My first daygame approach!

[trilegius]

Hey guys! Finally I did it! I’m glad I finally found the courage to do it!
After a couple of days of going out,walking down the streets, not seeing many girls and even when I saw one that I was interested in, letting her pass me by I did it!
I went out again today to do daygame,hoping I was going to spot more girls and that I would finally summon the courage to approach them.Again there were not many girls out,I saw a couple but I second guessed myself and didn’t approach.
After walking around for about 30 minutes, I said to myself, ok there are not many girls again so I must focus on approaching at least one(I live in a small city about 147000 people and it’s summer break so it is kind of empty).
So I went into the biggest park of the city and I spot this girl walking behind me which seemed pretty cute. So I said this is it I must do it!
I slow down my walk and when she got on my side I opened her with:

Me:-Excuse me..
Her:-Yes
Me:-I just wanted to tell you you’re beautiful
Her:Thanks(smiles)
Me:I’m John.
Her:-Alina.I’m in a hurry.
Me:Oh ok good bye!
And that was it! Now I wasn’t expecting to go well or something I just wanted to do it.It reminded me of the first girl I talked to back in school I think it was second grade or something,it was the experience that made me not try to talk to girls and make something happen at all(at least not face to face).It was exactly like this I introduced myself she introduced herself and I stood there like a moron not knowing what to say.Of course the difference was that I did it in the classroom not in a park.

Now a couple of things I think I did good and bad:
-I approached 
-I approached from the side,I didn’t scared her
-I introduced myself(guess it is a good thing)
-I made eye contact

And now the bad things:
-I didn’t grounded my opener
-I didn’t smile
-I probably could talk a little more but I just got nervous
-I think I should not have opened her directly I mean she was cute but not wow,I think I seemed a bit insincere,but she still smiled
-And the worst one I rushed through the opener,actually through the short interaction haha

Now I’m really glad I did it, I know that I repeat myself but I’m glad I did it, because it made me realize why Chase and all of you guys that take action and post your experiences on the forum,put so much importance into taking action!
I admit it I got into the trap of reading and reading and reading some more, without applying anything.And it was because I’m a fucking perfectionist!
I thought that I needed to read more,that if I read more I could get over the stage when I need to exercise the openers till I deliver them good enough,till I don’t rush through them ,I thought that I can open and then keep a conversation…but this first cold approach showed me that no you can’t do that.You need to be comfortable opening and only then you can proceed to have some small talk and so on.
And I’m also glad,because it showed me how much work I need to do.Which is pretty scary , when you think that it is such a long way to go, the promise land seems so far away…but I have to do it I have no choice!

I wanna ask for some tips too guys.

I don’t know I should keep going direct? I honestly would try to go more indirect but I don’t know what types of openers to use during the day others than asking for directions or for the time?I also think about using indirect-direct.
I also want some tips about this rushing through the opener problem that I have.Should I focus on talking more slow and take my time? I know this is because I was a little bit nervous.Did any of you guys have this problem when you first start out? And how did you get over it?

And I'm curious I should have posted this in the field reports?

I hope I’ll get some wisdom from you guys so I can keep going and approach more!

Thanks!

 

[kalyan]

Hey buddy,
Congrats! You did something 80% of guys never do, or only do when drunk.
Naturally you made a few mistakes. You went fast, were a bit confused, probably didn't really think too much as you weren't focused due to nervousness.. But im sure you felt like a king afterwards.
My view on this:
- before you approach next time, make an effort to be slow in your talk.
- never start with "excuse me" or "sorry". A sexy man never apologizes unless he means it, and you dont want to apologize for trying to make her life a bit more interesting.
- when a girl says she's in a hurry or she has a boyfriend, don't let them off the hook so fast. For the first case, go "its fine im in a rush too, how about we meet sometime next week?" Amd get her number. Boyfriend card? Go "come onnnn don't lie to me"
- Dont aim at making the approach perfect. Your goal is to make mistakes and learn from them.

 

[trilegius]

Thank you guys! Kaylan I said "Excuse me" to grab her attention,maybe I should have said "hey" or something like this but there are a lot of guys who use "Excuse me" I guess it is important the tonality that you use,if it screams that you want approval from her,which is how I sounded it is not good.But thanks for the advice!

 

[kalyan]

I get it, you didnt really mean you were apologizing: it was something to get her attention.
A quick replace would be "hey there". Has the same effect, but an improvement on excuse me