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The goal of this review as been doing every year is not to have tunnel vision, and tell things that are based on my own projections, but what i am doing is remaining neutral, objective, more like journalist...

I am probably not 100% correct, I am in USA, i am Mainly a nightgamer, In usa in a suburb of South Florida... But in order to put this together, i have ignore my own bias and projections, and to make sure i don't have tunnel vision, i made sure to survey other guys in the field, with the goal of 100% be as accurate as possible...

For example i had one of the best years in the field, but i saw the worst year in night game, so because i had a good year that does not translate in my bias opinion on the review...However, you guys ARE MORE THAN WELCOME TO GIVE YOUR OWN OPINION or FINDINGS, i am willing to edit or delete if your argument is strong...

I am going to go all over the place just bullet points...

Some disclaimers.- Inconsistent for me is ratios, you can have a packed clubs with 50 dudes and 15 chongas/hoodrats/trolls that is for me still a bad ratios, they don't count... Consistence is about a third of the club packed with hot women not even half, just 1 out of 5 even....

Inconsistent is not you counting hallowing, new years, spring break, exclusive parties, that only some can sneak in, college/frat parties, traveling, college town, special events (and all of these is welcome and i advice it)... I am talking general night clubs/bars/lounges, online, day game.

Inconsistent is not me and 2 other guys getting laid while 50 guys go home with dick in their hands... I am objective. (for example i did last year better than 2023 and 2022, but imho clubs got worst, cause is not about me... get it!

-Inconsistent is not 3 weekends good 3 bad etc...

- I saw in 2024 the DEATH of the alpha, is now a meme or cringe to be alpha, i blame this on the red pill, fresh and fit, watson, and the rest of the retards... There was a video of a guy teaching how to be alpha when picking up your luggage... Being alpha is fucking cringe a meme...

- Official death and DE platform of fresh and fit,Tate etc... and the rest of the red pill clowns, as well as blackpillers etc... Red pill is going through the post Julian rsd pua decline.

- Death of seduction community, though i saw lets in fighting, more unity, but 0 to no innovation to be honest, people just pretending to come up with stuff that was already created, repeating it water down pretending to be their stuff and coaches without giving credit like they came up with it...

- Seduction community is now more decentralized outside group from telegram, to facebook to wassup to discord vs forums... This is good and not good (you will have guys that can not be moderated no matter what)... I used to be against moderation, but without moderation is bad imho to have these groups...

- I personally saw a slow down in Feminist noise, and movements vs other years was going down after the amber Johnny trial but this is almost dead as well...

- I have NEVER SEEN IN MY LIFE, soooooo many puas moving, traveling, going to other cities as i saw in 2024.... Again i blame this on the decline of night game and dating markets...

- Last year i thought day game was a clear winner, but then i changed my mind day game was a winner cause GUYS WERE TRAVELING, that is not a strong indicator of day game winning... So all games suffered across the board, apps became more competitive, most of you need to pay on dating apps, easy to get shadow ban and go into cock app fest, night game is still inconsistent as fuck and getting worst after last year it was getting better...

- Again about night game declining, i saw BARELY ANY TOURIST, i saw a bunch of festivals being cancelled.... Again i blame the economy...

- Nightgame has suffer tremendously, i have never been soooo many venues closing down, sooo many regulars quitting or barely coming out, so many sausage fests, horrible! inconsistent. I will give you ways around this, but i am talking in general was horrible. I am going to blame it on the economy.

- I saw a strong decline vs 2022 and 2023 from group of gay guys sarging the clubs, i did see more trans in my area coming out but that was inconsistent.(we don't care about this but i am reporting clubs)

- Women coming out inconsistent as i ever seen it in clubs (i know a broken record)....

- I saw a lot more lesbians this year, this was day and night game.... I saw strong surge of women couple holding has and being a couples in day game, specially malls.

- I saw a strong surge in the baggy style, thankfully, though guys are adapting it more, is still a minority 10-15% but i did see and increase in baggy in men...

- Gen z women again a lot into working out, amazing bodies, a lot of mini skirts, jeans and leather, a lot booty shorts or booty joga tight gym short, the gym pants are super thin materal joga style practically is an extra skin, big emphasis on butts aesthetic in the clothing and women and no bras...

- following the above brass are a thing of the past, women wear no brass nipple showing even nipple piercings...

- I saw these year in women fashion a lot of cowboy boots with mini skirts and shorts... A lot (super sexy) and a lot of ankle boots... Though i notice doctor martins slowing down...

- for style i saw more baggy cargo type pants/jeans in men coming up, cropped tshirts and oversized still in (this is due that baggy need for asthetic cropped tops),I saw sleeveless tops on men during the summer, loose jeans, straight legs, baggy, extra baggy in, i would not recommend mega/ultra baggy personally i don't think is aesthetic but anything baggy style in...

- gym, a lot of shorts for men all the way up like the 70s, socks showing all the way to upper calves......

- for women converse still strong and sambas (also for men) and adidas campus

- Lofters were in and NB and retro sneakers and converse.... Any chunky shoes or sneakers ( i think again due to baggy you need chunch due to the large leg opening)

- Style is based more on comfort and the retro 90s. Name brands emphasis stock down more emphasis on comfort and asthetic fit (baggy/new balance/cropped)

- new money or old money or whatever the name is, still works i would put baggy personally above..

- If you are not getting complements from men and women on style, you are doing it wrong (if you get tool is cause even though your style is right, you have not perfected it).. I get complements on my style once a week at least...(took me 6 months to get it right)

- one thing i want to STRONGLY POINT OUT, fashion as traditionally was introduce is GONE, no insta, no magazine.... Fashion is strictly COMMING FROM TIK TOK.... Tik tok dictates fashion and hairstyles...

- Facebook and youtube boomer apps...

- Movie theaters dead.

- There was a strong surge natural game (i am an autist all year long i kept calling natural game - physical game, cause my style of natural game is very physical), i saw a huge decline in technical game and use, i call technical game routine stlye game such as mm, nlp and second gen. (teevester sex talk i called it second gen)

- if you don't know how to properly text you are fucked, cause again you will not be able to lay all girls same night you meet them...

- As i said in many of the reviews that guys don't get, guys are not getting the dick in pussy experience we used to have pre corona and it has been like that for the past 5 years.... Gen z is not getting a lot of dick in pussy experience, today guys have the most about of resources to get laid, but yet, no getting laid... (these is back by real stats)

Also gen z we called in Spanish Generacion cristal translates to glass generation.... Very sensitive gen. i blame this due to lack of social dynamics, dick in pussy experiences, isolation etc... is just a weird gen. full of afc men and women, but super friendly as fuck, which is a contradiction like i said last year.

- following the above, With that being said i find women more friendly from gen Z, hot women will approach more guys with the fundies/style on point, will open you and are just more friendly... Though again for me getting open does not mean shit!

- Virgins and low lay count girls will give it up easy vs previous gens, this was still strong in 2024.

- Gen z women have 2 extremes, hear me out, they ARE WAY MORE CONSERVATIVE THAN ANY OTHER GEN.... You will see girls with extremely low counts, you will see girls that just do serial monogamy, you will see group of girls at clubs practically NAKED IN THE WAY THEY DRESS, and they will go out to clubs in group tits out, butt out, and go home together without hooking up...rinse was repeat...

- But then you have another extreme that is a minority ordering guys and fucking guys like pizza from dating apps, doing sugar baby shit, cheating on their boyfriends, fucking a lot of guys, bi shit, but is a MINORITY, for what i have observe the majority CONSERVATIVE AS FUCK...

- I saw a strong decline in tats (good), for the guys/girls with tats still patch tats is what is in, again due to tiktok...

- Facial hair, no facial hair or the porno mustache (i blame chase for the trend,j/k), but the porno/pedo mustache is in.... Remember guys i still recommend MY OWN BIAS the poverty beard which is what i rock, for those of you that don't give a fuck and still into beards, but a slight adaptation, have your barber use the LOWEST SETTING POSSIBLE, for all parts MINUS THE MUSTACHE AND SOUL PATCH, that i a way around it, and is in...

- Hair styles in modern mullet, fluffy french, messy tapper still in, and a lot of hair on top in general...

-baseball caps still in/ regular hat (sombreros) out.

- hoodies in, specially cropped.

- skinny jeans out, Chelsea's for god sake out, air forces out jesus... Some seducers are doing tight on top baggy bottom with success, i personally recommend baggy just looks better in my opinion...

- A very LEAN LOOK IS BACK, vs packing a lot of muscle, go for a lean look again i highly recommend KINOBODY after trying everything from all fitness influencers...Field test please... is soo easy and effective that i won't stop till you guys try it...

- I saw a weird trend of girls blocking when they were still invested and high interest, a weird form of autorejection (defense mechanism)

- A lot of more sugar dating going on, or pay for play, quick pro quo increasing, and even expected... I never experienced sooooooooo much of this in my life, unbelievableIt feels like you are literally in colombia, you pull a hottie and she ask for money out of the blue, crazy!

- Economy is shit, a lot of puas checking out to eat and work... And is actually legit, no cope, like the copers "let me focus on biz i can't cold approach" no, is actually legit...

- Cold approach is a dying breed... Most guys that i even know were good at it doing more insta and online. same as last year


Some game trends:

- Ignore blocking with invested, interested women read this for context.

- stop worrying soo much about coming across as boyfriend, most guys are not understanding this and causing unnecessary auto rejections..

- be a bit more persistent with gen z without worrying about being needy, they are afc and you may think they are not game, but they are just afc as fuck.

- lots of guys checking out the game with girfriends/wifes (example Karea)

- lots of guys getting older and tired of the grind (i am almost there)

- In this market place the mating market is becoming crazy, you need to have fundamentals, know how to do a to z aspects of seduction, from opening to close almost flawlessly which is again a problem with guys that even though they are trying, learning, grinding, they are not getting those many dick in pussy experiences over than over that help developing into an actual gamer... This mating process was not like this back in the days even if you approach you could have a shot of success with women just by the natural mating process (i know this sounds like mental masturbation but I knew a lot of guys that did not know what they were doing with girlfriends now a days, good luck with this)...

-competition cont. to be none existent for seducers, is actually easier for us to compete.

- Texting style that took me 15 years to convince the community to adopt is now the NORM (and everyone spinning it)... Though minimal banter vs my original block of text in fairness... Text to meet/texting for logistics, outdated and does not work...though some how people till recently still advocating the none sense, jesus crhist!

- Try texting faster.- This one is HUGE, back in the day we advice to match her response time, so if she took an hour to text back you take an hour and 10 minutes at least..... or couple of hours etc...... if she text just text right away back... Don't worry about looking needy just text back right away..

- Girls more likely to use find my friends app. (so you are fucked, fbi work)

- more natural/physical game vs technical game...

- When Verbal's/tech more focus on comfort vs sexual arousal

- higher % of socially awkward girls Gen z are afc as fuck

- girls super sensitive to perceived rejection, don't understand sarcasm, breaking rapport and even teasing may backfire with college crowd. For example back in the day when girls went for make out i would pull back, tease and then pull showing i can kiss, or make out in a sensual way vs sloppy make out after making it work for it.... z gen may autoreject automatically if you do things like this, you need to actually make out.... Weird! but i confirm is not only me happening to a lot of my seducers friends...

- humor is fine, just dumb it down

- Be careful with sarcasm, too cocky, kiss denials again this genz is afc and autistic though social, but they are low self esteem, easy to go into auto rejection...

- ^ kiss denials stop working last 3 years or so.- back in the day we would create sexual tension and pretend we would kiss and tease and pull back, with gen z this stop working last 3 years.... Context cold approach night game mainly USA. Women will auto reject and cut interaction, you are better off making out ..

- lower your reliance on approach invites, i have notice it is on with girls that don't give me anything, MORE THAN PREVIOUS YEARS.- Need to clarify, obviously i still get approach invites, no capitalizing in approach invites is dumb.... What i am saying and pay attention, don't worry as much as in the past on forcing and relying on approach invites, even if she does not give you anything a lot of times is on.... This one is more for night game context specially....

- For God SAKE please forget about coming across as a boyfriend jesus, coming across needy when texting faster, texting when you are blocked or not being proactive when she doesn't respond etc... Women are getting all type of none sense advice from tiktok social media that is the equivalent of red pill for women, you will lose lays...

- More liberal positive views about sex, multiple partners, gay, lesbians, bi, relationship, set ups etc... (i wonder if this is why second gen. drop in use for seduction)

- Again more bi/lesbians than previous years or women being bi curious than ever before..

Solutions ( i still put some that apply from 2024):

- Keep grinding is my solution number 1 you can still get laid and a lot, but you need to be consistent, find a day or 2 preferably no less than 2 to CONSTANTLY SARGE, the excuse of work, running biz etc... is just excuses i am sure you can find some type to consistent sarge i have done and cont. doing it for more than 20 years... (again getting rid of drugs and alcohol help with this)

- Cross game and when you cross game, cross game on the cross game (sounds like a rap).- You need preferably to combine all games, an ideal situation in my opinion is going about your day day game, online/apps when you are in the toilet or waiting in line, night game once or twice a week. But lets say you day game you need to constantly go to different malls or parks or ____ fill in the blank to see how target rich they are... On online/apps at least 4 apps, online is not tinder for fuck sake, tinder is actually in my opinion the worst. IN night game as i have been saying minimum, specially now 3 venues, close to each other walking distance, go out different nights to see the best night aka women actually coming out in your city.

- Travel, go to different cities or areas to game, if you have the means to travel just travel... Puas with most success last year were all traveling in one way or another... Example Allen Iverson..

- move out of usa to a more fucking normal sexual market place (Most guys are doing this)

- If you are a nightgamer try brunches or day game anything party/music such as hotel pool parties... again brunches type stuff, credit dww (though i learned this from primo and talked about it in nextasf), but dww reminded me...

- Diversify with Online, but if you will do online, make sure you just don't do it, cause of shadowbaned, learned it properly before you do it, me and pob did couple of minimalist posts here and here ... Problem with this is i notice people confuse diversify with ONLINE ONLY... Guys get too comfortable, online should be back up and no the MAIN FORM OF GAMING... and if you will do it minimum 3 sources number 1 should be hinge, 2 bumble, tinder last ( geographically dependent)...The more optimized profile in many dating apps the better...Some will only need one cause they are looked maxed, photo max styled max... But if you are reading this THAT IS NOT YOU...

- As much as in the past i advice and kind of still do, against instagram, make sure you have a cool insta just as an insurance, though try going for number, the thing is if you are going to have an insta just make sure does NOT WORK AGAINST YOU, at least neutral no cringe or try hard...

- If you don't have a follow up method (for me texting) good luck getting laid all the time with ons, ons are becoming harder and harder, dtf not coming out as much as back in the days....

- move from a major city to a more favorable sexual market place for example WEst palm (hotter women than Miami and Broward, less competition). In other words move from a major city Miami, to a second or 3 type city (palm beach in my case 3rd type city in south Florida)... This may have also draw backs cause less quantity but more quality, but less male competition. ( I am not competing with professional sports players for example).

- move to a college town, the con is that when school is out, you will not get supply of young women...

- Lock in a girl/girls even if an ok girl vs personal 10 keep her or help her with fixer upper game. While you improve and hunt (i already explain how to do both in different articles, so you monkey branch, reverse hypergamy). This is hard to do though without the experience.

- This is a GEM I DISCOVERED.- For some reason Latin type clubs have not been affected as much by the trends. IN Latin clubs (i don't really like them but) it seems they are stuck in 2010, lol, in other words women are out there, you can find dtfs, etc... it seems latin only clubs, have not change and gotten better cause of the popularity or reggatton which promotes sexual escalation and lack of courtship the 2 problems i always had with latin clubs... This is something i will explore more since that was never my target club, but i seen this.

- PRE-DOING ONLINE, this is something that one of the best guys in this forum doing online taught me(this is verifiable by me).... please do this if not you will be wasting your time.... Go to Photofeeler, AGAIN GO TO PHOTOFEELER... put the settting for the women of your target audience only lets say 18-34, can only vote, we don't give a shit about dudes voting... Unless you get 8 or above on your pics, YOU WILL NOT UPLOAD ON TINDER ETC... This is the way around shadow banned.... If you already have a tinder, do this and get a new cheap phone or account, so you don't get shadow banned.... What is shadow banned when the syster thinks you are a 5 and just show you 5s and below women or no women or matches.... Again apps is not tinder, minimum 4, tinder, hinge, bumble, and pic another one such as fetlife, coffee met bagels, okkupid/pof (if you are older gen z)...

- Fundamentals have to be on point all the time is saddens me that in clubs i dress better and even in the seduction community of dudes less than half my age...- Try to go out of comfort zone with fundamentals.... ... it saddens me that guys don't update to current styles of clothing... How pathetic it is that even most seducers, don't fucking know how to dress, jesus christ!

There are from @DoWhatWorks from last year still apply:

"Going to areas with multiple venues close by is still the fail safe method. You can still get good/busy nights but the trend of winner takes all in nightgame continues. I've found some new good places with favorable ratios and the way I found it was:

1. Trial and error (lucky to have a wing who goes out a lot so I basically outsourced this lol)

2. Asking attractive girls what places they like to go (Topcat recommended this to me, feel v stupid didn't think of it myself)

3. "Events" are becoming more important than the venue. Venues often host different "nights" e.g. R&B night Friday, then Jazz Saturdays. When you understand the music, demographic & ratios of different events you can better time your visit and have more consistent good nights.

There are also "events" which pop up in different locations and don't have a consistent "base". I think because of the economy these type of nights will increase because it allows organizers to make money without having consistent building costs by only renting as they need it.

4. Instagram - find the "cool" events that girls are following/commenting below asking their friends if they want to go. They're surprisingly cheap & tend to be cute looking or laid back grungy"




Videos must watch for context on the above:








 

Kvothe

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def more on the depressing side :/

(in terms of the observations themselves)
 
a good date brings a smile to your lips... and hers

Gorili

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@Skills,

The comprehensiveness and accuracy of this piece is absolutely world-class. I strongly encourage anyone to read this from top to bottom and understand the implications that these current trends will have on the type of game that they're doing.

Minus the night game-specific, LGBTQ, and sugar baby stuff (all of which I'm not familiar with), everything else pretty much aligns with my experience.

The points that resonated the most with me are the following:
- Death of seduction community, though i saw lets in fighting, more unity, but 0 to no innovation to be honest, people just pretending to come up with stuff that was already created, repeating it water down pretending to be their stuff and coaches without giving credit like they came up with it...
- Gen z women have 2 extremes, hear me out, they ARE WAY MORE CONSERVATIVE THAN ANY OTHER GEN.... You will see girls with extremely low counts, you will see girls that just do serial monogamy, you will see group of girls at clubs practically NAKED IN THE WAY THEY DRESS, and they will go out to clubs in group tits out, butt out, and go home together without hooking up...rinse was repeat...
- stop worrying soo much about coming across as boyfriend, most guys are not understanding this and causing unnecessary auto rejections..
- In this market place the mating market is becoming crazy, you need to have fundamentals, know how to do a to z aspects of seduction, from opening to close almost flawlessly which is again a problem with guys that even though they are trying, learning, grinding, they are not getting those many dick in pussy experiences over than over that help developing into an actual gamer... This mating process was not like this back in the days even if you approach you could have a shot of success with women just by the natural mating process (i know this sounds like mental masturbation but I knew a lot of guys that did not know what they were doing with girlfriends now a days, good luck with this)...
- Texting style that took me 15 years to convince the community to adopt is now the NORM (and everyone spinning it)... Though minimal banter vs my original block of text in fairness... Text to meet/texting for logistics, outdated and does not work...though some how people till recently still advocating the none sense, jesus crhist!



My personal observations from the past year below (please opine if you have a different view)...
  • Location: United States, major metropolitan area, non-NYC
  • Type: day game

1. Increase in girls wearing earphones / headphones while walking around

If you search for this online, you'll see people telling you that a girl wearing earphones / headphones = she doesn't want to be bothered and you should "just leave her alone bro". This is a big lie propagated by keyboard warriors.

These women can be just as receptive. What you need to do is to get close and wave at her or use another non-verbal gesture to grab her attention. After she removes her device, you can open her as usual and treat her like any other girl.


2. An update on venues
  • College campus: Aside from winter break, which is an absolute ghost town, colleges have girls year-round. Summer will have lower volume though. Contrary to popular belief, you won't get kicked off if you make a bad approach. More general info here
  • Department store: Weather-proof and available year-round. Generally not subject to the negative trends associated with malls below but with exceptions. Examples: Macy's, Ross, Target, Walmart
  • Malls: This may be more of a North American thing, but there has been a significant and gradual decline in foot traffic at malls ever since COVID. If you see lots of empty storefronts or "For Lease" signs, this may not be a good mall to meet women. This has a domino effect. Even the streets and places around malls have a decrease in volume. One notable exception is during shopping season (i.e., November and December) when volume is up double
  • Outdoor ice skating rink with Christmas tree: I only discovered this recently. Make sure this is an outdoor and not indoor one and there's a Christmas tree (people are coming here to take pictures and hang out). It'll need to be located in the center of a major city to attract enough people. You'll know it's the one because there'll be tons of people, loud music, and heightened security. Almost all of the girls that are by themselves that I've met have been receptive. You should be walking around this venue, not ice skating or anything. It sort of resembles a major tourist attraction aside from the fact that it also pulls in locals. My theory is that if a girl is here by herself, the venue filters in those who are much more likely to be single / bored, or else she would have been accompanied by others. The major downside is that this is seasonal
  • Thrift store: A Gen Z favorite, thrift stores have a ton of younger girls, many of whom are leaning on the hipster side. Examples: Goodwill and Savers Value Village. Some of these stores may be messy with random boxes lying around but try to ignore it


3. Decline in day game practitioners, more "shoot your shot" types

Beginning in the 2nd half of last year, I noticed a sharp decline in guys doing day game in my city. In the past, there would always be a group of day gamers meeting up in the middle of the mall on the weekends. It was always the same group, and a few of them dressed in leather jackets. They would huddle, talk, and then go their separate ways to approach.

Even the tourist guys who were here for a few days approaching have disappeared. Explanation unknown.

A lot of the guys that I see now are more neo-direct types: "hey, can I have your number?", "you're really beautiful", etc. Girls have told me how some guys open them during the day time: "do you do social media content creation?", "where are you from?", "do you have a boyfriend?", etc.


4. Stark generational differences

Gen Z is a risk-averse generation when it comes to their actions but very liberal when it comes to their beliefs and value systems
. This may seem like an oxymoron, but please don't let their purported openness fool you. These observations are backed by research. In the study "The great decline in adolescent risk behaviours: Unitary trend, separate trends, or cascade?" from Social Science & Medicine, Ball et al. (2023) writes:

  • Adolescent risk behaviours declined markedly in high-income countries, 1999–2019.
  • The causes are complex and not fully understood; evidence to date is reviewed.
  • Less unsupervised in-person socialising led to declines in many risk behaviours.
  • Behaviour-specific factors contributed to smoking and drinking declines.
  • Drinking and smoking declines may have led to declines in sex, drugs, crime.
The emergence of online dating and ‘hookup’ apps (e.g. Tinder) and easy access to online pornography would be expected increase rather than decrease sexual activity among young people (Owens et al., 2012). However, a qualitative Dutch study suggests that the rise of digital flirting may have made young people increasingly shy and awkward about meeting potential romantic partners in real life, and could potentially help to explain delayed sexual initiation in recent cohorts (Cense, 2018).

Some Gen Z vs. Gen Y (aka Millennials) comparisons:
  • Much higher ghost and flake rates over texts and messaging. I'm not talking about +1% or +2%, but a much larger number. The results are statistically significant even after controlling for nationalities
  • The default communication method that they'll propose, for the most part, will be social media. This doesn't mean that you can't exchange numbers. Since I don't use social media, I really can't attest to this, but I wonder if sharing Instagram or Snap could decrease ghost and flake rates... has anyone measured this?
  • I'm not an anthropologist or sociologist, but please hear me out. Due to shifts in value systems, sexual mores, and the dominant cultural narrative within Gen Z, this could explain why certain seduction techniques that used to work have lost their merit and become less effective. 2 examples mentioned in the OP are boyfriend disqualification and 2nd gen. There are definitely more. If the trend is serial monogamy and you disqualify yourself as a boyfriend, you just lost the only opening available to you (on paper) and you end up in the nothing category. If everyone within her cohort / social circle are much more sexually liberated, using 2nd gen serves as more of a "check in the box" function, that you think like her and her mixed gender group of friends, rather than something that gives you bonus points
  • Fewer sexual partners. The number of girls who are clubbing, going to LGBTQ festivals, have like 10 different mixed gender social circles, have hundreds of followers or more on IG, and end up with no hoes (their words) is really astounding. This is intel straight from the horse's mouth. You would think they're hooking up with 5 guys at the same time, but nope


5. High receptiveness to instant dates

For one reason or another, girls are more open to instant dates, assuming that their logistics permit. I don't know why. It only takes a few minutes to establish basal comfort levels plus some emotional stimulation before a venue change.

And later you could take this all the way to the closing location. Don't be afraid to pull the trigger. This could be a potential hedge against flakes (from texting) but will require A to Z seduction in one-go, so you gotta be prepared every time you go out.


6. Living situations, logistical changes, and cities

Due to the flailing economy, more girls are staying away from the big cities. First, widespread layoffs have increased the competition and reduced the number of entry level jobs. College grads have become more likely to stay in their college towns temporarily. Others just straight up move back home.

Second, it's now much more socially acceptable for young people to live with their parents or relatives, even until their late-20s and beyond. The underlying factors are multivariate and too complex to explain, so I'll just link to this piece of research.

Just to clarify, this isn't meant to be a gloom and doom. I'm not saying that cities are dead.


7. Rise of the sigma

I'm not too familiar about its implications, but I know a lot more guys are trying to be sigma these days, perhaps as a replacement for alpha. The sigma male term is also well-established across Gen Z female discourse. That's all I know.


Question: The mainstream media has mentioned in 2024 that there is dating app fatigue. Has there been any real impacts on dating apps?


Regards,
Gorili
 

Skills

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@Skills,

The comprehensiveness and accuracy of this piece is absolutely world-class. I strongly encourage anyone to read this from top to bottom and understand the implications that these current trends will have on the type of game that they're doing.

Minus the night game-specific, LGBTQ, and sugar baby stuff (all of which I'm not familiar with), everything else pretty much aligns with my experience.

The points that resonated the most with me are the following:








My personal observations from the past year below (please opine if you have a different view)...
  • Location: United States, major metropolitan area, non-NYC
  • Type: day game

1. Increase in girls wearing earphones / headphones while walking around

If you search for this online, you'll see people telling you that a girl wearing earphones / headphones = she doesn't want to be bothered and you should "just leave her alone bro". This is a big lie propagated by keyboard warriors.

These women can be just as receptive. What you need to do is to get close and wave at her or use another non-verbal gesture to grab her attention. After she removes her device, you can open her as usual and treat her like any other girl.


2. An update on venues
  • College campus: Aside from winter break, which is an absolute ghost town, colleges have girls year-round. Summer will have lower volume though. Contrary to popular belief, you won't get kicked off if you make a bad approach. More general info here
  • Department store: Weather-proof and available year-round. Generally not subject to the negative trends associated with malls below but with exceptions. Examples: Macy's, Ross, Target, Walmart
  • Malls: This may be more of a North American thing, but there has been a significant and gradual decline in foot traffic at malls ever since COVID. If you see lots of empty storefronts or "For Lease" signs, this may not be a good mall to meet women. This has a domino effect. Even the streets and places around malls have a decrease in volume. One notable exception is during shopping season (i.e., November and December) when volume is up double
  • Outdoor ice skating rink with Christmas tree: I only discovered this recently. Make sure this is an outdoor and not indoor one and there's a Christmas tree (people are coming here to take pictures and hang out). It'll need to be located in the center of a major city to attract enough people. You'll know it's the one because there'll be tons of people, loud music, and heightened security. Almost all of the girls that are by themselves that I've met have been receptive. You should be walking around this venue, not ice skating or anything. It sort of resembles a major tourist attraction aside from the fact that it also pulls in locals. My theory is that if a girl is here by herself, the venue filters in those who are much more likely to be single / bored, or else she would have been accompanied by others. The major downside is that this is seasonal
  • Thrift store: A Gen Z favorite, thrift stores have a ton of younger girls, many of whom are leaning on the hipster side. Examples: Goodwill and Savers Value Village. Some of these stores may be messy with random boxes lying around but try to ignore it


3. Decline in day game practitioners, more "shoot your shot" types

Beginning in the 2nd half of last year, I noticed a sharp decline in guys doing day game in my city. In the past, there would always be a group of day gamers meeting up in the middle of the mall on the weekends. It was always the same group, and a few of them dressed in leather jackets. They would huddle, talk, and then go their separate ways to approach.

Even the tourist guys who were here for a few days approaching have disappeared. Explanation unknown.

A lot of the guys that I see now are more neo-direct types: "hey, can I have your number?", "you're really beautiful", etc. Girls have told me how some guys open them during the day time: "do you do social media content creation?", "where are you from?", "do you have a boyfriend?", etc.


4. Stark generational differences

Gen Z is a risk-averse generation when it comes to their actions but very liberal when it comes to their beliefs and value systems
. This may seem like an oxymoron, but please don't let their purported openness fool you. These observations are backed by research. In the study "The great decline in adolescent risk behaviours: Unitary trend, separate trends, or cascade?" from Social Science & Medicine, Ball et al. (2023) writes:




Some Gen Z vs. Gen Y (aka Millennials) comparisons:
  • Much higher ghost and flake rates over texts and messaging. I'm not talking about +1% or +2%, but a much larger number. The results are statistically significant even after controlling for nationalities
  • The default communication method that they'll propose, for the most part, will be social media. This doesn't mean that you can't exchange numbers. Since I don't use social media, I really can't attest to this, but I wonder if sharing Instagram or Snap could decrease ghost and flake rates... has anyone measured this?
  • I'm not an anthropologist or sociologist, but please hear me out. Due to shifts in value systems, sexual mores, and the dominant cultural narrative within Gen Z, this could explain why certain seduction techniques that used to work have lost their merit and become less effective. 2 examples mentioned in the OP are boyfriend disqualification and 2nd gen. There are definitely more. If the trend is serial monogamy and you disqualify yourself as a boyfriend, you just lost the only opening available to you (on paper) and you end up in the nothing category. If everyone within her cohort / social circle are much more sexually liberated, using 2nd gen serves as more of a "check in the box" function, that you think like her and her mixed gender group of friends, rather than something that gives you bonus points
  • Fewer sexual partners. The number of girls who are clubbing, going to LGBTQ festivals, have like 10 different mixed gender social circles, have hundreds of followers or more on IG, and end up with no hoes (their words) is really astounding. This is intel straight from the horse's mouth. You would think they're hooking up with 5 guys at the same time, but nope


5. High receptiveness to instant dates

For one reason or another, girls are more open to instant dates, assuming that their logistics permit. I don't know why. It only takes a few minutes to establish basal comfort levels plus some emotional stimulation before a venue change.

And later you could take this all the way to the closing location. Don't be afraid to pull the trigger. This could be a potential hedge against flakes (from texting) but will require A to Z seduction in one-go, so you gotta be prepared every time you go out.


6. Living situations, logistical changes, and cities

Due to the flailing economy, more girls are staying away from the big cities. First, widespread layoffs have increased the competition and reduced the number of entry level jobs. College grads have become more likely to stay in their college towns temporarily. Others just straight up move back home.

Second, it's now much more socially acceptable for young people to live with their parents or relatives, even until their late-20s and beyond. The underlying factors are multivariate and too complex to explain, so I'll just link to this piece of research.

Just to clarify, this isn't meant to be a gloom and doom. I'm not saying that cities are dead.


7. Rise of the sigma

I'm not too familiar about its implications, but I know a lot more guys are trying to be sigma these days, perhaps as a replacement for alpha. The sigma male term is also well-established across Gen Z female discourse. That's all I know.


Question: The mainstream media has mentioned in 2024 that there is dating app fatigue. Has there been any real impacts on dating apps?


Regards,
Gorili
Very good gorilli... The sigma is a meme it has been bastardized, which is a shame, i am a strong advocate of sigma sonce nextasf days, brought it over there...dating app fatigue is real, has been real for last 3 years... But is still a lead source...
 

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Another great yearly review by Skills. Everything here is spot on.

- Gen z women have 2 extremes, hear me out, they ARE WAY MORE CONSERVATIVE THAN ANY OTHER GEN.... You will see girls with extremely low counts, you will see girls that just do serial monogamy, you will see group of girls at clubs practically NAKED IN THE WAY THEY DRESS, and they will go out to clubs in group tits out, butt out, and go home together without hooking up...rinse was repeat...

- But then you have another extreme that is a minority ordering guys and fucking guys like pizza from dating apps, doing sugar baby shit, cheating on their boyfriends, fucking a lot of guys, bi shit, but is a MINORITY, for what i have observe the majority CONSERVATIVE AS FUCK...
This is an interesting observation.

I'm usually a daygamer, but recently been doing more night game. One thing I've noticed is that the reality of night game these days seems pretty different from what I've read about it.

I don't know if it's just the culture of where I am. Obviously every country has a different club culture, and perhaps hooking up in clubs is still common elsewhere.

But on all my recent outings (in which I stay out usually until 3-4am or until the club closes) I have not seen a single girl hook up with a guy she met at the bar unless she knew him previously or it was some sort of arrangement. It just doesn't happen anymore. Hell, I don't even see guys approaching girls at the bar for anything other than to get her Instagram.

From what's described about the old days, it used to be that the "pairing up" started around 1-2am at the club, but nowadays it seems like most just go home with the same friends they came with.

When I or my wing approaches a sexy-dressed girl at a bar or club, she is receptive and friendly more often than not, but trying to isolate her from her friends to run a proper seduction is useless. The best result we can hope for is a phone number or instagram (which in night game is usually worthless anyway). Or if they're really friendly, we join their table, but this never results in pulling any of the girls home at the end of the night. Usually one of them gets crazy drunk, and the responsible one takes them all away.

Again, I'm sure there's variance between countries and cities, but it seems like a lot of Gen Z's do not view bars and night clubs as places to hook up anymore. They're just a place to go out with friends, get drunk, maybe flirt a little and enjoy the attention, then go home at the end of the night.

My feeling is that there are less opportunities now in night game and more opportunities in other non-traditional places for pickup. For example, those brunches DWW mentioned. Also, what you said about focusing on events rather than venues, and also what @Gorili mentioned about instadates being much easier to lead to a SDL (which I can attest to - have had multiple daygame SDLs this year, though nothing as noteworthy as @James D's anal in the park lmao).

But on the whole, it does seem like both men and women are becoming more conservative, dating slower, and having less sex. I've met a lot of girls who haven't had sex in months, and many who I'm pretty sure have no sex partners currently in their lives. I noticed this in Thailand, China, Spain and even Brazil, so it's not a single culture thing. After reading what you're saying about the USA, it seems like this might be a global trend. Gen Z is fast becoming the "Sexless Generation".

Thank god for PUA...
 
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Another great yearly review by Skills. Everything here is spot on.


This is an interesting observation.

I'm usually a daygamer, but recently been doing more night game. One thing I've noticed is that the reality of night game these days seems pretty different from what I've read about it.

I don't know if it's just the culture of where I am. Obviously every country has a different club culture, and perhaps hooking up in clubs is still common elsewhere.

But on all my recent outings (in which I stay out usually until 3-4am or until the club closes) I have not seen a single girl hook up with a guy she met at the bar unless she knew him previously or it was some sort of arrangement. It just doesn't happen anymore. Hell, I don't even see guys approaching girls at the bar for anything other than to get her Instagram.

From what's described about the old days, it used to be that the "pairing up" started around 1-2am at the club, but nowadays it seems like most just go home with the same friends they came with.

When I or my wing approaches a sexy-dressed girl at a bar or club, she is receptive and friendly more often than not, but trying to isolate her from her friends to run a proper seduction is useless. The best result we can hope for is a phone number or instagram (which in night game is usually worthless anyway). Or if they're really friendly, we join their table, but this never results in pulling any of the girls home at the end of the night. Usually one of them gets crazy drunk, and the responsible one takes them all away.

Again, I'm sure there's variance between countries and cities, but it seems like a lot of Gen Z's do not view bars and night clubs as places to hook up anymore. They're just a place to go out with friends, get drunk, maybe flirt a little and enjoy the attention, then go home at the end of the night.

My feeling is that there are less opportunities now in night game and more opportunities in other non-traditional places for pickup. For example, those brunches DWW mentioned. Also, what you said about focusing on events rather than venues, and also what @Gorili mentioned about instadates being much easier to lead to a SDL (which I can attest to - have had multiple daygame SDLs this year, though nothing as noteworthy as @James D's anal in the park lmao).

But on the whole, it does seem like both men and women are becoming more conservative, dating slower, and having less sex. I've met a lot of girls who haven't had sex in months, and many who I'm pretty sure have no sex partners currently in their lives. I noticed this in Thailand, China, Spain and even Brazil, so it's not a single culture thing. After reading what you're saying about the USA, it seems like this might be a global trend. Gen Z is fast becoming the "Sexless Generation".

Thank god for PUA...
People still pull don't get me wrong but nothing like previous years.. Where are you located??
 

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The default communication method that they'll propose, for the most part, will be social media. This doesn't mean that you can't exchange numbers. Since I don't use social media, I really can't attest to this, but I wonder if sharing Instagram or Snap could decrease ghost and flake rates... has anyone measured this?

Having a high status IG can help a lot. "Not using" social media is tough - the girl is likely to assume you are weird.


When I or my wing approaches a sexy-dressed girl at a bar or club, she is receptive and friendly more often than not, but trying to isolate her from her friends to run a proper seduction is useless. The best result we can hope for is a phone number or instagram (which in night game is usually worthless anyway). Or if they're really friendly, we join their table, but this never results in pulling any of the girls home at the end of the night. Usually one of them gets crazy drunk, and the responsible one takes them all away.


do you never try to pull the whole group ? Isolating can be more challenging and socially uncalibrated at times. RSDLuke taught to not isolate during nightgame unless it's clear and obvious situation. Pulling the whole group is a solid choice and then can lead to 3somes or 4somes (assuming you have routines for that - also sometimes it's you can fuck both girls separately...)
 
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People still pull don't get me wrong but nothing like previous years.. Where are you located??
Asia

Yeah, like I said, cultural differences. I have not seen it happening much here at least not among locals, doesn't mean it doesn't happen elsewhere (and obviously I'm not talking about tourists, sex tourism, etc)
 

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Yeah, like I said, cultural differences. I have not seen it happening much here at least not among locals, doesn't mean it doesn't happen elsewhere (and obviously I'm not talking about tourists, sex tourism, etc)
Again, we are in agreement, i am not seeing it, but my point is it happens... Nah here the same most guys are per post majority not getting laid, i see the same here, but my point is it happens just not as frequent as previous years...
 
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