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Last Friday was a revelation for me for women. I realized that there were many times in my life that I was surrounded by cute girls but I was either too chicken or immature to approach them. After reading a lot of Chase's articles and other PUA material for 2 months, I decided to put what I learned to the test.
I wanted to take some baby steps and start off with number closing girls. I managed to score 5 number closes with different girls. However, only 2 of these numbers were from girls I showed interest in. The others were for kicks to see how fast I can ask for a girl's number (and I was surprised to find out how easy it was!)
The first number was from a longtime crush of mine during college. She was smart, conservative, and (unfortunately) taller than me. To summarize my relationship with her before, it's fair to say that I erred since I expressly chased her. Given that I was also immature back then, I did some stupid things to get her attention to the point where she gave me the silent treatment for 2 years and thus avoided her like wildfire. After I graduated from college, I figured that she would have let go of the past and I decided it was time to conquer my fear of approaching her. When I approached her, she was talking with another friend of mine and all the thoughts of approach anxiety once again filled my head especially when my friend left the two of us together alone. I could not bear overthinking that sh*t anymore and manned up so I just went near her and talked to her!
Suddenly, I felt a breath of fresh air when I let go of my previous fears...I was afraid to talk to this girl for all these years and now I understand it was only me that made it seem like an impossible feat. She was really friendly & funny when I talked to her though I also realized she wasn't much of a looker as I saw her before.
I was rather comfortable for playing the smooth and silent character because this was my really my character dating way back when I was a kid. I thought changing into an overly funny, entertaining, "good guy" gentleman in my teenage years would win me affection of women but experience has proved me wrong. During the conversation, I teased, deep-dived, did some moving, kino touched, asked for her number in mid-conversation, and got her to invest in me like when she showed me her artworks all the while letting her do most of the talking. When I said goodbye to her, I felt so happy that I immediately treated my friends to a bottle of beer. I still couldn't believe that it was that easy and to think, this was a girl who I thought would auto-reject me every chance she gets!
The Second number came from this petite Mediterranean girl with glasses whom I met in a worship service that my friends regularly attend. I remember going to it before and seeing all the other cute girls around me but I thought it would be improper for me to hit on girls in religious events. Man, I was such a prude before...
She was with her little cousin that time and she came along with my friends for dinner. This gave me plenty of opportunity to build rapport with her so I can number close her. Her cousin had an ADHD-like personality which proved to be an obstacle when he tried to keep her attention at him though I managed to shrug off his disruptions and continued to play it smooth. My approach with her wasn't flawless either of course and I recall a number of times where I would get the attention of my other friend to keep our conversation alove. However, I did notice her IOIs when she talked to me about herself during moments of silence where I didn't know what to say and when she showed me pictures of her in her youth. She also was delighted at my suggestions for future activities that we would do.
In the moment I am writing this, I am already excited of going out & meeting new girls and thinking of new ways of approaching them. I am so thankful for having discovered this site for having changed my perspective of women. No longer would I have to use approach anxiety as an excuse for me not to go out and stay at home playing video games. I still have a lot of work to do concerning my inner & natural game but hey, everyone starts somewhere...
I wanted to take some baby steps and start off with number closing girls. I managed to score 5 number closes with different girls. However, only 2 of these numbers were from girls I showed interest in. The others were for kicks to see how fast I can ask for a girl's number (and I was surprised to find out how easy it was!)
The first number was from a longtime crush of mine during college. She was smart, conservative, and (unfortunately) taller than me. To summarize my relationship with her before, it's fair to say that I erred since I expressly chased her. Given that I was also immature back then, I did some stupid things to get her attention to the point where she gave me the silent treatment for 2 years and thus avoided her like wildfire. After I graduated from college, I figured that she would have let go of the past and I decided it was time to conquer my fear of approaching her. When I approached her, she was talking with another friend of mine and all the thoughts of approach anxiety once again filled my head especially when my friend left the two of us together alone. I could not bear overthinking that sh*t anymore and manned up so I just went near her and talked to her!
Suddenly, I felt a breath of fresh air when I let go of my previous fears...I was afraid to talk to this girl for all these years and now I understand it was only me that made it seem like an impossible feat. She was really friendly & funny when I talked to her though I also realized she wasn't much of a looker as I saw her before.
I was rather comfortable for playing the smooth and silent character because this was my really my character dating way back when I was a kid. I thought changing into an overly funny, entertaining, "good guy" gentleman in my teenage years would win me affection of women but experience has proved me wrong. During the conversation, I teased, deep-dived, did some moving, kino touched, asked for her number in mid-conversation, and got her to invest in me like when she showed me her artworks all the while letting her do most of the talking. When I said goodbye to her, I felt so happy that I immediately treated my friends to a bottle of beer. I still couldn't believe that it was that easy and to think, this was a girl who I thought would auto-reject me every chance she gets!
The Second number came from this petite Mediterranean girl with glasses whom I met in a worship service that my friends regularly attend. I remember going to it before and seeing all the other cute girls around me but I thought it would be improper for me to hit on girls in religious events. Man, I was such a prude before...
She was with her little cousin that time and she came along with my friends for dinner. This gave me plenty of opportunity to build rapport with her so I can number close her. Her cousin had an ADHD-like personality which proved to be an obstacle when he tried to keep her attention at him though I managed to shrug off his disruptions and continued to play it smooth. My approach with her wasn't flawless either of course and I recall a number of times where I would get the attention of my other friend to keep our conversation alove. However, I did notice her IOIs when she talked to me about herself during moments of silence where I didn't know what to say and when she showed me pictures of her in her youth. She also was delighted at my suggestions for future activities that we would do.
In the moment I am writing this, I am already excited of going out & meeting new girls and thinking of new ways of approaching them. I am so thankful for having discovered this site for having changed my perspective of women. No longer would I have to use approach anxiety as an excuse for me not to go out and stay at home playing video games. I still have a lot of work to do concerning my inner & natural game but hey, everyone starts somewhere...
