Icebreaker text if she texts you first?

[Lucifer]

Hey guys,

Ran into a new situation today. Approached a cute girl in a coffee shop, we talked for a bit and as I'm about to ask for the number, I realize I'd left my phone in my car. So I said something like "we should chill sometime, I'd take your number but I just realized I left my phone in my car."

She said "Oh, here I'll get yours", took my number and texted me "Hi" right away as she did it.

So I got back in my car, and texted her back with a short ice-breaker text ["hey it was nice meeting you -name"] 10 minutes later.

Should I have waited the standard 1-4 hours to text her like with a typical icebreaker text when you take her number? I've never had a situation where a girl texts me first, and I instinctively felt like I should acknowledge her texting me right away as to not leave her hanging. Any thoughts? Would you guys have waited?

Thanks,

 

[HellAtlantic]

Do you think your success with this girl has anything to do with how long you waited or didn't wait to text her back? I show value, high value, by being a good looking guy with muscles and conversates very well. The speed at which I text back does nothing to diminish that. Do you think Leo Dicaprio needs to worry about how long to wait to text someone back? No. He does it when he can. A girl would never say "gee, I used to think so highly of Leo Dicaprio but I don't know his text game is off, he responds so quickly to my texts as if he has nothing better to do." No, that has never been said by a girl ever. He is already extreme high value, the speed at which he texts a girl back plays no role in how he is perceived. If you're not busy, text her back if she reaches out to you. If you are busy, then you'll get it it when you can. But don't let the timing of your texts be the only way you show how high value you are (or aren't, which then would be the reason to worry about such frivolous things). I say this to make a point, not to insult you. Don't worry about how long to wait to text a girl back to give the impression that you're high value. BE high value. Improve yourself and busy yourself. When you're busy and busy working on improving yourself you naturally won't have the ability to text back so quickly. But if you aren't busy...I think you got the point by now. Good luck bro.

It's kinda clear or implied you texted her back as quickly as you did because you finally got access to your phone.

 

[Lucifer]

Right on, I hear what you're saying and I agree. Just something seems to be off maybe with my texting game so I've been putting it under the microscope lately.

Seems to be a sticking point I'm currently stuck at. First it was approach anxiety, I beat that. Then it was not creating a good enough/long enough conversation to get a number, and I finally beat that. Now I'm getting numbers consistently but most of them I'm not getting replies / dates.

 

[Bboy100]

Now I'm getting numbers consistently but most of them I'm not getting replies / dates.

This is still a connection building issue. Girls will give out their phone numbers to almost anyone who asks for it. Whether or not you get an actual date has to do with how good an impression you made in person. "Text game" is useless. All of the legwork is done when you first meet her. After that, she'll either meet you or she won't. Its very rare that the texts themselves will change the outcome.

 

[Lucifer]

Hmmm, interesting. I will keep that in mind going forward and try to build a better connection. Makes total sense. I agree that texting shouldn't matter that much. Thanks guys.