MrRapo Chronicles

[MrRapo]

Average asian guy living in the Netherlands. Got out of a relationship for a while now ( 8 months) since then I have only got 16 numbers and 5 dates. Not happy with results. Time to go back to the grinding and keep a journal for consistency, improve results and fix any sticking points.

Daygame
I dont do marathons so much, dont have that much time now. So I try to approach girls while doing my errands or as I go on my day

Social circle
I dance salsa and bachata for quite some time now. 4 years. I can say that im pretty good at. I also know alot of people from this scene. Used to pull alot girls from this scene, nowadays im kinda picky and only go for 7.5 and higher. Still prefer to pull girls from daygame.

Online game
Not my type of game. Maybe in the near future.

Nightgame
Ocassionally go with guyfriends, I dont like the enviroment and the music sucks most of the time in the clubs.

Strong points

• Posture is pretty good. Thanks to salsa and martial art
• Fashion is on point, get compliments alot from girls
• Nowadays many girls tells me that im goodlooking (not used hearing that and im not sure what to do with this info)
• Good dancing skills.

Sticking points

• Weak sexual intent verbally. I will do that by focussing more on chase frames and use more sexual innuendo in conversation and read Alek articles.
• I dont approach enough, cuz of approach anxiety. Just accept thats normal and confront my fears!
• Weak voice and eye contact. Gotta work on those fundamentals!
• Im a lazy texter and mainly use it for logistics

 

[MrRapo]

09-01-2020

My first approaches from daygame for 2020

#1
Today I wanted to do some work in a cafe instead at home. So I was on my way walking to the Starbucks which is located near the trainstation. As I was walking, I see a short blond girl on the opposite side walkings towards my direction. We made eye contact. I smile and she smiles back. This is how I opened her:

*In Dutch*
Me: Hey there (wave at her and she stops) I saw you walking and wanted to say that you look really cute today.
She: Oh thank you!
Me: Yeah what I really like about you, is that the skirt you're wearing really complements your figure. Also I like your white sneaker, gives it a casual look and it matches with your white jacket.
She: Oh wow thank you, how nice of you.

We started introducing to eachother. Made some small talk here.I made some statements like "You look like you just got out of work" and I was right. She starting firing questions at me. Kinda got overwhelmed and I made a mistake here because I answers most of her questions to logically. Eventually I kinda gave in the pressure and started running things out to say. So I said some bullshit excuse that I had to catch a train but like to continue our conversation so I asked her out and if she wants to grab a drink sometime?. Unfortunatley she tells me that she has a boyfriend and that may not be a good idea to do. I said okay too bad and we bid eachother farewell.

Some interesting remark she said to me in the middle of our conversation

She: "I am on my way to my sister and she is waiting for me, but thats okay she probally dont mind that I'm talking to you right now"

My first approach this year, could have gone worst. So I'm content.

#2
Im in Starbucks sitting at the table working on my laptop. A girl starts to sit across the table and also begins to work on her laptop with her earphones in. She looks alright. I want to approach her but I'm trying to find a way to do it smoothly. I try to look for eyecontact nothing,
I start to try to get her attention, by sighing and looking in the room as if I'm thinking about something. She doesn't respond at all. 5 minutes are gone already and my approach anxiety is going up as hell. Then I was like fuck it and I starting to wave at her. Finally she stops working at her laptop, puts down her earphones and looked at me. First thing that came up to in my mind and this is how I opened:

*In Dutch*
Me: "Hey the starbucks employe gave this lemon cake as a sample to me, but I dont like lemon that much. Do you want this cake ?"
Her: "Oh no thanks, there is probably milk in there. I'm allergic to milk" ( Immediately puts back her earphones and is back on her laptop)

I wanted to continue our conversation but she didn't hear me cuz of her earphones. I was like fuck it nvm and she probably is not interested or in the mood to talk.

#3
Im at the gym working out. I see a girl cycling on the stationary bike. She looked foreign and familiar and I assumed I know her from a salsa party. I go to her.

*In English*
Me: "I think I know you, we have danced before at this salsa party X
She: "Oh haha I dont dance salsa"
ME: "Oh but you look Spanish though" ( WTF Im so random)
She: Im Italian and my name is X
Me: Oh okay sorry to bother ya

WTF I kinda bailed out due to social pressure cuz of other people on the stationary bikes were looking and listening aswell :\ She seemed really enthusiastic and open to talk. that caught me off guard. Also I dont like to approach in the gym and prefer to workout asap and get out.

What went well

• I made the openers more specific
• Focused more on statements then questions.
• Wasn't planned to do approaches this day so I'm happy I did three

Things that I could have done differently

• I notice that I sometimes speak to fast. This is probably cuz im little bit nervous and didnt have social momentum
• Don't eject to early!

Things that I should focus on for the next time

• (Short term) Just accept my state if I'm nervous. (Long term) meditate daily
• Remind myself not to eject to early just because of the pressure
• Remind myself to always speak slow, loud and clear.
• Don't always answer questions logically and boring. Be more creative with my answers
• Get used to approach girls in the gym

 

[MrRapo]

10-01-20
I was on my way to the university library and the exams are starting soon. I like to come here sometimes to work on my projects. Because this is a goldmine. There are so many hot students here. In my direction I see a cute blond girl walking towards my direction while eating a cookie. No approach signals. I still decide to approach her:

*In Dutch*
Me: Hello excuse me, I wanted to say that you look really nice today and I know you're eating a cookie but that makes it look really cute
Her: Oh okay (Said that while she was eating)

We talked and I introduce myself. She behaved really reserved. I had to do most of the talking at the beginning. She probably got taking aback that a random guy approached her. I made some statements during our conversations:

Me: You look like someone that's heading towards the gym (cuz of her sport leggings and I was right)
Me: Let me guess you study psychology (My gut was telling and I was right)

Some moments later I decided to #close cuz I need to get back to work:

Me: Hey I have to get back to work. You seem like a interesting person. Wanna grab drinks sometime?
Her: Uhm Im not sure.
Me: How about this, lets exchange numbers and we can go from there
Her: Okay! (I handed my phone to her)

Some interesting remark from this conversation:

She: I know another person named MrRapo and he looks just like you ( WTF is she being racist to me? XD)
Me: Oh really and is that guy just as handsome as me? (I dont care but it felt good saying that)
She: Oh haha no you look better ( Thanks for the ego boost)

Few hours later I send my ice breaker

(20:03) Me: Hey *girlsname*, it was nice talking to you. I hope you enjoyed your workout. Gr MrRapo
(21:55) She: Hey MrRapo, Yeah workout went well. Did you manage to do some work? I really like that you approached me!

This girl seemed receptive and I know she probably has exams. I did'nt specifially ask for her schedule. But I decided to ask her out for the next day YOLO:

(22:39) Me: Yeah you're welcome. I enjoyed talking to you today What do you say if we grab some drinks tomorow night? Or we could do it at another time

No respond yet, we shall see.

Update :

The next day
(10:32) She: I can't tonight sorry, tomorow I have two job interviews and I would like to prepare well Could you maybe do Thursday night?
(14:43) Me: I understand that's your priority atm. Thursday night is fine. How about we met there at 19:30h at place X?

The next day
(15:32)She: Sure, can't wait!
(15:32)She: Did you had a nice weekend?

Ugh I dont like to text, but I will reply back out of politeness. This will be my first date for this year. Im curious of the outcome.


What went well
I approached eventhough there she didn't gave me any signs.
I ejected at the right moment
Conversation went smoothly even though it was my first approach for this day

Things that I could have done differently
We haven't touched eachother at all during the set. No handshake, incidental touch or a hug, Not sure if it's a bad thing hmmm
Sometimes im stuttering, probably of being nervous. Im joining a toastmaster club and hope to improve my public speaking more

Things that I should focus on for the next time
Still the same issue with talking: Remind myself to always speak slow, loud and clear.

 

[Pitcher]

Yo you’re taking action! Props for that bro!

Also, it seems like you’re very self-aware and can pick out significant details of your interactions well. Best of luck man.

 

[MrRapo]

13-01-20

Today I only approach 1 girl. My office is close to the mall. During lunchbreak I Iike to take a walk in the mall to clear my mind and ofc to approach girls.

This girl was walking towards me, no approach signals. I waved at her to stop, said that she looks nice today and I like her jacket. She said thanks in a neutral way. She is in a hurry and has to go to her class. I stayed calm and talked slow. I used a false time constraint. I said that we can talk for like two minutes. It didn't worked. I see her feets were not pointing towards me and she started walking. I didn't follow her and let her go.

What went well:

• I remained calm and my speaking tempo was slow.
• There were alot of people present but I still approached her and nobody cared.

Things that I should focus on for the next time

• I saw more attractive ladies in the mall, but I didn't approach due AA. Just remind myself to just do it and nobody cares.

 

[MrRapo]

15 jan

I did 1 approach during my lunchbreak. I motion the girl to stop and I opened her with a standard direct line. She told me that she is in a hurry cuz her friend is waiting for her in the supermarket. I persist a little and I try to convince her to stay for like 2 minutes to flirt. I can tell she is interest ( Playing with her hair and her voice went up) but also in conflict and tells me that she really has to go. Okay so we said goodbye.

What other options I can do when I'm in this situation again:

• Walk together with the girl
• Do a fast number close
• Try to overcome her objections atleast 3 times minimum with playful responds

16 jan

So the girl from 10 jan, I approached in the library, flaked.

We were supposed to meet up tonight, but she texted my later that day and wants to cancel the date. She says that she's in a busy period and is not in the mood to do other things.
I msg her back and basically in short I told her not to worry about it, that l will contact her again, when she's not so busy. She replied back that she so loved my text and that January is busy for her but after that, she will have more free time and is willing to meet up with me when her busy period is over.

I will ping her again somewhere in February-March.

 

[MrRapo]

21 jan
Today I approached two girls in the University Library.

#1 Law girl
I’m in the library upstairs in the lounge room with a friend. Its the exam period, so it's really crowded in the library and also in the lounge room. We were talking, catching up and stuff. On the other side there are vending machines. I see a cute girl wearing a really nice dress, buying something from the vending machine. After buying something from the vending, she's walking downstairs and probably is going back to study in the silent room. I told my friend that I’m going to approach her. So I was running off the stairs, I know I need to stop her before she enters the silent room. I ran and caught her up, tapped on her right elbow and l stand in in front of her and I told her that I had to stop her, cuz she looks really amazing in that dress I want to talk to her.

She hooked instantly and we started talking, to keep it short. After some few minutes talking, I asked her out and she agreed to it, we exchanged numbers.

Text
Me: Hey Lawgirl, it was nice talking to you, I hope you were able to learn for your exams. Gr MrRapo
Lawgirl: Hey MrRapo, thanks for your message
Lawgirl: Did you manage to do some work for your project?

She seemed interest. Few hours later I responded back and asked what her schedule looked like so we can grab drinks together. No respond yet. We shall see.

#2 Girl
She was sitting on the bench in front of a table. I was heading to a different area of the library to return some books. While I was towards my designation, we made eye contact and I saw she was playing with her hair. I took it as a IOI, but somehow my AA kicked in and I didn't approach her. I was telling to myself fuck, your such a pussy and all wtf you’ve been doing this for years don’t give in the fear. After 10 minutes I walked back and she's still sitting there. I approached and told her, that the first time I saw her I was nervous and I wanted to say hello to her, but I chickened out. But I still decide to come back because I think you look really cute with the red jacket you're wearing. She was look wow: "I'm happy you came back" So we talked, getting to know each other. I kept it short, cuz she had an appointment. I asked her out, but she declined, cuz she had a boyfriend. But she really appreciated that I approached and loved my courage.


Some Remarks

• I feel alot more ballsy when im with a friend. Damm I would like to have a wingman again, But everyone in my area gave up or only wants to do Tinder.
• Alot of people were around during the two approaches but didn't care and were all minding there own business. I feel like people are nowadays less aware of their surrounding?
• SO far most girls I approached seemed to appreciate it. No harsh rejection.

 

[MrRapo]

23-01-2020
Today I did 3 approaches in the mall during my lunchbreak.

#1 Girl
This blond girl, she was smoking outside and leaning at a pillar. From behind I noticed she had a hole in her panty on her right leg. I used that in my opener:

Me: Hey I noticed you have a hole in your panty, which made me curious to see your front and it turns out that you look really cute and I had to meet you hi I"m MrRapo
Girl: oh wow haha hey Im X, thanks for the compliment but I have a boyfriend.
Me: Ah was expected, a beautiful girl like you doesn't stay single for a long time.
GIrl: haha thanks for the compliment blabla

We talk for a few more minutes and later said goodbye to each other.

#2 Girl
I met this girl in the mall. I open direct, neutral response. She tells me she had to catch a train.
I decided to walk with her. We talked while walking. I did most of the talking, she responded normal. We were nearing the exit of the mall. Told her that we should grab drinks together. She declined, tells me that she has a boyfriend but apprieciate the offer. No worrries. We bid each other farewell.

#3 Girl
Outside the mall, I made eye contact with a cute blond girl walking towards me. I stopped her. I told her that she looks amazing and I wanna get to know her. She seemed pleasant surprise. We talked for some minutes. She also has lunchbreak, works parttime in the supermarket, 19 years old, is doing a Gap year.

During the conversation, I suggested we should continue this conversation with drinks together. She agreed we exchanged numbers and tells me that this has never happend to her before. Normally she only get approached when she's going clubbing.


Overall I'm happy. I've been approaching girls consistently for the past three weeks and I notice I can handle my AA a little bit beter. I will keep doing this and enjoy this momentum.

 

[MrRapo]

24-01-2020

#1 Girl
I'm in the library, this girl is walking towards me. Looked cute I stopped her and went direct. She turned red and didn’t know how to respond. She wants to leave. I tell her relax we can talk for like 2min. She thinks it's some kind of prank. I reassure her it’s not. But after few minutes discussing about it I was kind of fed up and said "nvm you're not interested so I'm leaving goodbye"

Looking back. I think got I too arrogant because of the past few weeks, many approaches went good. I act like I got auto-rejected. I should not be like that. Don’t be bitter, stay humble and remind myself that girls are silly and cute.

#2 girl
On my way home.
A really beautiful girl was walking towards me. I stopped her and went direct. She got taken aback and really likes the compliment.

But this girl turns out to be 15 years old. Damm she's stunning and dresses like she's in her twenties. I told her she should focus on school first, that boys are immature and said goodbye.

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Tonight, I’m heading to my local salsa venue.

 

[Científico]

But this girl turns out to be 15 years old. Damm she's stunning and dresses like she's in her twenties.

I'm ashamed to admit I've done this more than once. Hate it when that happens

 

[MrRapo]

Not much to report since I last updated:

• I did 3 daygame approaches, none were interested.
• This saturday, NYESalsa1.0 is coming over to my place.
• A girl I met outside the mall from Jan 23th flaked and told me through text that she's actually not that interested to meet up.