Introduction+Newbie assignment.

[Draken]

Hi,

A little bit of background at the beginning:
- 28 y old, living in one of the most beautiful cities in Europe, Prague.
- I was heavily overweight from the age of 11, but I was always a funny person and knew how to hold a conversation.
- First serious relationship that started at 18, lasted 2,5 years, crippled me emotionally when It ended.
- after two years I had one summer fling because the girl was super into me. She wanted a relationship and I wanted FWB arrangement, didn't work out, I ended it and I kind of broke her with that I guess
- after that I had a pause for ... yeah, almost 6 years.
- then I moved to Prague, started working out, eating healthy and worked on what is described here as "fundamentals" without really knowing about it.
- I managed to lay 2 more girls during this year, but both were super into me and both wanted a relationship while I am purely interested in sex.

I now am at a point where I feel like I am in my own mental prison -> I get regular compliments from random people about the way I dress, how good I look and how the "girls have to be falling for me". I also get a lot of IoI's from girls I couldn't even imagine considering as my partners before. The problem is that even though I am now physically good looking, I still don't have the confidence to approach them even if they are almost inviting me to do so.

I was looking into Pickup arts all the way back when Mystery was considered the gold standard, but I always had a problem with actually getting out and putting things into practice. I decided to start with the assignment, which seems pretty reasonable and report on my progress here. It will help that it is extremely easy to lay girls in Prague. They are very open to sex and are one of the most beautiful creatures on Earth(there is a reason why Czech have their own pornhub section.) I feel like the beginning of the conversation and sexual escalation are currently weakest links in my game so I'll try to work on those.

I noticed that many guys who start with the assignment fail on day 4, so we will see how things progress. Feel free to comment, or don't.

 

[Draken]

DAY 1:

I thought about this for quite some time. The idea seems simple but it is one thing to identify places where there are a lot of women(almost every street in central Prague), and quite a different one to identify places which are frequented by women that I'm actually interested in. Because I was sabotaged by my own high standards in the past, I decided to forgo anything fancy or too specific like book clubs, dance classes or anything that would require too much effort to attend and just stick to some basic places that are close.

In the end, I visited and chose 4 places in two cities that I'm going to be travelling between in the following holiday period:

1. Shopping malls. This is kind of a no brainer since I will be doing some shopping.
2. Main downtown street - ultra-busy all the time of the day and quite close to me.
3. A local bar where I know the staff and can get some social proof.
4. University campus/halls-even though I don't enjoy the worry-free student lifestyle anymore, I still attend many business lectures at the university and the amount of women in the economics faculty is just mind blowing.

 

[Cody Lyans]

Its just a matter of practice and exposure. You were very sheltered in every situation you described. So gfs, super interested girls, etc.
It is now a matter of stepping outside of that comfort zone and pursuing something bigger. You might be saying sex is what you want, but usually that is insecurity talking. What you really want is to CONNECT EASIER, and have it be more of an equal exchange physically and emotionally, and if that leads to sex, great... but most of all you want it to lead to a better lifestyle and a better sense of self esteem for yourself.

Or at least this is how you need to frame it.

Start by just talking to women, with a presumption that you will be interested in their opinion or what they have to say
Then start with a presumption they are probably a fun person and squeeze it out of them
Then once you guys are having fun, squeeze out their competitive side

Then you'll be close to creating what kind of vibes are necessary for sex to be a viable option outside of relationship settings

 

[Draken]

Its just a matter of practice and exposure. You were very sheltered in every situation you described. So gfs, super interested girls, etc.
It is now a matter of stepping outside of that comfort zone and pursuing something bigger. You might be saying sex is what you want, but usually that is insecurity talking. What you really want is to CONNECT EASIER, and have it be more of an equal exchange physically and emotionally, and if that leads to sex, great... but most of all you want it to lead to a better lifestyle and a better sense of self esteem for yourself.

Or at least this is how you need to frame it.

Start by just talking to women, with a presumption that you will be interested in their opinion or what they have to say
Then start with a presumption they are probably a fun person and squeeze it out of them
Then once you guys are having fun, squeeze out their competitive side

Then you'll be close to creating what kind of vibes are necessary for sex to be a viable option outside of relationship settings

Dude, that hit me like a train. In a good way. I actually thought a lot about why sex is something I seem to want so much, as opposed to human connection. I think that deep down I have a strong feeling of regret about "not fucking around enough" when I was younger. And now I feel like I need to catch up on all that I missed and then settle with a "soulmate". I'm not sure if it makes sense. I'm sure that it sounds cheesy.

Your point about connecting faster makes a lot of sense. But the advice that you wrote out is something that interested me most. That slow iteration of mindset is something that I really needed as a cheat-framework to follow. I will explain why in the report below.

I do have a follow-up question on how you can squeeze the competitive side and how to work with that? Any articled/advice there?

Anyway, thanks a lot.
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Day 2,3:

Alright, I don't have as much time I am fucking lazy during the holidays, especially to write about my failures so it took some time to get an update. I kind of skipped the eye contact and posture steps, because those points are something that I am working on for a long time.

Eye contact - I almost always get "eyes down response" from anyone. I'm not sure if this is really a sign of attraction/respect or fear because of my bald head and tall build.

Posture - working on this for the last couple of years. I think that currently, I walk with proper posture and body language almost all the time. I sometimes watch the posture of people around me, but since it is a big city I cannot say with any degree of certainty that I noticed a particular predomination of slouching in other people. Even though people with "head held high" and proud walk do seem to be in rare supply.

The "Hi there" or day 4:

Anyway, I wanted to get to this part asap, because I saw it as the biggest challenge. So far, not good. Meaning, that I was not able to say Hi to a single girl that would be a complete stranger to me.

I thought about this as well and here is a couple of observations:
- because it's the holidays, I am always surrounded or going out with friends. It seems weird tome to approach random women while they are waiting for me. Maybe it's just a false presumption, but I can imagine the looks and the noises. To fix this, I hope to find some time to go out alone and try that way.

-my mind also has a problem with the follow-up. I know that it's just about saying hi, but what next? So many variables. I think that this just needs a good dose of courage to fix and be prepared to land regardless of the outcome.

-I also have days when I'm just completely not in the mood to try and I lose the battle in the beginning.

How to proceed:
- I'm going to several parties over the holidays so I want to try to talk to most girls there using the mindset that Cody suggested.
- following that, I want to select a day during the next week where I will be going out completely alone with the soal goal to advance and conquer the next challenges as opposed to working it inside my daily routine like I was doing up till now.

Will report on progress. Hopefully soon.

Enjoy the holidays guys.

 

[Tony D]

It's so much easier if you find a wingman. I'm sure there's some sort of community in Prague. Introduce yourself.