My Hero’s Journey

[Mikedee]

Sitting here in my car, I'm realizing I don’t have any solid options right now. Had to cut off two girls in one week because they didn’t meet my standards and were draining me. Honestly, they were decent, but I settled because I had no other choices. I’m really at my breaking point; I’m tired of not having attractive women I can hit up when I want. No more complaining — starting tomorrow,.
The night before starting daygame.
listening to my favorite spiritual teacher on YouTube and read street hustle by Tom Torreo. I will only listen to subliminals overnight to help with my confidence. My only focus tomorrow is to approach 5 women between the hours of 11 and 1 pm.
I will keep everyone posted.

 

[Mikedee]

My new work location is way farther from downtown compared to my old spot, which was right in the heart of it. That means my only option for daygame now has to be somewhere nearby. There’s a decent target about 15 minutes away, plus a shopping plaza around the same distance. Not a lot of choices on workdays. My other option? Drive 30 minutes to one of the biggest malls in the country.

No matter what, I need to sit down tonight and map out a real schedule for my daygame. Between mortgage payments and raising a kid, life stress can cloud my mind. I was watching a Tom Torero video on financial freedom, and it got me thinking about starting a business. So yeah, my mind is all over the place, I don’t have all the answers yet. But as crazy as it sounds, I feel like daygame will help me focus and set my priorities... or could it do the opposite? Either way, I’m stepping into the hero’s journey.

 

[Mikedee]

Goals for the Week of March 3, 2025​

1. Get Comfortable Approaching Women Anytime, Anywhere
   I struggle to approach women before and after work. After reflecting, I realize it’s likely a state issue or maybe I don’t feel solid in my fundamentals. To fix the state issue, I’ll keep reminding myself where my dating life will be in 10 years if I don’t take this seriously. As for fundamentals, I’ll wear my "game clothes" while doing daygame and bring my work clothes to change into afterward.
2. Commit to Daygame Hours
   • At least 1 hour on workdays
   • At least 2 hours on non-workdays
3. Follow a Structured Approach (London Daygame Model)
   I usually freestyle, but let’s be real—it’s not getting me the results I want. I’ll give the London Daygame Model a shot. What do you think of this model? @bkw Are there better options for a beginner?

That’s it for this week. The main goal is just getting back into the field. I’m sure next week, I’ll have more to focus on, like text game, follow-ups, etc.

Thoughts?

 

[bkw]

Goals for the Week of March 3, 2025​

1. Get Comfortable Approaching Women Anytime, Anywhere
   I struggle to approach women before and after work. After reflecting, I realize it’s likely a state issue or maybe I don’t feel solid in my fundamentals. To fix the state issue, I’ll keep reminding myself where my dating life will be in 10 years if I don’t take this seriously. As for fundamentals, I’ll wear my "game clothes" while doing daygame and bring my work clothes to change into afterward.
2. Commit to Daygame Hours
   • At least 1 hour on workdays
   • At least 2 hours on non-workdays
3. Follow a Structured Approach (London Daygame Model)
   I usually freestyle, but let’s be real—it’s not getting me the results I want. I’ll give the London Daygame Model a shot. What do you think of this model? @bkw Are there better options for a beginner?

That’s it for this week. The main goal is just getting back into the field. I’m sure next week, I’ll have more to focus on, like text game, follow-ups, etc.

Thoughts?

If you feel you need structure, then follow the LDM. That's what it's there for. At least it'll get you approaching, getting into conversations, and learning how to close. It goes into specifics like what to say, etc., so you can fall back on something. Once you get comfortable talking to women in general, you can freestyle if you can hold decent conversations, and then close. GL!

If you don't like the LDM, then try something else. I personally don't think it's the holy grail, but it'll get you approaching and into conversations and learning how to converse. That's the point. You'll have to take note of what you can do better along the way and then learn to close

 

[Mikedee]

Hit up Target today and wandered around a bit. Didn’t make any approaches in the morning, but I did squeeze one in during lunch. Ended up chatting with a below average woman, not exactly my dream girl, but right now, I’m just focused on stacking positive references.

My opening was solid, and she actually offered her number. Tried to roll with a handcuff joke I referenced in person over text, but it flopped. @Skills , feel free to weigh in.

Game plan for tomorrow stays the same—hit the streets for an hour and approach as many as possible. Noticed my mindset shifted after coffee this morning—got jittery and stuck in my head, which probably killed my momentum despite seeing plenty of solo shoppers worth talking to.

Goals for tomorrow:

1. One hour of daygame—minimum of four approaches.
2. Switch to decaf.

 

[Mikedee]

https://imgur.com/a/ld6iK9f

 

[Skills]

Hit up Target today and wandered around a bit. Didn’t make any approaches in the morning, but I did squeeze one in during lunch. Ended up chatting with a below average woman, not exactly my dream girl, but right now, I’m just focused on stacking positive references.

My opening was solid, and she actually offered her number. Tried to roll with a handcuff joke I referenced in person over text, but it flopped. @Skills , feel free to weigh in.

Game plan for tomorrow stays the same—hit the streets for an hour and approach as many as possible. Noticed my mindset shifted after coffee this morning—got jittery and stuck in my head, which probably killed my momentum despite seeing plenty of solo shoppers worth talking to.

Goals for tomorrow:

1. One hour of daygame—minimum of four approaches.
2. Switch to decaf.

Just take approaching as a win.... As long as you approach is a win for now... what is a handcuff joke?? you did not post the text

 

[Skills]

https://imgur.com/a/ld6iK9f

this opening was good...where is the rest?

 

[Mikedee]

Field Report: Lessons from Three Approaches at Target


Went to Target and made some approaches. Didn’t go as planned, but there were some takeaways. Here’s how it went down:


Approach #1: Target Employee


Asked a girl working at Target where the salad was. She told me. I followed up by asking her name, and she hit me with a cold, "I'm working." Conversation dead on arrival.


Approach #2: The Instant Eject


Saw a girl, thought she was cute, and went up to say hi. Before I could get anything out, she immediately said, "I'm a minor." I asked how old—she said 16. That was my cue to abort mission immediately.


Approach #3: Girl with the Dog


Saw a girl in Target carrying a small dog. Asked what kind it was, then if I could pet it. While petting the dog, I talked about my past dogs and joked that she looked like she came for one thing but was about to leave with way more. She laughed and admitted she was actually confused about what to get for her dog since it was her first time shopping for it.


This was my perfect chance to step up, show some knowledge, and lead the conversation—but instead, I basically told her, "You're on your own." Energy dropped, she lost interest, but I still went for the close. She said she was married. I pointed out the missing ring, and she said she rushed out and forgot it. I asked if she had room for friends—she said no.


Takeaways:


• Biggest issue? I wasn’t comfortable in any of these interactions. Felt like I was being watched, which made me hesitant.


• Left opportunities on the table because I was too in my head.


• Positives: I actually went out and made approaches. That’s progress.


• Negatives: Need to be more comfortable, take control, and lead the interaction. Women pick up on that energy fast.


• The girl with the dog was a perfect opportunity to lead, and I bailed. Lesson learned.


Moral of the story: Confidence and leadership matter. Gotta stop overthinking and own the moment.

 

[Mikedee]

Saw a girl, thought she was cute, and went up to say hi. Before I could get anything out, she immediately said, "I'm a minor." I asked how old—she said 16. That was my cue to abort mission immediately

What’s a playful response to not feel awkward in situations like this?

 

[OldGuy]

"You act very mature."

 

[Mikedee]

Anyone interested in. Check out my blog.

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[Mikedee]

Nothing major since my last update. In the past two days, I made 7 or 8 approaches, 2 total blowouts, 5 actual conversations, and 1 number that ended up flaking.

On the bright side, I’m settling into the routine of approaching and rolling with whatever happens, so I’ll give myself some credit for that. I forgot how much effort and volume it really takes to get sharp at this again, but hey, that’s the game.

For a deeper dive into the interactions, check out my blog link below.

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[Mikedee]

Just take approaching as a win.... As long as you approach is a win for now... what is a handcuff joke?? you did not post the text

Yes I absolutely agree with viewing approaching as a win it’s makes it a lot easier.

While we were talking, we spotted some cops, and I jokingly brought up handcuffs, asking her what color she preferred. She hesitated to answer in the moment, but as she was leaving, I still got her number. When I texted her later, I tried to keep the joke going.