Socializing If you run out of things to say.

[Water]

Here’s some ways to improve your conversational repertoire, and also some anti-flaking tips at the end of These are the most effective ways I’ve found. I’ve tried all of these. Did 4 semesters of improv. Etc.

• Practice routines and pick out two new ones each time I go out and have a fully memorized and usable script ready to use.
• Record myself using all these routines. (This will help me memorize it and work on tonality)
• End goal should be to have tons of stories and routines ready to use at the snap of a finger in-case I run out and such.
• Improv is helping this too.
• Start acting classes, this will help Identity and Presence too.
• Aim for every approach to be a conversational over 5 minutes and number close or insta-date attempt all of them.

Unless they leave or blow me out, I need to stay and keep trying.

• Stay after every number close a couple minutes.
• Try to insta-date really good sets, for some reason the concept of insta-dates completely disappears from my mind in-field.

 

[Water]

Improv is the most helpful of everything on this list.

 

[isildur1]

Read more , have a better general knowledge and life experience , learn languages , travel - these will all give you more ideas to hook on dates

When I was very young starting our aged 18 my dates sucked ass because I just wasn’t a very adventurous kid I was basically a gamer nerd with zero interests so I had to read and travel more to gain more hookpoints - the more interesting your life the easier it is to hook hence why I think young people struggle with daygame more often

in 2014 I met a lot of daygamers in Manchester who had approached my female friends living in the city and attending university - interestingly enough the main complaint from my female friends who were approached by them was that these guys weren’t interesting and often found the conversation boring and mundane - so from that I learnt that you do need to bring something unique to create an emotional impact on a woman- doesn’t mean you need to read 1000s of books or travel to 100s of countries but you do need to do something with your life at least

 

[Water]

Read more , have a better general knowledge and life experience , learn languages , travel - these will all give you more ideas to hook on dates

When I was very young starting our aged 18 my dates sucked ass because I just wasn’t a very adventurous kid I was basically a gamer nerd with zero interests so I had to read and travel more to gain more hookpoints - the more interesting your life the easier it is to hook hence why I think young people struggle with daygame more often

in 2014 I met a lot of daygamers in Manchester who had approached my female friends living in the city and attending university - interestingly enough the main complaint from my female friends who were approached by them was that these guys weren’t interesting and often found the conversation boring and mundane - so from that I learnt that you do need to bring something unique to create an emotional impact on a woman- doesn’t mean you need to read 1000s of books or travel to 100s of countries but you do need to do something with your life at least

I agreee with your advise, but if someone is very socially inexperienced, they won’t be able to translate these experiences and a well lived life into an interesting conversation.

Too nervous and they’ll blank out. More often than not the bigger issue is knowing how to transition into the topic and talk about it in a way that doesn’t sound like bragging but is still interesting.

You do want the focus to eventually go on her and for her to do more talking, by A3. Getting her to qualify herself is what’s aimed for.

I speak from personal experience and knowing others who lived interesting lives but couldn’t successfully approach. When I first started out I read 1-2 books a week, which I still do. Traveled to like 10-20 countries. Bunch of new experiences like scuba diving in a cave 100 feet underwater, play multiple musical instruments, etc.

That said, it is much easier for someone with a rich and full life to create a plan for their conversations. Picking stories to talk about or topics they’re strong in, having a few memorized ways to transition from their opener to some of their subjects. Rather than making stuff up, which I don’t think anyone here does, but was a common thing people did when the community first came out.