Anyway, being in relationships for 11 years straight really took it out of me. With my most recent ex, I wasn't really even allowed to go out with my friends, and when we were out together I was not really allowed to talk to other women. I mean I could have done these things, but it would have created a ton of stress and drama in my life. So anyway, a while after the marriage I started to realize how much I sucked with women even though I was a better version of the guy from 11 years ago (have money, nice house, nice boat, nice vehicles, and still good-looking but more mature). What was going on? I was a giant pussy, that's what was going on. I wasn't being bold and taking any risks, trying to get girls to invest in me or trying to get compliance, moving a girl. Blatantly showing interest. I was shy, un-confident, and most importantly- I was chasing them, and chasing them hard. You know, boring movie dates and expensive dinner dates. Waiting 5 dates to kiss them, because surely that will gain their trust... right?

I look back on that and now realize how stupid I was.
Basically when I found this site I already had step 1 done: fundamentals. I mean, I have added a cool hairstyle but I've always dressed really well. I did work on my walk and my eye contact, however. And yes, for about the first 3 months I did do a ton of approaches at the mall, the park, the street, etcetera while I was really trying to push through the anxiety of being direct with a woman and not caring what she thinks. Once I had reached a certain level of abundance (as in I had a couple girls I was FWB with at any one time, and then several other girls texting me at any one time), there was no more need to go out and do 20 approaches every day. So as Nuncle put it, I just integrated it into my everyday life and when I see a pretty girl, I go get her
Then, sometime around July I met this girl at a tanning salon, almost fucked it up and totally turned it around just by being persistent, totally outcome-independent and
un-phased by failure. She was probably the hottest girl (at the time) that I'd ever had, and bedded her within a 4 day time frame from meeting her, at that. It really changed my attitude toward all of this stuff. That interaction alone was a huge eye opener. I just all of the sudden knew what I was capable of and it really took me to the next level.
NJ