Hi folks,
My girlfriend of 2 years has decided to call it quits. She's quite a bit younger than me, and comes from a very affluent family. I'm not a rich guy by any means -- probably solidly middle or lower middle class. I can afford nice things, but definitely not the kind of lifestyle that her family can afford her.
We started out as FWBs, and eventually became an item because she is very mature (for her age), gives me a lot of space and does not create drama. Because she is still a student, after we started sleeping together, I pay for most of the stuff that we do together. I have her pay for small items here and there, so that she doesn't take us for granted. Personally, I don't think it is nice to have her pay for too many things, because it's her family's money, not hers. She took a lot of initiative, especially in the beginning, to offer to foot the bill every now and then, which I appreciated a lot. Not many girls offer to do that nowadays.
She is a foreigner studying in my country, and has to return home during her term break. I always thought that it might be a barrier for us long-term, because she is young, career-minded, and her family has the capability to jet her to all kinds of places.
We recently absconded to another country for a vacation, and that was probably where her concerns were set off. Because my credit cards didn't work there, she had to foot the bill for a lot of the things that we did together, and she was initially very upset about that. We eventually patched things up, and had a great holiday (if sex is a good metric, we had lots of it, especially after patching up), but I could tell that one of the things I said while patching up really affected her.
When we were patching up, she joked about me giving her an allowance, but I could tell that she was testing me too, so I told her that I will not give her an allowance if we were just dating. That really affected her for quite a fair bit, and it was what got her thinking about us more properly. Her mum married out of love when she was younger, and had to hustle to raise her when her parents eventually divorced. Her mum worked very hard to get herself into a good middle-to-high class job and eventually managed to marry a tycoon, and she told me she did not want to squander everything her mum worked for.
I have never been one to think that wealth plays a part in relationships if you've got game. Recently, after watching a lot of Andrew Tate, I've started to think otherwise. Wealth seems to open so many doors, and gives you access to so many more options. I went into a mini-depression last year after seeing one of his videos, because I felt what he said was so true. I have a very comfortable job that pays quite well and has me working what is essentially a 3-day week, so I have a lot of time to myself. I could be earning so much more if I was willing to, but I am lazy, stubborn and complacent.
I hope you guys don't think too badly of my girl, because she is a genuinely wonderful girl. I can probably sway her back if I wanted to (let me know if you think otherwise), but I'm not sure if this is the best thing to do for the both of us. I don't think our relationship can work after she graduates, so if we got back together, I am just dragging out the inevitable.
What will you do in my shoes? And how important do you think wealth is? I definitely got a fire lit under my ass about earning that absurd money now, and I think that's a good thing I'm getting out of this, at least.
My girlfriend of 2 years has decided to call it quits. She's quite a bit younger than me, and comes from a very affluent family. I'm not a rich guy by any means -- probably solidly middle or lower middle class. I can afford nice things, but definitely not the kind of lifestyle that her family can afford her.
We started out as FWBs, and eventually became an item because she is very mature (for her age), gives me a lot of space and does not create drama. Because she is still a student, after we started sleeping together, I pay for most of the stuff that we do together. I have her pay for small items here and there, so that she doesn't take us for granted. Personally, I don't think it is nice to have her pay for too many things, because it's her family's money, not hers. She took a lot of initiative, especially in the beginning, to offer to foot the bill every now and then, which I appreciated a lot. Not many girls offer to do that nowadays.
She is a foreigner studying in my country, and has to return home during her term break. I always thought that it might be a barrier for us long-term, because she is young, career-minded, and her family has the capability to jet her to all kinds of places.
We recently absconded to another country for a vacation, and that was probably where her concerns were set off. Because my credit cards didn't work there, she had to foot the bill for a lot of the things that we did together, and she was initially very upset about that. We eventually patched things up, and had a great holiday (if sex is a good metric, we had lots of it, especially after patching up), but I could tell that one of the things I said while patching up really affected her.
When we were patching up, she joked about me giving her an allowance, but I could tell that she was testing me too, so I told her that I will not give her an allowance if we were just dating. That really affected her for quite a fair bit, and it was what got her thinking about us more properly. Her mum married out of love when she was younger, and had to hustle to raise her when her parents eventually divorced. Her mum worked very hard to get herself into a good middle-to-high class job and eventually managed to marry a tycoon, and she told me she did not want to squander everything her mum worked for.
I have never been one to think that wealth plays a part in relationships if you've got game. Recently, after watching a lot of Andrew Tate, I've started to think otherwise. Wealth seems to open so many doors, and gives you access to so many more options. I went into a mini-depression last year after seeing one of his videos, because I felt what he said was so true. I have a very comfortable job that pays quite well and has me working what is essentially a 3-day week, so I have a lot of time to myself. I could be earning so much more if I was willing to, but I am lazy, stubborn and complacent.
I hope you guys don't think too badly of my girl, because she is a genuinely wonderful girl. I can probably sway her back if I wanted to (let me know if you think otherwise), but I'm not sure if this is the best thing to do for the both of us. I don't think our relationship can work after she graduates, so if we got back together, I am just dragging out the inevitable.
What will you do in my shoes? And how important do you think wealth is? I definitely got a fire lit under my ass about earning that absurd money now, and I think that's a good thing I'm getting out of this, at least.
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