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It is Sunday, 30/03/25, and this if my first day ever I go on a solo daygame outing. I wanted to share it with you! It is a huge post, but I wanted to note it down for me since this was an important first. This Sunday was the last day of a good and relaxing week, and I am happy to have time to do this. The day is super sunny and quite warm. I do some physical exercises in the morning, which puts me in a good, relaxed mood, more than I thought it would.
I leave home around 14:30pm. I have a rough plan in my head. I want to spend two or three hours in the city centre. I want to approach at least four girls. I have to get lunch somewhere. Concerning game, I want to focus mainly on some fundamentals, in this order of priority: smile, eye contact, and moving slow.
I start the session by going to a square with cafés and restaurants nearby. I notice a group of young girls who seem to be from Scandinavia somewhere. They have ice-creams. I take the opportunity to warm up. I go say hi to them, ask them where did they get their ice creams, and if it was good. They give me some surprised eyes when I approach, but they answer me and smile a bit. I thank them, wish them a nice day and leave. This is a good start: talking to a set of four Scandinavians girls in the street is probably a record for me!
Then I go grab a sandwich for lunch, and I sit by the river to eat. After eating, I wait some minutes to digest a bit, then get up and go for a walk to search for girls.
I quickly notice a very beautiful girl sitting on a bench nearby. She is dressed classy and is very concentraded reading a book. I would say 9/10. I continue walking a bit, then turn around and head towards her. I sit two meters from her, hoping she will give me some approach invitation, but she is very concentrated. At this moment, I realize that she is reading the same book I am reading currently! That is awesome because it removes any approach anxiety of me. I move closer to her, slowly and smoothly, trying to get a bit into her personal space, say hi and mention with a small smile that I'm reading the same book.
I then try to discuss a bit about the book, ask her some personal questions, say that I like her hair, exchange names, and so on. The problem is that she only gives me quick answers, and some quick smiles yes, but then buries hear head again in the book. Everytime. She clearly doesn't want to talk. I decide to conclude things with her and say that I find her cute, but that I feel she doesn't want to talk and that I am leaving. It seems to work: she answers me that she has a boyfriend, but in a cute way, with a smile, and a positive vibe. I leave on this somehow good note, again focusing on moving slowly.
Lesson: when watching a movie or reading a book, think of how to describe it in a single sentence, in an interesting manner. This can be useful in approaches and conversations, in general.
Then I notice another girl, which looks cute, a bit further way, sitting on the grass by the river, also with a book and her cellphone with her. A 7/10 or 8/10 I would say. I go and seat a bit in front of her for one or two minutes, hoping that she will notice me and give some approach invitation. She doesn't. Still, I get up, do some steps to get next to her, say hi and ask her what book she is reading, while at the same time slowly sitting next to her. I make some effort to sit closer to her than I would normally do. She is receptive. We exchange names, discuss about her book, about mine, about movies, about trips, I compliment her hair too, which was also beautiful, almost blonde shining in the sun, and I ask some logistics questions. I test something which I always wanted to test: I leave some silence gaps on purpose, without forcing myself to quickly break it. Sometimes I speak again after a few seconds, and sometimes she asks me questions herself. It works, and she hooks!
At some point, she points me to a promenade at the other riverbank and asks me if I know it. I feel that this could be a seed from her, and I get really excited. However, I feel that I still have to build more connection before pulling. We exchange two or three words, and then I somehow precipitate myself and ask her if she would like to have a walk there. I feel it was a little too early, and indeed she answers me that thanks, but she will meet some friends later. Then she wishes me a good day. I was not planning on leaving immediately, and this confuses me. I was eager to stay and discuss longer, even if she didn't agree with the walk. Now I feel awkward, and think that is better to leave. I still try to get her number, but in a hesitating way. I think that I could have gotten her number if I had kept the vibe. Still, things stayed positive between us until the end. We say goodbye and I leave.
Lessons:
* Everytime you say something impressive, try to humble it in some way. Example:
"I have many friends around Europe", then "But I don't see them as frequently as I should".
* If a girl mentions that she liked the latest Mad Max movie, which has a lot of BDSM aesthetics going on, use this to drive the discussion into sexier territory.
* When a girl provides a possible seed, talk a little bit more, than reuse the seed for the future, without actually pulling. Example: "we could go there later".
* Always be closing. Even after a failed pull, keep the vibe, seed a date and ask for her number.
Last week I went to a restaurant with a friend, and exchanged some intense eye contact with the waitress, also quickly flirting with her at the end. I decide to go back there today, have a coffee, and try to get her number. She is a 7/10. I arrive there, and they are in "café mode", since it's the middle of the afternoon. I talk to the waitress, but she doesn't look like she remembers me or, at least, it doesn't look like she is picking from the point where we left last week. I get a bit confused, and don't know what to do. I don't want to ask her "do you remember me from last week?". I decide to just keep the vibe, keep the same strong eye contact I had with her last week, and go grab a sit with my coffee. To be continued...
Lesson: think of a playful or teasing way of asking if a woman remembers you from last time.
Continuing... While I'm searching for a free table outside to have my coffee, I notice a free one next to a gir doing some knitting and, guess what, with a book by her side! Before I sit, I notice she quickly glances at me, and I quickly glance back, without saying anything, just being polite, while taking the seat. I am actually not planning to open her, but just to have a break. She looks like a 6/10. I sip through my coffee, but she keeps on doing her knitting just next to me, and it's catching my attention. At some point I feel her moving a bit, and I think I can hear her singing along the music in her earphones. This could be an approach invitation, since she is making herself more noticeable.
I proceed to open her saying that her knitting looks really cute. She turns to me, gives me a happy smile, and thanks me. We then start to chat. We exchange names, we talk about her knitting, we discover that we studied at the same university in France, then I ask her about her book since I was in this very literary mode today. We talk quite a bit and she hooks, but the conversation is very friendly. I am not sure I am actually interested in her. At some point, the vibe starts to fade away, and she tells me she is going inside to recharge her cellphone. I kind of regret not trying to close, do a quick attempt at seeding a date and getting her number, but she feels I'm not confident. Still, she hesitates a bit, but says that she is not searching for something like that at the moment, and leaves.
ps: she was reading "Madame Bovary", from Gustave Flaubert, which tells the story of a lady who marries a man in some calm countryside, gets bored and starts to search for men to have sex and adventures with. I haven't read it. But oh man how I lost an opportunity to use this topic to escalate the conversation with her! And she still tried to make me believe that she was not searching for anything right now...
Lessons:
* Whenever a girl mentions a movie or a book which hints at some sensual topic, try to use it to turn up the sexual tension.
* If a girl is 6 or higher, go for the close, it's probably worth once you get her into bed.
And that's it! In the end, I consider that I did three approaches and a half, since I already knew the waitress, but was quite satisfied of having reached more or less my goals and having found this nice vibe.
Evaluation of the fundamentals overall:
* The vibe was pretty good. I managed to have a slow, calm, chill, laid-back vibe, which came more or less naturally, and I feel that this helped in the approaches. It was still not sexy, though, just chill.
* Similarly, I think I did a good job of moving slowly overall, which was linked to the vibe
* I did a good job with posture, which came naturally probably because of the physical exercises earlier that day
* The smile was average and still can be greatly improved
* Eye contact after approaching was bad and practically non-existent
Evaluation of the game overall:
* The chill vibe was good and helped in the conversations. I didn't force myself to speak all the time, I thought more about what I was going to say, and created some silences that pushed the girls to invest a bit by asking me questions
* The approaches worked quite well
* Two of the girls hooked
* No teasing, playfulness, or sexyness in the conversations
* Seeding dates and asking for numbers deserves some attention
Moreover, I feel that my efforts for adding value to my life are starting to bear fruit: I'm reading more, watching more movies, doing some trips to visit friends in Europe, and all of these turned into conversation topics during the approaches.
I leave home around 14:30pm. I have a rough plan in my head. I want to spend two or three hours in the city centre. I want to approach at least four girls. I have to get lunch somewhere. Concerning game, I want to focus mainly on some fundamentals, in this order of priority: smile, eye contact, and moving slow.
I start the session by going to a square with cafés and restaurants nearby. I notice a group of young girls who seem to be from Scandinavia somewhere. They have ice-creams. I take the opportunity to warm up. I go say hi to them, ask them where did they get their ice creams, and if it was good. They give me some surprised eyes when I approach, but they answer me and smile a bit. I thank them, wish them a nice day and leave. This is a good start: talking to a set of four Scandinavians girls in the street is probably a record for me!
Then I go grab a sandwich for lunch, and I sit by the river to eat. After eating, I wait some minutes to digest a bit, then get up and go for a walk to search for girls.
I quickly notice a very beautiful girl sitting on a bench nearby. She is dressed classy and is very concentraded reading a book. I would say 9/10. I continue walking a bit, then turn around and head towards her. I sit two meters from her, hoping she will give me some approach invitation, but she is very concentrated. At this moment, I realize that she is reading the same book I am reading currently! That is awesome because it removes any approach anxiety of me. I move closer to her, slowly and smoothly, trying to get a bit into her personal space, say hi and mention with a small smile that I'm reading the same book.
I then try to discuss a bit about the book, ask her some personal questions, say that I like her hair, exchange names, and so on. The problem is that she only gives me quick answers, and some quick smiles yes, but then buries hear head again in the book. Everytime. She clearly doesn't want to talk. I decide to conclude things with her and say that I find her cute, but that I feel she doesn't want to talk and that I am leaving. It seems to work: she answers me that she has a boyfriend, but in a cute way, with a smile, and a positive vibe. I leave on this somehow good note, again focusing on moving slowly.
Lesson: when watching a movie or reading a book, think of how to describe it in a single sentence, in an interesting manner. This can be useful in approaches and conversations, in general.
Then I notice another girl, which looks cute, a bit further way, sitting on the grass by the river, also with a book and her cellphone with her. A 7/10 or 8/10 I would say. I go and seat a bit in front of her for one or two minutes, hoping that she will notice me and give some approach invitation. She doesn't. Still, I get up, do some steps to get next to her, say hi and ask her what book she is reading, while at the same time slowly sitting next to her. I make some effort to sit closer to her than I would normally do. She is receptive. We exchange names, discuss about her book, about mine, about movies, about trips, I compliment her hair too, which was also beautiful, almost blonde shining in the sun, and I ask some logistics questions. I test something which I always wanted to test: I leave some silence gaps on purpose, without forcing myself to quickly break it. Sometimes I speak again after a few seconds, and sometimes she asks me questions herself. It works, and she hooks!
At some point, she points me to a promenade at the other riverbank and asks me if I know it. I feel that this could be a seed from her, and I get really excited. However, I feel that I still have to build more connection before pulling. We exchange two or three words, and then I somehow precipitate myself and ask her if she would like to have a walk there. I feel it was a little too early, and indeed she answers me that thanks, but she will meet some friends later. Then she wishes me a good day. I was not planning on leaving immediately, and this confuses me. I was eager to stay and discuss longer, even if she didn't agree with the walk. Now I feel awkward, and think that is better to leave. I still try to get her number, but in a hesitating way. I think that I could have gotten her number if I had kept the vibe. Still, things stayed positive between us until the end. We say goodbye and I leave.
Lessons:
* Everytime you say something impressive, try to humble it in some way. Example:
"I have many friends around Europe", then "But I don't see them as frequently as I should".
* If a girl mentions that she liked the latest Mad Max movie, which has a lot of BDSM aesthetics going on, use this to drive the discussion into sexier territory.
* When a girl provides a possible seed, talk a little bit more, than reuse the seed for the future, without actually pulling. Example: "we could go there later".
* Always be closing. Even after a failed pull, keep the vibe, seed a date and ask for her number.
Last week I went to a restaurant with a friend, and exchanged some intense eye contact with the waitress, also quickly flirting with her at the end. I decide to go back there today, have a coffee, and try to get her number. She is a 7/10. I arrive there, and they are in "café mode", since it's the middle of the afternoon. I talk to the waitress, but she doesn't look like she remembers me or, at least, it doesn't look like she is picking from the point where we left last week. I get a bit confused, and don't know what to do. I don't want to ask her "do you remember me from last week?". I decide to just keep the vibe, keep the same strong eye contact I had with her last week, and go grab a sit with my coffee. To be continued...
Lesson: think of a playful or teasing way of asking if a woman remembers you from last time.
Continuing... While I'm searching for a free table outside to have my coffee, I notice a free one next to a gir doing some knitting and, guess what, with a book by her side! Before I sit, I notice she quickly glances at me, and I quickly glance back, without saying anything, just being polite, while taking the seat. I am actually not planning to open her, but just to have a break. She looks like a 6/10. I sip through my coffee, but she keeps on doing her knitting just next to me, and it's catching my attention. At some point I feel her moving a bit, and I think I can hear her singing along the music in her earphones. This could be an approach invitation, since she is making herself more noticeable.
I proceed to open her saying that her knitting looks really cute. She turns to me, gives me a happy smile, and thanks me. We then start to chat. We exchange names, we talk about her knitting, we discover that we studied at the same university in France, then I ask her about her book since I was in this very literary mode today. We talk quite a bit and she hooks, but the conversation is very friendly. I am not sure I am actually interested in her. At some point, the vibe starts to fade away, and she tells me she is going inside to recharge her cellphone. I kind of regret not trying to close, do a quick attempt at seeding a date and getting her number, but she feels I'm not confident. Still, she hesitates a bit, but says that she is not searching for something like that at the moment, and leaves.
ps: she was reading "Madame Bovary", from Gustave Flaubert, which tells the story of a lady who marries a man in some calm countryside, gets bored and starts to search for men to have sex and adventures with. I haven't read it. But oh man how I lost an opportunity to use this topic to escalate the conversation with her! And she still tried to make me believe that she was not searching for anything right now...
Lessons:
* Whenever a girl mentions a movie or a book which hints at some sensual topic, try to use it to turn up the sexual tension.
* If a girl is 6 or higher, go for the close, it's probably worth once you get her into bed.
And that's it! In the end, I consider that I did three approaches and a half, since I already knew the waitress, but was quite satisfied of having reached more or less my goals and having found this nice vibe.
Evaluation of the fundamentals overall:
* The vibe was pretty good. I managed to have a slow, calm, chill, laid-back vibe, which came more or less naturally, and I feel that this helped in the approaches. It was still not sexy, though, just chill.
* Similarly, I think I did a good job of moving slowly overall, which was linked to the vibe
* I did a good job with posture, which came naturally probably because of the physical exercises earlier that day
* The smile was average and still can be greatly improved
* Eye contact after approaching was bad and practically non-existent
Evaluation of the game overall:
* The chill vibe was good and helped in the conversations. I didn't force myself to speak all the time, I thought more about what I was going to say, and created some silences that pushed the girls to invest a bit by asking me questions
* The approaches worked quite well
* Two of the girls hooked
* No teasing, playfulness, or sexyness in the conversations
* Seeding dates and asking for numbers deserves some attention
Moreover, I feel that my efforts for adding value to my life are starting to bear fruit: I'm reading more, watching more movies, doing some trips to visit friends in Europe, and all of these turned into conversation topics during the approaches.
