Inner Game for Beginners.

[Water]

Trying to pull the easiest and correct concepts of inner game into a short and immediately applicable post for beginners on here.

Too many references to list, when it’s super specific I’ll give credit.



1. Self-image.
(from the book Psycho-Cybernetics by Maxwell Maltz)

We all have an internal representation of ourselves, and this is referred to as our “self-image.”

It comprises beliefs about what we are capable of and what we find impossible or difficult. We cannot, for the most part act in a way that contradicts our self-image.

Tips to improve your self-image:
— Meditation.
— Visualization exercises, close your eyes and picture yourself successfully pulling off what it is you want to be able to do. (like a successful opener where the girl just loves your company)
— Affirmations, mantras, words you repeat to yourself in a state of belief, to affect your subconscious mind. “I deserve to be happy” is one simple example.



2. Be Unreactive.

In general, the less reactive you are, the better. If you don’t know how to react in a way that is attractive or you’re surprised, then simply don’t react, act like whatever surprised you didn’t happen, the girl’s shit test, act like you didn’t hear it and continue on like nothing happened.

Tips:
— Act like nothing happened and continue like nothing happened.
— Hardest parts will be to not react through these 3 means: Your facial expression, your tonality, and your body language.



3. Avoid overreaching (aka trying to hard, actions outside of emotional context).

This concept was developed by Mr. M of Love Systems, when I met him we spoke about this in brief detail and he provided a different perspective on it.

Here’s the basic DEFINITION: Overreaching occurs when you do something to try to create an emotion in someone else that is beyond what you're actually feeling, or is out of context.

Tips:
— Do not do things for a specific reaction. — Try to avoid doing things to gain approval or to look cool.
— Reframe the situation as you being the prize and the girl as chasing you.



Hope this helps!

 

[bslagrinta]

Did you read Psycho-Cybernetics? What exercises did you do, and how long did it take you to change your self-image?

 

[Water]

Did you read Psycho-Cybernetics? What exercises did you do, and how long did it take you to change your self-image?

Yes, I’ve read it multiple times. I plan to read it again in the next month.

I don’t have the exercises memorized but I did try all of them, and stuck with the ones that helped.

I can’t say a time line, everyone’s different so my time line wouldn’t matter. I don’t remember how long it took, your self-image changes gradually usually, it’s hard to notice differences until its large, like not noticing yourself growing taller when you’re younger.

It is absolutely crucial you combine inner game exercises with consistent in field time and approaching.

 

[bslagrinta]

The thing of 21 days do you think it's true?

 

[Water]

The thing of 21 days do you think it's true?

I’m not sure what you’re referencing, it’s been a while since I read psycho-cybernetics.

21 days to build a new habit?

 

[TestY]

The book "The Cure" is about applying Maxwell Maltz' Psycho-Cybernetics to game. It's been discussed earlier, and there's some cool quotes:

I started visualizing for a half hour a day, and it as really tough at the beginning. Your brain just doesn't let you have it that easy. But day after day, I could visualize sharper, "feel" it more, and eventually I could see it in my mind. They talk about "mental movies", this was it. I would imagine me being good with girls, acting cool, talking to them, being in control, having fun, that irresistible smirk, slight cockiness.

I was noticing dramatic improvements in my results and within about 60 days, I would go out, and women would stare at me . Women would literally get nervous just taking to me. They just loved my new attitude. This was not normal for me. When I talked to women, they would give me signals to take them home almost without me doing anything. Girls were calling me several times a day

At first, these ideas will seem like a fantasy, but as you play with them they’ll soon turn into theory, and as you go over them some more, they’ll literally turn into fact.

@Karea Ricardus D. wrote about this as well, and applied Psycho-Cybernetics, Theron Q. Dumont and Tony Robbins to hone his "X-Factor". He has written some cool stuff about his results as well:

When I had X-Factor going, I even flipped red-light girls. I would approach, they would give massively negative body language and a few minutes later I had them interested and then got the lay. When you can flip red lights, then yellow light girls are doable quite consistently. Ideally come in with an indirect approach and don't trigger a decision on her part early on and then ratchet it up on a gradient.

I did both of them together today and it was un-REAL. Wham wham wham, EVERY hot girl I passed gave me MASSIVE AI. Just ridiculous. Totally STARING at me, six or seven hot girls in a row. It was like I saw a wave of energy pass through the subway in front of me hitting the girls and they were jolted. I mean holy shit, I got like goose bumps cause this NEVER happens. After that I lost that state again, I think it’s a matter of practicing this so much until eventually the self approving & extroverted state becomes the default state. Once I had lost the state, I went back to completely invisible to girls as I was walking around the subway, even when I proactively made eye contact with them, total ignore. Do you believe that?? Then... I was able to get back into it and got the AIs again. Unreal.

what the community considers game. I had no idea what it was and just labeled it the X-Factor and been searching for it ever since. Now I’m starting to see how this kind of stuff can be consistent eventually. ... Take care man, -Karea, 2011.

...

I still get a lot of AIs, and I used to be totally invisible to girls unless I created social proof first.
Another benefit: I don’t need warmup sets anymore, I don’t have and hardly any AA (there is some on the first
sets but it’s so manageable that there’s no way it would stop me from approaching).

On another note, I just had another three lays in a row. And then another three. I just do my thing now and get laid. No more sticking points to be found anywhere.

 

[Water]

The book "The Cure" is about applying Maxwell Maltz' Psycho-Cybernetics to game. It's been discussed earlier, and there's some cool quotes:





@Karea Ricardus D. wrote about this as well, and applied Psycho-Cybernetics, Theron Q. Dumont and Tony Robbins to hone his "X-Factor". He has written some cool stuff about his results as well:





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Thanks for sharing this! That was helpful for me too.

I’ve discussed seduction extensively with Karea, his X-factor post is his masterpiece, and it is a masterpiece.

He’s been one of the most influential figures in the evolution of my game since we met in 2009-2010.

 

[Spyce D]

Not trying to de-rail the thread but do you know how can someone apply psycho-cybernetics to overcome emotional dependency issues .

I kinda of have them. Before game, it was with cigarettes ... Then it became with women.

Even though , on intellectual level I know this but sometimes it ends up ruining my relationships, friendships.

 

[Water]

Not trying to de-rail the thread but do you know how can someone apply psycho-cybernetics to overcome emotional dependency issues .

I kinda of have them. Before game, it was with cigarettes ... Then it became with women.

Even though , on intellectual level I know this but sometimes it ends up ruining my relationships, friendships.

Can you be more specific about what issues and details about what is problematic?

 

[Spyce D]

Can you be more specific about what issues and details about what is problematic?

The thing is I end up being dependent on the chicks I meet , whether through daygame or social circle to transform me into a better man.

I work hard on being a man who is of value and worth and even when I had times of abundance, there is a fear of being left alone and that would make me do mistakes like not being aggressive with women, not leading them and that would make them leave me.

It's become a toxic cycle, kinda.

I have worked on my inner issues for many years but It seems like if there is this lack of self belief that has always been there.

I would always action but there would always be some critical times, where I would just give up and would go back to my " loser" version. ( Guy who smokes, drinks, doesn't exercise, isn't good with his parents and brother, doesn't go out to meet women and doesn't focus on his career)



It seems like I am lamenting and I apologise for that.

If there is a way to use psycho-cybernetics for the critical moments ( where it's do or die situations) , I would be really thankful.

 

[TestY]

Psycho-Cybernetics uses visualization exercises to improve your self-image. This includes developing positive assumptions about social interaction, but also self-reliance and courage. The exercises are similar to the ones found in Stoic character development. Which also uses viusalization to improve one's character. In the Stoic philosophy, life is seen as a test, moulding you to become stronger. There are four cardinal virtues, of which one is courage and handling hardship. Self-reliance and independence are key virtues of this tradition.

So my recommendation would be to read Psycho-Cybernetics, and see that it actually targets the issues you mention. And from there, to expand into Stoicism and the tradition of Classical manliness.

 

[Water]

The thing is I end up being dependent on the chicks I meet , whether through daygame or social circle to transform me into a better man.

I work hard on being a man who is of value and worth and even when I had times of abundance, there is a fear of being left alone and that would make me do mistakes like not being aggressive with women, not leading them and that would make them leave me.

It's become a toxic cycle, kinda.

I have worked on my inner issues for many years but It seems like if there is this lack of self belief that has always been there.

I would always action but there would always be some critical times, where I would just give up and would go back to my " loser" version. ( Guy who smokes, drinks, doesn't exercise, isn't good with his parents and brother, doesn't go out to meet women and doesn't focus on his career)



It seems like I am lamenting and I apologise for that.

If there is a way to use psycho-cybernetics for the critical moments ( where it's do or die situations) , I would be really thankful.

It depends on how deep your problems are and the reasons behind it, or the source. If you’re just kind of insecure and it brings up bad behaviors, that’s an easier issue to resolve. If you had a traumatic childhood that led to this, the answer becomes more complex.

I recommend psycho-cybernetics and its visualization exercises as well as understanding the mechanisms behind self-image, so do read the entire book.

The book The Passion Trap will give you advice about becoming too emotionally attached and acting needy, and also helps you understand why you act that way.

The book The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem is great for working on your feelings of worthiness, use this book along with the exercises in psycho-cybernetics.

If these don’t help you make significant progress, you may want to look into professional help, like a qualified therapist. Not every problem can be solved by will power and self help books alone at home.

 

[TestY]

It depends on how deep your problems are and the reasons behind it, or the source. If you’re just kind of insecure and it brings up bad behaviors, that’s an easier issue to resolve. If you had a traumatic childhood that led to this, the answer becomes more complex.

I recommend psycho-cybernetics and its visualization exercises as well as understanding the mechanisms behind self-image, so do read the entire book.

The book The Passion Trap will give you advice about becoming too emotionally attached and acting needy, and also helps you understand why you act that way.

The book The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem is great for working on your feelings of worthiness, use this book along with the exercises in psycho-cybernetics.

If these don’t help you make significant progress, you may want to look into professional help, like a qualified therapist. Not every problem can be solved by will power and self help books alone at home.

Indeed. Old RSD-Forum member Macavity posted a megapost back in 2016 on overcoming emotional issues. In it, he discerns between "removing the bad", and "adding in the good". He recommends to combine the approaches, and mentions books like John Bradshaw's "Healing the shame that binds you". In my opinion, one of the best ways of "removing the bad" is to apply Eckhart Tolle's teachings on healing the pain-body. Former RSD-coach Julien Blanc has made a 1 year program of Tolle's meditations in his "Transformation mastery". Combined with teachings on "adding in the good" (Tony Robbins, Maxwell Maltz), one has a powerful approach.

 

[Spyce D]

@Water @TestY

Thankyou for your replies. So, I decided to revisit the concepts of the book and in the end, the only conclusion came was that I need to keep on going back to those situations where these thoughts trigger. Situations i.e. when I am near the finish line of the goals, situations where I have a choice to either give up or go for the kill. ( With nuance ofc)

And to gain victories, only then I will be able to solve these issues. That's what I have realised.

Will update.