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Introduction
Allow me to introduce myself. I'm 37 years old (though girls usually say I look 25) and live in London. My primary focus is day game, which I started last summer. I went from being the shy guy in my social circle—unable to even approach a woman—to being the guy among my friends who can approach and talk to almost any girl.I collected plenty of numbers that didn’t go anywhere, but by the end of summer, I improved and managed to go on three dates within a month. While they were average dates, with no strong sexual vibe, I now understand in theory how to greatly improve that.
Initially, I used direct openers ("You were walking by and thought you looked kind of cute.") and shifted towards the end of summer to using more genuine compliment openers, which I found improved my results.
Moving forward, I want to focus more on indirect approaches, as I think it aligns better with my personality. Also when I think of a top-class seducer—James Bond comes to mind—indirect game is what they tend to use.
I took a break during the winter as it was too cold and I lost motivation but I plan on continuing from where I started now that the weather has picked up.
Below is what I’ll be using moving forward for my approaches. They definitely feel like they would be a major improvement compared to my old approach but only testing will tell.
Day Game Process
Main:Get Her Attention → Project Sexual Energy → Indirect Opener / Reality Pacing / Statement of Teaching / Rainbow Ruse → Social Frame Control → Create a High Note → Give Indicators of Interest → Insta-Date / Number Close
Insta-Date / Date = Social Frame Control + Emotional Stimulation + Sexual Arousal
Fallback:
Genuine Compliment / Observation Opener
Indirect Opener
(This is Gunwitchs opener but I hate just copying something and always like to make something my own so I tweaked it.I also like to have different variations of openers I can use and test on different types of girls)
I found accusing a girl of being trouble or posh usually gets good reactions so I'll continue to test that in some of my openers.
You Remind Me of an Ex
"You kind of look familiar / You kind of remind me of someone…"
"This [Say a nationality she looks like] girl I used to date, you have a similar look to her—”
“except I feel like you have a different kind of vibe and energy."
"except I feel like you have more of an innocent vibe to you"
"except I feel like you have more of a not so innocent vibe to you."
Genuine Compliment / Observation Opener
Troublemaker Vibe“I noticed your [Fashion/Grooming/Movement/Presence]... [specific detail]. I wanted to come say hi, but you seemed like you might be trouble.”
Innocent Vibe
“I noticed your [Fashion/Grooming/Movement/Presence]... [specific detail]. I wanted to come say hi, but you seemed like you might be way too innocent for me to talk to.”
(I think these openers have qualifying elements in them as well)
Rainbow Ruse
Mischievous“You seem to have this playful, mischievous spark—like you know how to easily charm your way out of trouble… or into trouble. But at the same time I get the feeling there might be a softer, sweeter side to you that people might miss.”
Innocence
“You seem to have this sweet, innocent vibe at first glance—like the type who’s genuinely kind and caring. But I don’t know… I also get the feeling there’s a little mischievous side to you that only comes out with the people you’re really close to”
Reserved
"You seem like someone who’s a bit more reserved at first, like you take your time getting to know new people. But I get the sense that once you let someone in, you’re actually really open and emotionally deep—maybe even a little trusting."
Approachable
"You seem like someone who’s really open and approachable, like you don’t mind connecting with people right away. But I get the feeling that there’s more to you once someone really gets to know you—like maybe a more thoughtful or complex side that not everyone sees."
One of the main things I have problems with is running out of things to say and not connecting emotionally with a girl. On my last date I revised a list of topics to talk about which definitely helped but the girl jokingly accused me of interviewing her so I need to ask less questions, deep dive deeper and stay on topics longer
List of Conversation Topics
1. Light Rapport Topics
Used for breaking the ice, small talk, or initial stages of a conversation.- Basic Info: Name, Nationality, Age, Place of Abode.
- Interests: Hobbies, Food, Entertainment.
- Travel: Vacations, favorite places, dream trips.
- Job
- Current Reality: Location, Setting, Observations
- Logistics: What’s She Doing Now, Who is She With, Free Time
2. Medium Rapport Topics
For deeper connections, suitable for dates, friends, or acquaintances.- Relationships: Friends, family, romantic experiences.
- Social Life: Drugs, Partying/Staying Out Late/Getting in trouble, What’s Going On in Her Life, Social Preferences
- Personal Experiences: Getting into trouble in high school, childhood memories/upbringing, fun stories, Best/Worst Experiences.
- Aspirations: Dreams, motivations, passions, Life goals, What would you do if you won the lottery?.
- Opinions of Each Other: First impressions, how she perceives you, your dynamic together so far, Tell me 3 things you love about me
- Personality & Self-Perception: Traits that define her personality, How She Wants Others people to perceive Her, How she thinks other people perceive her, how she perceives herself, 3 Favourite Animals Game, The 7 deadly sins, Emotions
- Lifestyle: Daily Routine, Sports, Fitness, Diet, Mental Wellness
3. Heavy Rapport Topics
For meaningful connections or late-stage conversations (e.g., dates, close friends).- Self-Reflection: Fears, Hates, Biggest Regrets, Insecurities, Vulnerabilities.
- Intimacy: Emotional vs. Physical Intimacy, Physical Preferences, Boundaries, Comfort Levels, Desires and fantasies.
- Philosophical: Exploring Life Philosophies, Predictions.
- Life-Changing Moments: Defining experiences, turning points.
And to help me emotionally connect with women better I plan on incorporating some of these techniques
Deep Emotional Connection Anchoring
Detect Emotional Cues (Listening for What Matters to Her)
Before creating emotional depth, first identify what emotionally moves her.
How to Detect Emotional Cues:✔ Voice Tone Shifts (Excitement, hesitation, or emphasis).
✔ Key Words & Phrases ("I love that…" / "It just feels amazing…").
✔ Repeated Emotional Themes (Freedom, adventure, deep connection).
Deepen the Emotional Thread (Expanding the Emotion She Feels)
Once you detect an emotion, don’t move on—make her feel it deeper. Techniques to Deepen It:✔ Reflect Back the Emotion (Mirroring her emotions and paraphrasing them back).
✔ Label the Emotion (Verbally identifying her emotional state).
✔ Expand the Emotion (Exploring why the emotion is meaningful to her).
✔ Amplify the Emotion (Intensifying her emotions).
✔ Add a Personal Insight (Gives meaning to the moment by relating it to a belief or value).
✔ Emotional Contrast (highlighting shifts between opposing emotions).
✔ Validate Her Emotions (Make her emotions feel understood & accepted).
✔ Emotional Sharing (Reveal a related personal experience).
Shape the Emotional Flow (Steering the Conversation Where You Want)
Once you’ve deepened emotions, steer them toward attraction & connection. Techniques to Shape the Flow:✔ Emotional Anchoring (Tie positive emotions to your presence).
✔ Reality Pacing (Show you understand her external reality ).
✔ Meta Pacing (Show you understand her internal reality ).
✔ Sensory Amplification (Make her relive emotions stronger).
✔ Socratic Questioning ("What If" Statements) (Expand possibilities to spark curiosity).
✔ Cognitive Reframing (Shifting someone's perception by introducing a new perspective on a situation, thought, or belief).
✔ Reverse Deep Diving (Make her project emotions onto you).
✔ Reverse the Perspective (making her visualize the absence of something meaningful).
✔ Cementing Emotions (reinforcing and solidifying specific emotional states).
✔ Cementing Emotional Connections (reinforcing positive emotions by linking them to her self-identity)
Elicit Core Values (Uncovering Her Deepest Emotional Drivers)
Once you’ve shaped the emotional flow, dig into what truly matters to her. Techniques to Elicit Core Values:✔ Eliciting Core Emotions (uncover a woman’s deepest emotional drivers).
✔ Self-Identity Reinforcement (linking emotions to who she is as a person).
So this is mostly the major things I 'll be working on for this year.
I’ll be updating this journal in the near future with insights on how it goes.
