Married man concerns...........

[Anonymous]

Hello Friends,
This is my first post here and I am reading Chase post which are real excellent and worth following them. But all these practices are for single man and not for married man.
I am a married person but lacks sex with my counterpart as she is passive, not interested, some differance of opinions which interferes in SEX etc etc........and I have a high sexual drive...
We all man know, woman are mysterious and very hard to be pleased and that is why we are reading Chase......lol.
Now the problem with married man arises is most of the woman out there first wants to know whether we are married or not.As soon as we say we are married, the interest is gone....
I have seen that woman are ready to go for a date with a single, divorcee,unmarried man but a BIG NO for a married man.They feel they are insecure with married man as the relationship is not going to last long.I understand that woman first see how long the relationship can last , whether he will be there for her when she needs etc...but is there any guarentee that a single man or unmarried man will remain with her always when she will need him?I don't think so.
It is an obvious thing that when a man approaches a woman, his first intention is having a SEX with her.In a very RARE case a man will approach woman for just marrying her.I am not saying that it never is the case but most unmarried, single, divorcee man approaches woman for having SEX and if everything goes OK then more meetings.
Even if a woman finds someone unmarried, single and starts dating and hooking up and start a livein relationship as boyfriend and girlfriend there is no guarentee that boyfriend or girlfriend will have no outside SEX withsomeone else.Now my question here is, what a married man like me should do in such situation ,as I remain honest and has always said, I am married whenever I have been asked by a woman even though I lost the oppertunity to take her for a date and hookup lateron if I would have said , I am single.....
Looks like almost all woman wants single man.....even though after dating or whatever and hookup(SEX) the relationship won't last even for a week......woman just wants single man even though there is no guarentee for relationship to last long.....Now this is a delima for me.I am out there talking with woman and they are ready to talk further but alas......I am married......
I would like to read replies from Chase and members ...........

 

[Landlord]

Hey brother,

the first question is "do you have your wife's approval?" That is, she knows and condones your extra marital dalliances due to her own disinterest? Has it been made explicit?

If NO...stop. Do not pass go. Sort things out with your wife. Maybe this can be corrected or improved to the point where you don't need to be out there in the first place. You might even get lucky and find that she is interested in a threesome with you and (insert exotic fantasy woman here). If all fails, then you can ask for a hall pass.

If YES....then that's got to help. Some girls want a husband. Some don't give a shit either way. But for those who are ok being with a married man if there is no ethical violation going on, you have a clear workaround. Don't be a shit and lie to the girls and your wife. That ends badly.

I am curious:
—Do you wear your ring when you go out?
—Where are you going to take these girls back to?
—About the relationship bit, is that what you want? Have you worked out a game plan in terms of how long/how many times you'll be with these women before you have to move on? What happens if you find one you actually want to keep? Are you prepared to leave your wife?

I'm married, separated, nearly divorced. I'm honest about it and for the most part don't have any problem, as my wife and I live in different countries. There was one girl who wanted the paper signed before she'd proceed, but she wasn't that cute anyway. ;>)

 

[trashKENNUT]

Hi passionatebuddy,

Now this is a delima for me.I am out there talking with woman and they are ready to talk further but alas......I am married......
I would like to read replies from Chase and members ...........

Seems like you have a lot going on, i can see that you a married man, and wanting to date other girls? Help us summarize the points, It is kind of long, the words. Space the paragraphs, We see if we can help out from here.

Zac

 

[Chase]

Hello PB,

A lot of this ends up being influenced by your vibe and leadership in this situation. There are some women who will instantly shut down when they find out you're in a relationship, but there are other women who immediately become infinitely more attracted to you and begin viewing you as the ideal sex partner when they know you're in a relationship. They simply have to know that 1) you don't bear any ill will toward your partner or wife, and 2) that either she knows, or that you love her but she isn't getting the job done. This way they can justify in their heads WHY you want to sleep with them, and not her, and any internal debate they had is silenced.

They did a study on what relationship status women found most attractive, and found that single women rate men they are told are in committed relationships as more attractive and more desirable... seems it's automatic preselection (attached women rated single men as more desirable; perhaps they seemed easier to have a fling with than an attached man, who brings his own complications to the table).

You can communicate being in a relationship and still sleep with women - I have, plenty of times. You just have to not bring it up until the girl does, and then mention it as if it's the most natural thing in the world. At that point, much of the time, you're okay - and suddenly, things start moving a lot faster.

Chase

 

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