Losing virginity in a week, HELP!!

[Sayn]

Title summarises it. If you want the story that'll be at the end. (Hopefully it interests you) We've talked about this, a lot. I know she wants it rough, it's how I go about doing that. And I would hope like any guy, I want my first time to be great, long and involve her cumming a lot. I've read chase's stuff on positions and also some stuff on cunnilingus. I'm looking for people's go to moves. what positions, how to make her cum? I've got a shit ton of condoms, and a thirst... For knowledge.

Story.
We met each other online, (And talked online ever since, which is.. 9 months or so now, never met in person, won't until the 5th) and I was no better than most guys online, who started hitting on anyone once they say they're a girl. Now, I'm quite a shy guy, but I can be confident, or at least fake it fairly often. Find out she's Canadian. At which point, I reckon I've got her. (I have a British accent, and from what I've heard and believe now lol, girls love it.) So she's older, I'm 23, she's 29. She got recently divorced. Got divorced in the time we've been talking. Been married for 9 years. I told her I love her, fairly early on. Took her awhile to say it back. We say we love each other really often now, to be fair. It started off with me just wanting to fuck a girl. At the start I'd tell her I love her, because I did like her, but I wanted to fuck her more. The point I'm at is I do care about her, I do love her. I know she's the type of girl I want to settle down with. But I don't know whether I want to be all in and make this work, it is a long distance relationship. The only reason I'm not wanting to do that is, do I really want to just fuck her, over the course of three weeks (in just under a week) Then spend months, up to a year, without getting any?

 

[Richard]

If you haven't lost your virginity yet then you're in no position to determine what kind of girl is a good long-term partner for you - typically, guys who are virgins latch on to the first girl who is willing to sleep with them and try to make it last forever so they secure the option of consistent sex, etc. Don't be that guy. Lose your virginity and then keep sleeping with new women until you find out ALL of your long-term likes and dislikes.

Anyway, for actual sex itself - pull her hair, smack her ass, choke her (don't push on her windpipe, but compress the sides of her neck), pin her arms above her head, etc. Positions and technique don't matter all that much when it comes to making a girl cum - if technique was all it took then women would consistently prefer vibrators and robots over men but women dream of being dominated by men, not vibrators.

Positions I favor are cowgirl, doggy, butterfly variations, some missionary variations, etc. Remember, it's not about technique and having proper mechanics in sex.

-Richard

 

[Fuck This]

I'd say Sexual technique for a first encounter should be very conservative, until you establish what the woman wants. Master or at least understand your "release triggers" the first couple of times, especially if this is going to be your first PIV sex.

My advice for the first time is a knowledge of erogenous zones, especially breasts, clit and g-spot. Apply a heavy dose of foreplay, perhaps even to the point of inducing her orgasm even before PIV. This is insurance for the inevitable "beginner blowout" Pay attention to her reaction and keep doing what is working.

Give yourself plenty of time, and be sure she climaxes. Use the post climax time to comfort her and soak in the Oxytocin. Subsequent sex can be ramped up in intesity, but Dial it up according to her pace, not what some guy on the internet says.

"Learn to drive before you start trying to race", to turn a metaphor.

 

[Sayn]

Thank you both for the responses. I'm definitely taking on board what you're saying, @Richard I get how to be rough with her, now more at ease with you telling me positions aren't all that important in making her cum. @Fuck This I reckon I understand how to handle the breasts and clit, the g-spot not so much, how do I find it, and what's the best way to stimulate it?

 

[Fuck This]

really?

 

[Snazzy]

don't hold back. use her man. just fucking use her as a sexual object when you fuck her. put red marks on her ass and make it hurt, choke her until she's gasping for breath. Smack her around a bit if she's into it. make her submit to you. degrade her. call her dirty names. i called a bitch a worthless piece of shit one time when i fucked her and she moaned super hard and told me she was into it. cum dumpster, bitch, hoe, fucking nasty little slut. just really treat her like she is your sex slave and fuck that pussy like you are goddamn entitled to it.