SNV,
Please watch your tone. He was just trying to help you.
I can tell you from personal experience that approach anxiety 100% overlaps in both day game and night game. If you don't believe me, trying going to a Trader Joe's this weekend and approaching a cute girl to ask her for her number. I'd put my money down that you'd feel exactly the same anxiety, if not worse because it's not a social setting (AND you're probably sober).
As far as advice: One thing I've told guys to do in the past is to assume you are going to get blown out with the first 3 girls you approach. In other words, your first three approaches should be with the assumption that this is not a girl you will ever fuck or date. She is just a girl who is going to eject from you at some point in the conversation, and then you are going to move on with your life.
There is something about getting the first approach or two out of the way that reminds you that "life goes on and more beautiful women appear" after you eject (or get rejected) on a few approaches. You'll likely find that the next approaches you do will come much more quickly, as long as you do them within a reasonable timeframe after the first 1-3 approaches.
Hope this helps.
- Franco
SNV,
Please watch your tone. He was just trying to help you.
that's not the point.
he has no business giving advice on nightclubs when he does not go to nightclubs.
the #1 problem in online forums like this is the blind leading the blind.
KJ should always be called out.
I stand by what i said.
I will ignore all his posts in this thread as I have no use for advice from someone who does not do nightgame.
I can tell you from personal experience that approach anxiety 100% overlaps in both day game and night game. If you don't believe me, trying going to a Trader Joe's this weekend and approaching a cute girl to ask her for her number. I'd put my money down that you'd feel exactly the same anxiety, if not
worse because it's not a social setting (AND you're probably sober).
I've actually been experimenting with daygame a lot the past 4-5 days.
I do 100% indirect daygame and so far I've been able to do 2-4 approaches every time i go out and my daygame sessions are usually 2-3 hours long.
I will continue to experiment with daygame this upcoming week as well.
As far as advice: One thing I've told guys to do in the past is to
assume you are going to get blown out with the first 3 girls you approach. In other words, your first three approaches should be with the assumption that this is not a girl you will ever fuck or date. She is just a girl who is going to eject from you at some point in the conversation, and then you are going to move on with your life.
There is something about getting the first approach or two out of the way that reminds you that "life goes on and more beautiful women appear" after you eject (or get rejected) on a few approaches. You'll likely find that the next approaches you do will come much more quickly, as long as you do them within a reasonable timeframe after the first 1-3 approaches.
Right now I'm focusing 100% on ONLY approaching girls in nightclubs who show interest in me.
I get enough girls who show interest that if I can just learn to seduce these girls i will not really ever need to do cold approaches.
Girls in nightclubs show interest in me by standing unnecessarily close to me or dancing unnecessarily close to me on the dancefloor; how do you suggest i talk to these girls?
Hope this helps.
- Franco
thank you for spending time trying to help me.
