt more – Some interactions lacked playfulness. Need to consciously add more teasing and flirtatious energy.
  • Learn the Rainbow Ruses so I can test them
 
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