I'm Just Not Feeling It Anymore

[Richard]

Yo guys,

I don't know what it is - but I just don't feel it anymore. I've been approaching women and just none of them are getting my interest at all - I don't even feel like having sex to be quite honest.

I've been feeling more lethargic with women as well, and more lethargic in general... no interest in girls, don't (well rather can't) have a huge social circle, and there's not much to do besides meet new chicks and I'm not feeling that anymore.

Life seems pretty mundane and I can't seem to get past this...

Any thoughts fellas?

 

[Stewie]

One question: what is you passion?

By this I mean what is your life goal? What is the one thing that you want to die knowing that you started if not accomplished. For me what I realized is that I want to be a great physician. One who can impact undeserved communities and show them the importance of good health, both mental and physical.

Part of being a great physician is being a great man, and in my opinion being a great man is being a lover of people, especially women. Always wanting to bring positivity and value to each new interaction. That's why I study the social science; yeah picking up women is great, and knowing that I can get almost any women so long as I continuously better myself is also great, but, as you have now realized, it gets pretty mundane. So I study for me, to better my mindset, my life, and the eventual impacts that I will have on society.

I strongly would suggest finding your passion, and devoting yourself to it. Getting women is great, but what is even better is knowing that you are a great man who just so happens to be great with women because of how great he is . Hit me up if you ever wanna chat because this is something I thought about strongly.

r4l

 

[Eternity]

@Zphinx- Been feeling the same for a while... Maybe it's a phase, I had thoughts of just "retiring" from seduction/the boards these past months, but idk maybe/ maybe not? Whatever you decide I'm sure it will be for the best.

 

[Richard]

R4L,

I was mad at your reply at first lol but then I realized that you haven't been on the site long enough to see all my posts from the past.

My passion is in helping people: hence my decision to become a private practice therapist, and motivational speaker and that's what I dedicate myself to - helping others which is also why I'm so active on the boards because I know that my advice is helping other guys with a problem I faced.

In a way you've taken my position/view because I'm usually the one telling guys to find out what their passion is in (and people in general), what their values are, and where there lives should be heading because I see so many people with careers, jobs, or lives that they absolutely hate and I can't stand to see that in people.

 

[PinotNoir]

Do you workout/exercise at all? If not, your testosterone levels could have dropped, etc.; you just need to get the blood flowing. I don't know your age, but that could also be a factor. Between 13-18, you're like a raging bull, and then after, you can feel a drop. These are kind of your "spike" years.

Diet can be a factor as well, but I hear enough people say that with so many different diets that I'm thinking that it's bullshit haha.

Lastly, maybe you just need to try harder-to-get women. It's become too easy and has lost its fun. Maybe you just need to challenge yourself a bit more.

 

[Thedoctor]

There's a good chance it has to do with this:
viewtopic.php?f=8&t=6639&p=30897#p30897

Something like that can drain your enthusiasm from all aspects of your life.

Just a thought,
-John

 

[Stewie]

my bad dude LOL, yeah I usually come on the boards when there are situations that I really need some outside perspectives on. Otherwise I got shit to do and people to meet . My apologies. Either way, as some else noted it might have to do with your home situation.. As someone who grew up in an abusive household, let me tell you, that shit can suck that the life out of you, sooner or later you will have to make the decision of whether or not its worth distancing yourself partially or completely from your family. For me I cut all ties, and man has life been beautiful. Oh and the getting ass pretty much when I want doesn't hurt either

 

[Richard]

Thanks for the replies guys.

Besides the home situation, I miss having a girl to hold at night. FWB and ONS deals have never truly been my cup of tea, they're fun but it's not what drives me with women.

Sex for the physical pleasure only goes so far for me, and I'm wanting the emotional pleasure that comes with women. I'm laying in my bed right now on my phone writing this thinking about falling asleep holding a chick in my arms.

Pinot, With regards to age, I'm only 19, and exercise regularly, so I doubt that I'm having biochemical imbalances accounting for this.

Edit: With regards to my family (except mom and older brother), I'm cutting off my ties to them. But every day 3, months til, moving feels longer and longer fellas.

 

[Mr. oblivious]

Hey Zphix

is it maybe because its not a challenge for you anymore ?

Like you know if you approach a girl your almost definitely going to lay her so its becoming boring ?

My only tip would be to try set new goals even if they're not pick up related (from your works which i have read you are very advance at pick girls up) so maybe if you leave it and pursue other things you will start missing and almost crave getting back into it again.

I may be way off but from your blurb this is all i got

 

[Mr.Rob]

Sup Zphix long time no chat buddy.

I think I have to agree with Mr. Oblivious here. You're a gangster ass pimp when it comes to picking up and seducing women that you have no real challenges to overcome there (that I'm aware of at least). Like you said ONS and open relationships aren't really your deal. You're amazing at connecting with women and seem to be with relationships as well.

I'm laying in my bed right now on my phone writing this thinking about falling asleep holding a chick in my arms..

That kind of pokes out as what you want to me (LTR with a cool girl). I saw that post where you were talking about your less than ideal home situation. Don't you think when you get that sorted out and the stress that comes with it behind you (you'll have your own place I'm assuming, and further independence) you might feel a bit more vitality and motivation to meet enough women until you come across a girl that you really like and want a relationship with?

 

[Richard]

Rob, Oblivious,

I think it's the result of the stress I'm under every day - it wouldn't be so bad if there was anything to do out here besides pick up the scarce amount of hot chicks there are...

In thinking about it - because of my personality I really hate restrictions, laws, and rules. Anything that is meant to confine me really bothers me and I just noticed that I'm super confined in the area/house I'm in. So, the regular stress of being in this house is magnified to the quartic power =P (so this OVER 9000 stress I'm dealing with is actually around... 6,561,000,000,000,000 which is enough to kill a mentally retarded gorilla on steroids... and that's the equivalent of 15 people).

PLEASE TELL ME SOMEONE got the two references I just made....

Anyway, it takes a lot of effort on my part to be at least content with dealing with this - and the only times I feel genuinely happy now are when I'm at the pool table.

Ohhh how things are weighing on my mind...

 

[Franco]

Richard,

I think almost all of this will change once you move out and live on your own in college. The college life is so different from anything you've experienced so far, and it'll give you a whole new way to live your life -- boredom and insufficient interest will go out the window.

I would also look into rushing a social fraternity if your college has them. They do a lot of philanthropy events and things to give back to the community (and help people, which you like to do) aside from the partying and meeting women, so they can keep you very busy while still enjoying all of the things you already love to do. You just need to find the one that's right for you, and the best way to do that is to just talk to the guys at the booths during rush week and see which ones have a vibe that is most similar to your own.

Aside from that, you might want another hobby aside from picking up women. It helps when you have multiple hobbies that you can alternate between so that you don't feel like you're just "worn out" with nothing to do when you don't feel like doing one of them.

That's the best advice I can give ya!

EDIT: I totally got the reference.

- Franco

 

[Zoro]

Z,

I just want to say you are not alone, I'm dealing with similar confinement issues. Living in a suburb during the winter is painful.

We should be moving out around the same time, so it'll be interesting to have someone to share that experience with...

Here's to new beginnings and the challenges to get there!

Also, you may get into the habit of telling yourself "I CAN"T TAKE IT ANYMORE"

I know it may be difficult, but you can take it, I believe in you. You just have to too. (I've been reading introduction to NLP and highly recommend it.)

To play off your reference, I think I heard somewhere that the closer to death a saiyan warrior comes, the stronger he comes back.

 

[Mr. oblivious]

PLEASE TELL ME SOMEONE got the two references I just made....

Got the dragonball Z reference thats all

 

[[GC]Jay]

Yo guys,

I don't know what it is - but I just don't feel it anymore. I've been approaching women and just none of them are getting my interest at all - I don't even feel like having sex to be quite honest.

I've been feeling more lethargic with women as well, and more lethargic in general... no interest in girls, don't (well rather can't) have a huge social circle, and there's not much to do besides meet new chicks and I'm not feeling that anymore.

Life seems pretty mundane and I can't seem to get past this...

Any thoughts fellas?

You should be grateful that you have passed the stage of newbiness and maybe retiring soon but that doesn't mean that you stop meeting new people. I still hope to this days that there will be a web download straight out of your brain so I can get it to mine.

or maybe...you simply not feeling it today, maybe tomorrow or maybe next year. It's like Pizza (or whatever your favorite food you prefer) at first taste - it's great, second - better, third - not so much, fourth - I don't feel it anymore, fifth - yuck. If you know what I mean...so it's like that, you feel good today and tomorrow you don't have it.

 

[Richard]

Guys,

I appreciate the feedback and I'm quite sure that when I move things are going to look up a lot - and I'll be back to my seductive self (unless Tool tries to put a ring on my finger... and he probably will try ).

What I really think it comes down to is that I want a relationship again and can't have one that will last - I've noticed that my pattern is like sleep with 4-6 girls then find a relationship, relationship ends, 4-6 girls then a new relationship... Well... I've slept with 4-6 girls since my last ex and guess what that means....

Anyway, I'm not really caring about sex right now either --- to the point where I gave up a really easy lay last night when I was driving a friend to her cousins at 1 in the morning... This girl basically told me she was horny, needed some "attention" and I just drove.

You should be grateful that you have passed the stage of newbiness and maybe retiring soon but that doesn't mean that you stop meeting new people. I still hope to this days that there will be a web download straight out of your brain so I can get it to mine.

GC,

I hate being told how to feel about something and I hate telling people how they should feel - but, I'm not ungrateful that I've passed that newbiness stage, though gratitude isn't the right feeling because I had to work to pass it --- gratitude would be if someone did all my approaching and trial and error for me.

BUT! I'm not stopping meeting new people, when I mean I can't have a huge social circle it means that the population of people in my town (and surrounding towns)is full of gangbangers, hoodlums, thugs, and generally low quality people. Hot chicks aren't exactly common like they are in other areas of the world or the States. There is an insanely low percentage of people that I could form any relationship with (whether that be acquaintance, friend, girlfriend, fuck buddy, FWB, etc.). It's not that I don't like meeting new people it's that there are very few people I actually want to meet.

As far as downloading my brain database... well... give neuropsychology, and neuroscience a couple more years and I'll see what I can do

 

[Whizzy]

I feel like there was a movie just out about downloading someone's thoughts/brain onto the web...oh no it was you!!!!!!!!!!

 

[sneaky_charm]

Hey Richard, I know it sounds pretty lame, but what about taking a few days off? Maybe go snorkeling or skydiving? Or maybe fly to another country and return fresh? I know it won't help on the core, but still some relaxation time to appreciate the vast possibilities of life!

- Kevin

 

[Richard]

Hey Richard, I know it sounds pretty lame, but what about taking a few days off? Maybe go snorkeling or skydiving? Or maybe fly to another country and return fresh? I know it won't help on the core, but still some relaxation time to appreciate the vast possibilities of life!

- Kevin

Only 19 brah =P

But if I had the financial resources to do any of that... I definitely would, and it would probably be hang gliding or parasailing

Sneaky - tell me about some of your crazy experience in life.

-Richard

 

[sneaky_charm]

Holy Shit Richard! I never realized you were 19. Well I kinda remember reading you are young, but it never registered in my mind how young! Heck the level you are in right now is just too high for such an age.....kudos to you man! And nah bro, I don't have crazy experiences, don't have financial resources as of now. But definitely completing snorkeling within a year from now.....other things in list are skydiving, bungee jumping, roaming many countries, and some other such things. Hopefully some of those we'll do together someday, because bro I'm close to your age, just a bit older!

On a side note, do you think it could be that you have not done your main task for a few days. I've recently realized that when I ignore my core tasks, I feel shitty at the end of the day. Like if I don't cook or wash clothes or work continuously for a day or two, I feel really shitty. So if study is your core thing, or whatever else that is you NEED to do, but find it hard to, and you are not doing it for a few days properly, that may be the biggest reason why you are feeling that way. Girls are important, but as James Marshall, Chase, Adam Lyons and everyone else says, you have to be sure to keep everything else in track in the process.

So, if study is your main task, have you not studied for a few days? If it is some kind of work, have you not worked hard for a while?

- Kevin