Meeting many girls in same venue

[diegoC]

Just wondering. I read in a post that Chase nowadays usually tries to get girls home with him within 30 minutes or get phone numbers and end interaction.
My question is: If I get the number of a girl and end the interaction and jump to other one, and then other one, and other. Is this fine? They would probably see me hitting girl after girl.

 

[Gamecrasher]

Girls seeing you do this is actually good for preselection. They're seeing you get all these numbers from other girls and they're wondering "hmm...what's going on with all these girls giving this guy their numbers?" It intrigues them even more

 

[diegoC]

Right Gramecrasher, but from the point of view of a girl I got her number and for whatever reason I ended the interaction (lets just say I thought it was better because there where a lot of girls and I wanted to get lot of numbers that day) don't you think she could think something like "So this guy left me and now is talkin to this other girl? and now other!? who does he think he is. Am I not good compared to that other girl? blabla"

 

[Jarradical]

Well it's always better to close on one girl than end up with multiple numbers. You should end a conversation if you can tell it's not going somewhere (ie: screening). However when you aren't particularly experienced and don't think you will be able to close, I think moving on to another girl, for practise or another possibility, is fine.

 

[Gamecrasher]

Right Gramecrasher, but from the point of view of a girl I got her number and for whatever reason I ended the interaction (lets just say I thought it was better because there where a lot of girls and I wanted to get lot of numbers that day) don't you think she could think something like "So this guy left me and now is talkin to this other girl? and now other!? who does he think he is. Am I not good compared to that other girl? blabla"

Correct Diego. And that potentially be a good thing. When she says, Am I not good compared to that other girl? she's essentially wondering what's going on, and she may eventually be competing for your attention

 

[diegoC]

Okay! Thx! I thought for a moment she could get into auto-rejection for what I was doing.

 

[Chase]

Diego-

Okay! Thx! I thought for a moment she could get into auto-rejection for what I was doing.

This can happen too, yes. It depends on the girl, it depends on how she values you... it depends on a lot.

Essentially, the two reactions you can see are:

• "Whoa... he's talking to some other girl now. This guy's a total player... never mind."
• "Wow, he's got that girl interested TOO! This guy is sexier than I thought..."

In other words, it pumps your value, but reduces your attainability.

That's good for girls who weren't overly impressed with you the first time around, but now are thinking, "Hmm! He's worth a second look...!"

And that's bad for girls who thought you were already high value and maybe almost out of their league - now you've just left their league and gone into outerspace (auto-rejection).

Judge based on how much you dig a certain girl and how well you feel you hit it off. It's a bit of a gamble, so if you're DEFINITELY afraid of not hearing from her again, take the safe bet and meet other girls out of sight of her. If, on the other hand, she's of no particular importance, or the interaction didn't feel that solid, then meet away - you may even find her more receptive the next time you talk to her, like Gamecrasher notes.

Chase

 

[diegoC]

Thanks Chase! I completely agree with your train of thought.