My Hero’s Journey

[Kingkong]

here's an example of the "Yes girl" I approached the other day:


Me: "Ha, random, but always cool to meet marathon runners! Jk Enjoy your coffee. You're very pretty -My name

Her: Hey [my name]! Sorry for the late reply! Hope you enjoyed your nap haha

Me: "Omg, I did! I needed it. Hope you enjoyed your cofee. Will you be bouncing off the walls for the rest of the night now? ;P"

Her: Tbh, that place didn't serve coffee so i'm having coffee now. I might stay up all night

Me: Hm, I'd love to join a pretty girl like you for cofee tonight, but unfortunately I have plans already!

Me: Are you a fan of beer/wine?

Her: Haha I'm actually with my friends too

Her: Tbh, beer haha

Me: Nice! Perhaps next week we can grab a drink in midtwon? I'll shoot you an invite soon if you're interested

Her: Sure! what abt Wednesday next week after work??

Me: That could work I'll shoot you a text soon about the details... in the meantime, GL on the cofee hangover

Her: perfect! Have a great wknd and talk to you next week!


This was all in one day. The main thing is I knew she was interested via the approach, and in her texting she seemed excited (she's investing and putting forth effort, which uninterested girls don't put much effort in), she's asking questions (investing), she offered a day for the date on her own accord (a good sign), she's using forms of emojis (another form of caring/investing, which uninterested girls don't care to do usually), she's also responsive and within respectable time limits (i'm not waiting for a day or longer to get a text back, which is a bad sign).

My first text is a slight tease to remind her of who i am and the conversation. I then clearly state my intent by saying she's very pretty (no friend-to-friend date projections going on here!). I get a little back and forth conversation so I don't jump straight into the date invite. She mentions she didn't have coffee but yet she might stay up all night (saturday), which you can take that she's open for a possible date that night or meet up (possibly). I told her I'd love "to join a pretty girl like you" but I have plans already, so i'm stating that this is no friend shit. I then probe her from the agreed coffee date to a bar date as it's more sexual venue when i ask if she's a fan of beer/wine. Great sign when she says she likes beer enthusiastically. I then do the bar date invite. She agrees by suggesting a day herself (huge sign of interest). I don't have any particular bar in mind yet, and also Wednsday is like 4 days away, so I tell her I'll shoot her a text about the details soon. Then I don't text her again until I have the date and logistics set up in my plan. I don't text her in-between those two days, not once. It would look needy and it's completely unnecessary and would make me look needy af

I agree sort of, but do you think age plays a role here? From my experience, women under 25 often need consistent communication and attention, or they might start questioning why you're not reaching out and even block you. Check out the Gen Z blocking trend by @Skills. I can see this approach working for busy professionals over 30 or women with a longer attention span, but Gen Z might interpret it as rejection, or worse, forget about you entirely.

 

[bkw]

Yeah that’s the advice I heard going around but what about when she sends a message like this
Her: oh okay why you ain’t tm all day

It could be bait and she's just messing with you. Sometimes girls do that.

But in general, if a girl texts you out the blue like you showed in part of your text conversation: Her: good morning this is a high sign of interest because uninterested girls will not do this. But there's so much texting going on here, and then you are coming on way too strong with too much texts, it works against you and makes you look less attractive

If she texts you out the blue like "why you ain't tm all day" then you can reply once or twice but getting into a long conversation after that lessons attraction. If she texts you something like that you want to remain the prize and not text her much because when you don't text her much when she's showing high signs of intertest it KEEPS HER ATTRACTED and you just want to hold your position as the prize without giving too much. Use your position "as the prize" when she's showing signs of attraction via text as leverage by not texintg much, holding her attraciton, and you'll have much more power on the date invite. When you respond and then get into drawn out conversation, it kills that attraction and kills the tension and does you no favors

gl man

 

[Kingkong]

It could be bait and she's just messing with you. Sometimes girls do that.

But in general, if a girl texts you out the blue like you showed in part of your text conversation: Her: good morning this is a high sign of interest because uninterested girls will not do this. But there's so much texting going on here, and then you are coming on way too strong with too much texts, it works against you and makes you look less attractive

If she texts you out the blue like "why you ain't tm all day" then you can reply once or twice but getting into a long conversation after that lessons attraction. If she texts you something like that you want to remain the prize and not text her much because when you don't text her much when she's showing high signs of intertest it KEEPS HER ATTRACTED and you just want to hold your position as the prize without giving too much. Use your position "as the prize" when she's showing signs of attraction via text as leverage by not texintg much, holding her attraciton, and you'll have much more power on the date invite. When you respond and then get into drawn out conversation, it kills that attraction and kills the tension and does you no favors

gl man

You're totally right. I'm not used to getting this kind of attention early on, so I got carried away. I sent a few texts that went green and thought I was blocked, so I reached out from another number, but she never actually blocked me. Looking back, I see I gave away too much of my power, even though she still engages. Reaching out from a different number definitely came off as needy, and honestly, it’s been a while, so it’s tough to keep my cool. But it’s all good—I can finally see where I’ve been messing up and can improve next time. When I really like someone, I tend to lose track a bit.

 

[Kingkong]

I text her from a different number because I thought I was blocked
Her : my phone was dead but okay
Me: Damn, I thought I got kicked off the team for a sec
Her : lol

In all honesty do you think this is salvageable?

 

[Kingkong]

here's an example of the "Yes girl" I approached the other day:


Me: "Ha, random, but always cool to meet marathon runners! Jk Enjoy your coffee. You're very pretty -My name

Her: Hey [my name]! Sorry for the late reply! Hope you enjoyed your nap haha

Me: "Omg, I did! I needed it. Hope you enjoyed your cofee. Will you be bouncing off the walls for the rest of the night now? ;P"

Her: Tbh, that place didn't serve coffee so i'm having coffee now. I might stay up all night

Me: Hm, I'd love to join a pretty girl like you for cofee tonight, but unfortunately I have plans already!

Me: Are you a fan of beer/wine?

Her: Haha I'm actually with my friends too

Her: Tbh, beer haha

Me: Nice! Perhaps next week we can grab a drink in midtwon? I'll shoot you an invite soon if you're interested

Her: Sure! what abt Wednesday next week after work??

Me: That could work I'll shoot you a text soon about the details... in the meantime, GL on the cofee hangover

Her: perfect! Have a great wknd and talk to you next week!


This was all in one day. The main thing is I knew she was interested via the approach, and in her texting she seemed excited (she's investing and putting forth effort, which uninterested girls don't put much effort in), she's asking questions (investing), she offered a day for the date on her own accord (a good sign), she's using forms of emojis (another form of caring/investing, which uninterested girls don't care to do usually), she's also responsive and within respectable time limits (i'm not waiting for a day or longer to get a text back, which is a bad sign).

My first text is a slight tease to remind her of who i am and the conversation. I then clearly state my intent by saying she's very pretty (no friend-to-friend date projections going on here!). I get a little back and forth conversation so I don't jump straight into the date invite. She mentions she didn't have coffee but yet she might stay up all night (saturday), which you can take that she's open for a possible date that night or meet up (possibly). I told her I'd love "to join a pretty girl like you" but I have plans already, so i'm stating that this is no friend shit. I then probe her from the agreed coffee date to a bar date as it's more sexual venue when i ask if she's a fan of beer/wine. Great sign when she says she likes beer enthusiastically. I then do the bar date invite. She agrees by suggesting a day herself (huge sign of interest). I don't have any particular bar in mind yet, and also Wednsday is like 4 days away, so I tell her I'll shoot her a text about the details soon. Then I don't text her again until I have the date and logistics set up in my plan. I don't text her in-between those two days, not once. It would look needy and it's completely unnecessary and would make me look needy af

This looks very promising. Keep up posted on this in your journal . I look forward to hearing about this one

 

[bkw]

To answer your question about the age thing and them losing focus, etc., girls who are interested do not need constant reminders. For example, they go to college, work, do all the other important things because it means a lot to them. They don’t forget to do these things because it’s important to them, and the same goes with someone they are interested in, regardless of their age.

If a girl is interested enough in you it does not matter their age and the same texting applies regardless of age. It’s very black and white here in the sense that if they are interested, they will comply; if they aren’t, they won’t. And they know EXACTLY what they want, which is why they might always be available for the guy they are attracted to but seem to be “unresponsive” to those they aren’t. This has absolutely nothing to do with attention spans or age

 

[bkw]

I text her from a different number because I thought I was blocked
Her : my phone was dead but okay
Me: Damn, I thought I got kicked off the team for a sec
Her : lol

In all honesty do you think this is salvageable?

This was a very bad move on your end. Very desperate behavior. It’s pussy repellent

 

[Kingkong]

This was a very bad move on your end. Very desperate behavior. It’s pussy repellent

I absolutely agree. I need to get a better handle on things and the only way to do that is through abundance. I can no longer do Daygame part time it has to be full time at least for a few months until I get a handle on this. But nevertheless she still engaged

 

[Kingkong]

Hm, I'd love to join a pretty girl like you for cofee tonight, but unfortunately I have plans already!

Very smooth. I like this.

 

[Kingkong]

Alright, I’ll admit it I’ve been slacking big time. I also tend to get distracted when meeting new women. The last time I did daygame was 8 and 6 days ago, and while I got three promising numbers, I didn’t convert a single one into a date.

• The first girl didn’t respond after two texts.
• The second one asked for money, so she was out.
• The third girl agreed to a date but ended up flaking with a no-call, no-show.

Honestly, I’m getting my ass kicked out here, but I know it’s mostly on me. Looking back, I can see that I showed some signs of neediness with all three, and I recognize how that hurt my chances. The only real fix is to keep approaching and adjust my strategy.

Most of the women I meet are African American from the inner city, and I think they’re looking for something different when they meet me. But I won’t dwell on that if they weren’t quality, they weren’t a loss. My focus now is on getting back on track: more approaches and a structured text game to secure actual dates.

I won’t lie, the repeated “failures” of not converting numbers have been messing with my confidence, but I refuse to stay in this low state. I have to stay consistent with daygame for at least two months if I want to see real results. So, I’m getting back on the horse starting tomorrow. I’m also thinking about experimenting with cold plunges to boost my confidence and willpower.

This is a journey. I know where I came from, and I refuse to go back. I’m committed to consistently attracting baddies, and I’m locked in.

 

[bkw]

Hey man, I think you’re doing good. Have you ever done Daygame before? Getting 3 numbers so quickly is really good, regardless if they go anywhere or not. Most don’t until they get very competent, which can take a very long time. I see the three numbers as a win and proof that progress is possible. Part of Daygame is learning from your mistakes and trying again, hopefully not to repeat them. Overall, I think you’re doing great and rejection is very normal and will be the most common experience in DG regardless of your experience. Shouldn’t be so hard on yourself, which will serve you well in the long run I think GL

 

[Kingkong]

I usually have Thursdays and Fridays off, so after spending all of yesterday at home wishing one of my exes would hit me up, I decided to hit the streets today.

My first approach was with a drop-dead gorgeous woman—exactly my type. The initial banter was smooth, and I even tried to include her friend in the conversation by assuring her I had a friend for her. But when I went for the close, she glanced at her friend, then back at me, and said, “Sorry, I’m not interested.” Her friend definitely cockblocked me, but no sweat—that was just my first approach. Considering that, I think I did well. I just need to stick to a structured approach instead of freestyling.

The next few attempts didn’t go much better—either they weren’t interested, or they were married. The mall was pretty dead for a Friday, so I decided to wrap it up and head downtown to meet a friend.

As soon as I stepped out of my car, I spotted a stunning chocolate beauty, dressed to impress. I complimented her and asked if she had a minute—which I know I shouldn’t have done. Next time, I need to be more assertive and just walk with her until she directly tells me no.

Overall, it was a solid day in terms of getting out there and making some approaches—or at least attempting to. My only real goal right now is to consistently approach at least three women a day and use The London Daygame model structure approach. I’ll keep you all posted!

 

[Kingkong]

Man, it’s been rough. I just can’t seem to get into a consistent flow with daygame—too much procrastination, too much laziness , too many weasels in my head Right now, I’ve got no solid leads, and honestly, I can’t even remember the last time I went this long without any action and felt this unmotivated to change it.

To top it off, I’ve been under the weather, so who knows when I’ll be back out there. Just wanted to drop an update for anyone following along. I do know that once I get back into it and find my rhythm, things will take off again—but for now? Just not feeling it.

 

[Kingkong]

I can’t even lie. The weasels have officially taken over. It’s been over a week now since I did any Daygame cold approach. I was under the weather the past few days somehow I got sick while doing night game SMH. More reasons to stick with Daygame. I think my main crutch right now is knowing that I have nightgame so I then fill up excuses in my head to not approach because I have nightgame to save my ass. The mind can be an out of control beast if you dont discipline it . So moving forward all I can do is create another schedule for next week and try my best to execute it .

 

[average_daygamer]

Field Report: Lessons from Three Approaches at Target


Went to Target and made some approaches. Didn’t go as planned, but there were some takeaways. Here’s how it went down:


Approach #1: Target Employee


Asked a girl working at Target where the salad was. She told me. I followed up by asking her name, and she hit me with a cold, "I'm working." Conversation dead on arrival.


Approach #2: The Instant Eject


Saw a girl, thought she was cute, and went up to say hi. Before I could get anything out, she immediately said, "I'm a minor." I asked how old—she said 16. That was my cue to abort mission immediately.


Approach #3: Girl with the Dog


Saw a girl in Target carrying a small dog. Asked what kind it was, then if I could pet it. While petting the dog, I talked about my past dogs and joked that she looked like she came for one thing but was about to leave with way more. She laughed and admitted she was actually confused about what to get for her dog since it was her first time shopping for it.


This was my perfect chance to step up, show some knowledge, and lead the conversation—but instead, I basically told her, "You're on your own." Energy dropped, she lost interest, but I still went for the close. She said she was married. I pointed out the missing ring, and she said she rushed out and forgot it. I asked if she had room for friends—she said no.


Takeaways:


• Biggest issue? I wasn’t comfortable in any of these interactions. Felt like I was being watched, which made me hesitant.


• Left opportunities on the table because I was too in my head.


• Positives: I actually went out and made approaches. That’s progress.


• Negatives: Need to be more comfortable, take control, and lead the interaction. Women pick up on that energy fast.


• The girl with the dog was a perfect opportunity to lead, and I bailed. Lesson learned.


Moral of the story: Confidence and leadership matter. Gotta stop overthinking and own the moment.

Fucking love it mate! That's so relatable. I remember some of my 2018 and 19 daygame interactions back when I started.

 

[Kingkong]

Met up with a slim, cute, light-skinned 19year-old girl on Monday around 11 PM even though I was tired, I still made the effort. We linked again last night. She wanted food and some weed, so we made that happen. After that, I invited her back to my place to watch Netflix.

For some reason, I couldn’t fully connect with her. The vibe felt off, I was struggling to flirt or even keep the conversation flowing. She had a bit of a masculine energy, threw out a lot of tests to see what she could get away with. I stayed observant, taking in both her words and body language.

Eventually, she took off her clothes and got in my bed to watch TV. I joined her, and while I tried to get a little physical once or twice, there was some resistance—so I didn’t push it. I was already drained, so I decided I’d just take her home in the morning.

We got up early, got dressed, and I drove her back. Barely talked during the ride. Honestly, she felt a bit off to me. Cute, sure—but the personality didn’t click at all. That experience reminded me that not every girl is gonna have that instant spark. Some will, some won’t.

Moving forward, I need to be more intentional about screening girls before meeting up. My schedule’s tight between everything I’ve got going on, and I can’t afford to waste time on low-compatibility links. It’s been 12 hours since I dropped her off, and I haven’t heard from her and honestly, I’m cool with that.