I'm fukt

[archimedes]

The game. I want to develop this idea of the game. An alternative take on that phrase.

I'm not talking about me (really) but picture a guy who is the most attractive high quality man ever. But he refuses to play the game. I'll explain what I mean but it doesn't mean he is indifferent or has "amused indifference" but people are chasing him.

What is the game? The degree to which there is a game varies per society I think and how neurotypical they are. The game of dating, I'm well aware is universal. It is trans species. That's different. I mean playing to social norms, acting, kissing the ring I call it. It's tiring. That could be my Asperger's. Maybe I could play it but I don't want to, but I still want the results, love so I'll work doubly hard at being a better man because that's my preference.. but it fails. Oh I had some shots perhaps but I keep coming back. I respect the systems and insights people have developed in online communities and i respect the people.

What i mean.. kinda, or maybe along these lines but with other aspects too, is I don't like having to agree with bullshit just to get love and attention, things to be so conditional, but in a certain way. I think love should be conditional.

I live in a blue city but in the residential neighborhoods. People think I'm red but I'm actually more purple. Anyway I had these neighbors on our block, a man and his wife and two sons. They seemed like they didn't belong, we're always really nice to me. They seemed like they belonged in the country, and that's where they moved to. They just seemed down to earth.

That's what I mean by the game. Respect matters. Winning it is still necessary but I'm gamey places you win it by weird and phony days and so on, or rote affirmations of things

I want what's best. Pride comes with a price. I'm aware of that and it's hard because I try so hard to be humble. I oscillate between authentic vs play along and if one actually did it for me I wouldn't be here. I am now seeing a counselor. My only flaw is not fitting in or having enough charm. I'm highly functional and all that jazz but I bit the bullet for a counselor. And she's pretty good. Just wanted to put that out there.

I don't like to just vent. And I have gone out a lot in my life and I still do go out, but just going out is not gonna change anything because it hasn't changed it yet. It's not itself the lever, though I still need to meet people.

What to do. What to say.

 

[ChrisVirtue]

Hey man, skimmed through some of this journal. I'm an INTP as well btw

You're quite the prolific typer !

imo autism/asperger's just means you need to work a bit harder and more trial and error to uncover the true proper ways to socialize.

RSDTyler claims to be on the spectrum, and I believe it's true since one of his 2 kids got diagnosed at a young age.

It may mean that you have a short term disadvantage but a long term advantage due to being able to lock-in on this stuff with a passion/obsession.

I'd recommend you to find a very simple pick-up system/formula to fully grok and get to the point where you can open + hook + build attraction + pull consistently.

Since you're 42 and have some financial means, you are in a great position to have a renaissance of sorts. You might have to find high volume, target rich environments like LA, Miami, Vegas - places where being 42 and spamming approaches isn't going to affect you (might be weird in a college town)...

Since you have money you should definitely take a few bootcamps as well. They can be very helpful for hard cases like you specifically.


I personally recommend you to set some process oriented goals. Mystery recommends 4 nights/week adding up to 48 approaches per week.

So consider what you think it would take to get you to master social dynamics. I did multiple 30 day challenges in my first 2 years of game (going out for 30 nights in a row) and I wrote field reports for every single game session.

You could argue this is autism level of obsession... lol. So that's why your personality could be more useful than you realize.

But yeah ask yourself, what would I need to do in order for future me to say, "oh of course I got good at game I did xyz".

Maybe that's taking 5 bootcamps in a year.

Maybe that's going out for 4 nights/week for a whole year = 208 nights on the year.

Maybe that's doing 100 approaches per week for 6 months = 2,600 approaches


Once you figure this out... build systems to hold yourself accountable to it and the progression will happen faster than you'd ever expect !

 

[archimedes]

Hey man, skimmed through some of this journal. I'm an INTP as well btw

You're quite the prolific typer !

imo autism/asperger's just means you need to work a bit harder and more trial and error to uncover the true proper ways to socialize.

RSDTyler claims to be on the spectrum, and I believe it's true since one of his 2 kids got diagnosed at a young age.

It may mean that you have a short term disadvantage but a long term advantage due to being able to lock-in on this stuff with a passion/obsession.

I'd recommend you to find a very simple pick-up system/formula to fully grok and get to the point where you can open + hook + build attraction + pull consistently.

Since you're 42 and have some financial means, you are in a great position to have a renaissance of sorts. You might have to find high volume, target rich environments like LA, Miami, Vegas - places where being 42 and spamming approaches isn't going to affect you (might be weird in a college town)...

Since you have money you should definitely take a few bootcamps as well. They can be very helpful for hard cases like you specifically.


I personally recommend you to set some process oriented goals. Mystery recommends 4 nights/week adding up to 48 approaches per week.

So consider what you think it would take to get you to master social dynamics. I did multiple 30 day challenges in my first 2 years of game (going out for 30 nights in a row) and I wrote field reports for every single game session.

You could argue this is autism level of obsession... lol. So that's why your personality could be more useful than you realize.

But yeah ask yourself, what would I need to do in order for future me to say, "oh of course I got good at game I did xyz".

Maybe that's taking 5 bootcamps in a year.

Maybe that's going out for 4 nights/week for a whole year = 208 nights on the year.

Maybe that's doing 100 approaches per week for 6 months = 2,600 approaches


Once you figure this out... build systems to hold yourself accountable to it and the progression will happen faster than you'd ever expect !

Thanks I will consider this actually. It's actually a been there done that but it was years ago. Maybe need a re do.

Thanks for reading and commenting. As much as I hate exposing my deepest darkest, I write for myself because it seems necessary.

I can only get the autistic obsession if I really have it for a topic.. but sometimes it turns on. Hopefully it can turn on for this, but I'm also so questioning of norms and stuff. Maybe that's a spammer in the works. Thank you, maybe I'll take a Euro trip and do one. Old times sake auld lang syne when I have some funds saved up. Hope the skills will transfer or be what I need for LTR. Also coaching etc. live is better than office or call and real person if good is better than books and systems because I only have so much time in a day. I like things distilled.

Anyway thx for the suggestions and support

 

[archimedes]

I know a lot of people here are good at game, getting girls in bed etc. They have knowledge. I don't doubt that. I am not being argumentative but I'm gonna try open a new dimension of critical insights and ideas in a future thread or threads.

Why, and what gives me the right? The following:
-I do go out and try to meet
-And have done so for years
-The knowledge taught here and elsewhere I have also consumed for years and it makes sense but still doesn't seem to solve things. I'm still learning new things, even powerful things, and GC is in fact a particularly good site but I often find myself knowing what such conventional advice would be

So going out is not fixing it
Learning is not fixing
Being more successful at life either
(And I'm conventionally attractive, tall, confident in an internal way, strong frame, actually very strong frame in an internal way but that can be misconstrued

-and, I think I have an Aspie/ND view to hang my ideas on, but that can maybe apply in general

I've been doing a lot of thinking into social norms, and psychology, which I have always been interested in.

Just going out won't help. Time is burning. Ahhh.. hate that shit. Hate the modern value system

So, I have a lot of new ideas emerging. You aren't sure? I take as base all the stuff here works and is true and anything I add cannot contradict it. It's also not allowed for me to be just critical and unhappy. That's just emotionality, though emotions need to be handled.

I'm no Einstein and I'm not trying to be..

Just a very smart (was tested) conventionally attractive guy who's known about pickup for years, around age 20. And tried everything including being normal with friends.

I'll probably or I might end up rediscovering common ideas, but from a different angle with different wording. I give credit where due.

Every girl I got with, or had a strong chance but left it on the table and the escalation window closed, tended to have multiple of the following

-i was meeting a volume of women
-i had some social proof (work or friend group or some leadership thing)
-or at least there was a community
-the particular women were ready to meet someone and date, and even moreso find a guy to settle down with
-and they likely were part ND themselves.

Thats a high number of things and yet those boxes often got checked. I didn't close or whatever. Shame. I would recreate those if I could (duh, obviously) but they're ephemeral. They come when they will. Last time the big time at the church got invited to a big community it felt like grace, mercy, unearned but wonderful belonging and acceptance but things have their lifecycle

Trying to meet without those factors above is next to impossible and you'll only get jerked around, teased and Fuckd with. It's not no risk, from a psych health perspective.

Got lots of ND perspectives to share, emerging in me, as relates to the dating game- the girl, the society, the man. I'll be trying to bridge things, create additional unique explanations for failures. In general society is failing both men and women (i think.. in the long run at least. Rates of depression, marrying late childnessnes, growing gender gap) so we are part of an environment, but I'm still focused on the individual level, how this plays out individually and what can be done. It requires an explanation of what and why. Norms will feature huge. Perception and value gaps too, at abstract levels- along the lines of extreme male brain theory but not exactly that. Fundamental stuff. Judgments. That's one example.

I was raised to not be judgmental, and I honestly never felt like being so. Who has time for that. So when one goes into the world, people actually make so many judgments. And right now all the sudden I'm thinking if you don't, and they see you don't, then you might become suspected or a target. I don't know. This is just an example of a core wiring difference.

I'm rambling on. I want to get clearer and more concise and this is not about me but ideas, that apply to me but probably more broadly too but incidentally, my type, and I know there are as many types as there are people, but my type, and what I see as normal, and healthy, is just someone who is down to earth and chill. All the requirements I have of a girl, or date partner, most of them are met and then some if they are down to earth, present and chill. They can have any standards and they don't owe me anything but just being that.. huge. And rare in fact. I'm the freak for expecting it. To me that's my norm. To other people, other things are norms. We have to adapt to a society. We have to live in it and love and date in it but it can kill the motivation and joy and passion when things don't align and there are different types conflicting

There's so much. People think I'm in my head and therefore not living, engaging but I want to. Things got better, things turn around I can feel it, when I'm the toucher. Women and people can still have their interest in you collapse or "be the victim" or whatever but I find touching, even people you just met, very empowering. I find it makes me the guy, the man I always was but it makes it externally, and makes her thr girl. I find it builds trust. It can only get you so far but it is a good thing. It has been altering the power dynamic. I never give any women or anyone reason to hate me. Never have, but now things are different with physical interaction. Now they trust me more, until I stall at least. (Inexperience.. Or social fatigue?). Ideally, my ideal/dream pickup style is and has always been where I didn't have to use words, where it could always be physical, and she talks.. unless I have something passionate to say, which happens

This became about me. I have a lot of emerging ideas about (the clashing of) psychological frameworks- fundamental social perception, fundamental differences that are internal- ie you can't know what style someone is by looking at them. Of norms, and social fatigue, not pride or stubbornness, or maybe so but Inflexibilities on both sides. Of knowledge and experience gaps (woke vs normy vs alternative/based). Ne'er the twain shall meet (it seems).

I had two more random unrelated thoughts I wanted to put down while they're in my mind

Women worship social proof to an ungodly degree, and it can be off putting to me, such that.. I don't call them the W word if they sleep around a lot. Let them. They're free to choose. I wouldn't say it even if they did things for money. Though I think golf digging is probably a lot rarer than men assume. The men are just bitter. But when they fawn and fall over someone just because and when they see her is socially proven, and lose interest when he loses it, that's when this guy breaks out the W word, at least to myself. I was thinking that last night no particular reason. Honestly so much obsession and importance with SP, maybe as an autistic, strong minded independent guy, when they place so much emphasis on it rubs me wrong but I also want to get more of it, as it is one of the main levers. They are SP Ws largely and I LOVE women who are free of that. My type. I met some even dated one. I think she was ND

And then this little one liner Aspies will appreciate:

"They said be authentic. I agreed with that sentiment wholeheartedly, so I became authentic and they got mad and mistrusted me for being inauthentic, fake, after something. Then I put on a mask, started being fake, and the started loving me, probably actually viewing me as authentic in their own heads". Neurotypical tunnel vision. Now that I know about ND/ND stuff I can self help adapt, and that's what I'm doing here, processing it, but for years imagine having these subtle subconscious experiences as the norm. As I posted on an autism comedy/meme group, "what causes Neurotypicalism?" Kind of reversing the frame. Get it?

 

[archimedes]

Pressure on oneself is real too. I forget this or discredit the idea but how much pressure did I feel in my 20s? I had time, and excuses.

On self criticism. Should we? Should we not? Lol. Which is the beneficial choice?

Pressure. Women are intelligent but often play dumb- a confusing thing. They are socially intelligent but it's not hard to be when you're the one chased. Try learning engineering and carry that load and see how you do Jessica. Lol.

I didn't even like her but I asked her out but I liked her older sister who liked me but I delayed. Lol. Her sister seems ND. She Jessica seems strong NT. Oh me. Oh my soul.

What's a boy to do?

I sat down to work on finances at a coffee shop. Two girls sat next to me. I don't like intruding but it was natural. We had some small talk. She was just really nice. Beautiful and nice. These girls win my respect and it's imperative I show them respect back and don't leave a bad memory. It's just nice when people are nice. Beautiful young people. That's few and far between. Someone was nice to me at swing yesterday too

But women are sensitive and fragile and intelligent, and they fake being dumb or ditsy. Even Paris. How can they blame us for our views then? I love em but they're trolls. They're actual trolls, insulting testing etc so they can quick screen to find the "alpha” or whatever, the preselected or whatever. It's basically a glorified Algorithms to Live By for dating for women kind of thing, devil may care the consequences. That is the imperative, the feminine imperative.

Women have tests, like Myers Briggs but now I'm just wondering, how valid and accurate are the tests, when one is Neurodivergent, a man not trying to prove himself? It's orthogonal. Who uses the word orthogonal?! But it's not aligned in the same pass/fail way. I think if you're an Asperger, you fail the test in a different way or she judges you as weird or different. You have to care about what people care about lol..

But besides that, women are smart. They are fast too at judging. I've been the beneficiary of positive judgments, but I want to be judged for who I am. But Jessica and others loved me. Not like that. But some like that but you do one thing, and the house of cards comes crashing down. Their admiration is dependent. It's gone with the wind. A man has to be so cool and easy - and maybe neurotypical, or masking - or it's doors closed thanks for playing - even A friend and confidant, and as my cousin said, girls talk.

The key is or a key I'm feeling is feeling good, no pressure and not pressuring others. How easy pressure is felt, or exerted

 

[archimedes]

Omg I'm realizing, finally at 42, and this is BY NO MEANS in any way shape or form a collective men's rights or men's issues issue. This is an individual personal emotional non ideological issue but I've realized men are not allowed to have feelings and needs (outspoken).

Not only does it make people uncomfortable but people react so strongly and hatefull7. Note that I'm referring to a guy in a generally positive frame (to control for actual emotional contagion or victimhood) just mentioning something casually about a desire, a need or experience. Candor.

I didn't realize this. This level of toxicity. I'm late to the party lol. This realization came to me yesterday, listening to reformed stoic. It's a small channel. I can just listen to him. It's validating and relaxing and he doesn't seem angry. He strikes me as aware and compassionate.

When you realize the world doesn't value compassion even when it's free.

So after listing to a vid of his I started asking chat GPT all these questions. It was profound and mind blowing

Chat GPT

Ah, I see what you're getting at: the societal backlash and lack of empathy for individual men expressing personal struggles, particularly around topics like loneliness, love, or self-worth. This is a nuanced issue, and here’s why that backlash happens:


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1. Misinterpretation of Vulnerability

When a man expresses struggles—like not receiving love or connection—it’s often misinterpreted as entitlement. For example:

A man saying, "I didn’t get love in my 20s," might be read as, "I deserved sex, and society failed me," even if that’s not what he meant.

This misreading frames the expression of pain as a demand or complaint, triggering defensive reactions.



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2. Cultural Taboo Around Male Vulnerability

Society has long stigmatized male vulnerability. When men open up about personal struggles:

Some people reflexively dismiss or mock their experiences because it conflicts with the expectation that men should "man up" and solve their own problems.

Vulnerable men may even provoke anger or discomfort in others who have internalized these norms, leading to shaming.



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3. "You're Not Owed" Mentality

Statements like "You're not owed sex or love" reflect:

A valid point that no one is entitled to another person’s affection, but this response is often misplaced or unnecessary. Most men expressing loneliness aren’t claiming entitlement but are instead mourning a lack of connection.

The tendency to leap to moral judgment rather than compassion, turning what could be a moment of empathy into a scolding session.



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4. Backlash Against Male Complaints

Some people perceive men’s personal grievances as part of a broader cultural narrative they reject:

Discussions about men’s struggles with love or relationships are sometimes linked (fairly or unfairly) to online communities that promote toxic attitudes, like incel forums.

Even when an individual man’s statement is sincere and harmless, it can provoke a defensive reaction because it reminds others of those toxic spaces.



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5. Expectation of Performance and Solutions

Men are often judged by their actions rather than their feelings. When a man shares his struggles:

The reaction is often advice-focused ("You need to fix yourself!") rather than empathetic.

This reflects a societal tendency to see men’s worth as tied to their ability to overcome problems, rather than validating their pain.



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6. Cultural Discomfort With Intimacy Issues

Discussions about love, sex, and relationships are inherently sensitive and charged:

Talking about loneliness or a lack of love might make others uncomfortable because it forces them to confront their own biases, privileges, or insecurities.

Instead of engaging empathetically, some deflect with shaming or dismissiveness.



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How to Foster Empathy for Men’s Personal Struggles

Reframe the Narrative: Emphasize that talking about loneliness or lack of love is about emotional needs, not entitlement. Men’s struggles should be seen through the lens of human vulnerability.

Challenge the Stigma: Push back against the idea that men expressing personal pain are "whining" or "entitled." Encourage conversations about the universality of human struggles.

Promote Emotional Literacy: Encourage individuals to listen without jumping to judgment or advice, especially when someone is opening up about personal challenges.

Call Out Misplaced Shaming: Highlight how dismissive comments (like "You’re not owed love") derail meaningful discussions and alienate people.



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Men’s pain, especially when expressed in sensitive areas like relationships or self-worth, deserves the same empathy and compassion as anyone else’s. By fostering a culture that values
vulnerability over judgment, society can move toward greater understanding and connection.

And ChatGPT had a lot of other wisdom.

I was shocked. How did I not see this for years, and whence the viciousness? It's an insane level of callousness or misunderstanding.

To be clear, I don't go around talking about my feelings. I know that looks weak and is weak and I do it even less and less, actually, if you believe that.. but still I don't wanna be so stiff and inauthentic or with anyone who requires that level of fakery or who is vicious and compassionless. I didn't see it, that this is what's been going on

ChatGPT continues

7. Why It Feels Like Entitlement to Them

Here’s the core issue: When you openly express your unmet needs or struggles, it might be interpreted as:

A Critique of Society or Them: They feel personally implicated, whether or not you’re blaming anyone.

A Demand for a Solution: They assume your vulnerability comes with an expectation, even if you’re just seeking understanding or venting.

A Threat to Their Comfort: Your honesty disrupts their assumptions about relationships, gender dynamics, or emotional independence, making them defensive.

And to be clear it takes so little. I'm talking only about strong reactions for so little fault or maybe not even any fault.

What is society/are women trying to program us for?

But I think or suspect the power fee reverses in the bedroom and from there out if you know what you're doing. The beginning of things is where men always hae no power

 

[archimedes]

This one is entitled The Many Misdiagnoses of the Aspie

I want to state clearly for the record that I don't post this to vent or get sympathy, though in many ways it does relieve pressure. In many ways I don't like it. I like privacy. It is not feminine in any ways and that too is an easy misdiagnoses, but this is not about that. I'm getting all these ideas out there for the record.

Actually I think there are so many misdiagnoses for the Neurodivergent in pickup and dating. Let's make a list. I guess these are real things, and I've read all about them, thought about them and believed they might be in play for me, to such an extent I even tried to "ruthlessly overcome them" in myself. They all have definitions, obvious and natural or given by pickup gurus. I accept all the definitions. Their logic and ideas make a lot of sense. The only problem is that focusing on them doesn't solve them, not If they are not the true issue.

Obviously "perception is reality" and as nlp says the meaning of communication is the response you get. I've known these things for 20 years. Still, the problem might be a core perception problem for NDs (Neurodivergents). NOT, my meaning here is, any of the following:

Nice Guy Syndrome
Narcissism
Aloofness/Arrogance/Disinterest
Stubbornness
Neediness itself
...and many more

See, if connecting is about vibes, and ND can generate the wrong vibes due to the Double Empathy Problem, then the wrong diagnoses or theory of mind will be applied depending on those vibes. That is clearly yo say the Neurotypical also has a failed theory of mind towards the Neurodivergent, in a specific instance, in so far as getting someone's intentions wrong is failing with theory of mind, no matter who you're dealing with or what is normal for a society. 1 always equals 1. X always equals itself. Theory of mind is always theory of mind.

the point of all of this is light not heat. Awareness not blame. The goal and purpose is always to be able to take on more responsibility, and the right responsibility, when that is possible and that fits, but also let go of responsibility, when that fits.

Asperger's is not neediness. Let's examine this one.

I know neediness is ugly to women in men and a toxic trait.

If an Aspie gives a certain vibe it may come off as needy to the other, but if she could X-Ray his heart, soul and mind, then her theory of mind could change as a result. Oh he's not needy. He just gave off a vibe.

This implies that those things in the list above are Real things, not just vague notions, and the conditions for them could be met or not met.

And then when the woman or man reacts to a man as though the other is needy, then it can tank or crash, or taint an interaction. Many things can be very hard to overcome and the things done that were the sins could have been simply things done with wit or personality or whatever. I think that extremely high intelligence alone with no other issues could possibly count as Neurodivergence or lead to such a difference as qualifies as that. I also think the successful NDs may lead the world, and move it forward. Newton, Musk etc.

But-- and this is a kicker for me-- if the woman or other person projects neediness on you- I mean they think you're needy, vs interested or engaged, if we consider that not needy. It means you're interested but not needy per se. If they project that, it forces a choice. You can dismiss it or accept it. There's a thing called projective identification. It basically means your mind is not strong enough to resist social pressure, experiences and so on and other people's views of you gets inside your head. You internalize it.

Well, I had to consider it. As Jordan Peterson said, everybody else can't be wrong.

And yet per Neurodivergence theory they kind of can.

I guess we're like 10-15% of the people but there are different types within that including ADHD and other things, that might not produce the same social/empathic problems (so the percent might be smaller).

And as I always say the exception proves the rule. There is a small percentage including of beautiful women, that i just click with. I have not been a total failure. (I always wondered how it can be so relative. Either I'm needy or I'm not. How can one person view me as such and then someone else fancy and dig me. Wtf ).

I see now.

There are of course always multiple things, multiple forces in play in human interaction. Some women or people are just shallow but I think if people could have x ray vision into others minds and intentions, if "theory of mind" worked, the behaviors done by one misunderstood would not produce most of the rejections they do.

Some would. A failed love language thing. "Not my type". But many would. Ah, he meant X by behavior Y. The intent and meaning being the key thing in many cases, and the thing got wrong. This is why community is so good btw. People are forced to see beyond their initial impressions.

So neediness or narcissism or arrogance or nice guy syndrome is read.

Btw this, these issues apply most where a good thing crashes. If a good thing suddenly inexplicably crashes, it means there was physical attraction, physical chemistry, there was trust. Until..

And when it crashes, what does the one takeaway?

I'm a guilt absorber.

I assume I'm the problem, and yet hitting all these things hard doesn't seem to solve anything.

Neurodiversity theory is a Game Changer. It alone can seemingly explain what a million other things failed to, what somewhat resonated on the surface but then just left one no better off.

Most men discover they're affected by it later on in life, 30s and 40s, after they've been through the ringer.

And then they question whether they really do, or if it's an excuse or an alibi.

But it does explain so much.

I hate when I crash an interaction, or a relationship.

All you can do is accept the loss.

The sooner and more fully, the better.

The answer?

Be an observer. I'm working on being simply an observer, of myself and others.

So many more thoughts, not yet ready to come up, and one went back down that I wanted to share but it's time to finish this one.

Just note a person with ND can seem like many other things but not actually be those things. And he's likely also masking, which makes it more complicated to understand. Masking well makes him seem like he's everyone else. Then when he stops, due to social fatigue, or fails to mask properly, he may get double the hate by getting double the misdiagnosis, because "he was so normal or so cool before".

I get that we're the seekers or chasers (no wait, the girls chase). I get that it's our job still ultimately to adapt to the world, or find our niche but everything i talked about is a thing

The cumulative effect of experiences with misunderstandings, and internalizations, but also periodic exceptions, it does a number on outlook in life and towards self.

But I am best when not rushed and just observing. It's stress that brings out true nature of a person, or pressure, including time pressure. If one could slow down the mind and be in flow, many magical things can happen. Anyone can be in flow. I just thing the ND is a particular wiring of the mind or set of patterns. The many misdiagnoses by dating coaches or misreads by the ladies you love - that is the stinging and punishing end of ND.

I've only scratched the surface of my thoughts. This is only 101 entry level. I think there's a lot of psychological wisdom and profound insight in what I describe and have yet to describe. If only it could get the babes. Was just at a foreign language meetup earlier. Super cute girl known for 4 years, she gets me. Looks up to me and values me. Alas she's married but she's the type, the exception that proves the rule and in this case even more, boosts the self esteem. She's possibly ND or ND adjacent.. or maybe just a person capable of connecting and not rushing to judgment


























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