I want to have an affair with a woman in a relationship

[Ohdude]

Yeah, I'm aware this is ethically questionable.

However, I just want to have some light flirting and fun with her. She can stay with her man. Texting, calling and maybe meeting up if it's not too risky.

She works in a local Polish convenience shop. She's cold as stone in her posture yet she smiles and makes eye contact with me. I feel a vibe from her. Her energy oozes love me, care for me, maybe it's her insecurities, I feel like she get validation from men.

How do I proceed?

 

[Teevster]

She's cold as stone in her posture yet she smiles and makes eye contact with me. I feel a vibe from her. Her energy oozes love me, care for me, maybe it's her insecurities, I feel like she get validation from men.

She is just doing her job and treat her customers nicely.

Her smiling at you is not proving any strong affections for you.

I think you are chasing unicorns.

Move on.

 

[Ohdude]

Thanks for your eyes on reply man, obviously I asked for advice.

She's cold as hell with everyone whenever I've seen her, a smile is rare. Nice yeah, yet she gives off this I-don't-have-to-be-nice-to-do-my-job vibe most of the time.

This is more data than I provided before yet you might still think I'm chasing unicorns lol love the analogy, and you're probably right. Maybe I'm just fascinated by her (although I've got other girls I'm chasing so I've not got 'the one' mentality).

However, my intuition and the vibe says otherwise. My gut says she's can intuitively sense that I fancy her and want to connect with her, and I sense she's open to that, and she wants me to intiate.

I know girls see me, watch me, happens outside my house, in the club, women I've been with point it out.

In fact, a girl I'm with right now, said to me why are you looking at her when we entered the shop together. She wouldn't say that if she didn't feel a potential threat or would she?

 

[Teevster]

Well if you really believe there is chance, then go for it.

How to proceed? Well... like any other situations. We cannot spoonfeed you a whole seduction guide here.

But keep in mind, that women with boyfriend loves flirting with men - who they either find sexy or not, but not because they want them emotionally or sexually, but because they want attention.

Unless horny, women prefer attention to sex.

Getting attention from men is not cheating. She can therefore have men giving her attention despite being married.
She fucking craves attention, especially if her sexual needs are being taken care of by her boyfriend.

Men who provide girls with attention gets very little back. You become her little pawn.

If that's what you desire, then so be it.

That said, I would come to her shop often, with girls in my hands, and make sure you flirt with your girls more than her. after 15 times with different women, then maybe, and only maybe will she consider wanting more than just mere attention from you.

 

[Ohdude]

@Teevster respect for you tried and tested advice, thank you.

 

[Fuck This]

She is a good one to practice flirting with and build your confidence with. Watch and see how your warmth and wit can get women to crave your attention. That is how you build charisma. Other women sense the attraction and it acts as a social proof of sorts. Innuendo, sexual humor, some physical affection....It is amazing how it can empower you for when you find a woman you want to unleash it upon.

There is a certain point of no return though. When you reach that then you either gotta go for the lay or if you don't she WILL resent you and turn on you. So have in your mind what green light signal will make you go for broke. That said, every female hired gun I encounter I'm laying the charm on, just to stay in practice. Smile, eye contact, witty banter. Might get me a comped drink, might get me a ride home....

 

[Ohdude]

She is a good one to practice flirting with and build your confidence with. Watch and see how your warmth and wit can get women to crave your attention. That is how you build charisma. Other women sense the attraction and it acts as a social proof of sorts. Innuendo, sexual humor, some physical affection....It is amazing how it can empower you for when you find a woman you want to unleash it upon.

There is a certain point of no return though. When you reach that then you either gotta go for the lay or if you don't she WILL resent you and turn on you. So have in your mind what green light signal will make you go for broke. That said, every female hired gun I encounter I'm laying the charm on, just to stay in practice. Smile, eye contact, witty banter. Might get me a comped drink, might get me a ride home....

Thanks man.