I agree sort of, but do you think age plays a role here? From my experience, women under 25 often need consistent communication and attention, or they might start questioning why you're not reaching out and even block you. Check out the Gen Z blocking trend by @Skills. I can see this approach working for busy professionals over 30 or women with a longer attention span, but Gen Z might interpret it as rejection, or worse, forget about you entirely.here's an example of the "Yes girl" I approached the other day:
Me: "Ha, random, but always cool to meet marathon runners! JkEnjoy your coffee. You're very pretty
Her: Hey [my name]! Sorry for the late reply! Hope you enjoyed your nap haha
Me: "Omg, I did! I needed it. Hope you enjoyed your cofee. Will you be bouncing off the walls for the rest of the night now? ;P"
Her: Tbh, that place didn't serve coffee
Me: Hm, I'd love to join a pretty girl like you for cofee tonight, but unfortunately I have plans already!
Me: Are you a fan of beer/wine?
Her: Haha I'm actually with my friends too
Her: Tbh, beer haha
Me: Nice! Perhaps next week we can grab a drink in midtwon? I'll shoot you an invite soon if you're interested
Her: Sure! what abt Wednesday next week after work??
Me: That could work
Her: perfect! Have a great wknd and talk to you next week!
This was all in one day. The main thing is I knew she was interested via the approach, and in her texting she seemed excited (she's investing and putting forth effort, which uninterested girls don't put much effort in), she's asking questions (investing), she offered a day for the date on her own accord (a good sign), she's using forms of emojis (another form of caring/investing, which uninterested girls don't care to do usually), she's also responsive and within respectable time limits (i'm not waiting for a day or longer to get a text back, which is a bad sign).
My first text is a slight tease to remind her of who i am and the conversation. I then clearly state my intent by saying she's very pretty (no friend-to-friend date projections going on here!). I get a little back and forth conversation so I don't jump straight into the date invite. She mentions she didn't have coffee but yet she might stay up all night (saturday), which you can take that she's open for a possible date that night or meet up (possibly). I told her I'd love "to join a pretty girl like you" but I have plans already, so i'm stating that this is no friend shit. I then probe her from the agreed coffee date to a bar date as it's more sexual venue when i ask if she's a fan of beer/wine. Great sign when she says she likes beer enthusiastically. I then do the bar date invite. She agrees by suggesting a day herself (huge sign of interest). I don't have any particular bar in mind yet, and also Wednsday is like 4 days away, so I tell her I'll shoot her a text about the details soon. Then I don't text her again until I have the date and logistics set up in my plan. I don't text her in-between those two days, not once. It would look needy and it's completely unnecessary and would make me look needy af
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It could be bait and she's just messing with you. Sometimes girls do that.
But in general, if a girl texts you out the blue like you showed in part of your text conversation: Her: good morning
this is a high sign of interest because uninterested girls will not do this. But there's so much texting going on here, and then you are coming on way too strong with too much texts, it works against you and makes you look less attractiveIf she texts you out the blue like "why you ain't tm all day" then you can reply once or twice but getting into a long conversation after that lessons attraction. If she texts you something like that you want to remain the prize and not text her much because when you don't text her much when she's showing high signs of intertest it KEEPS HER ATTRACTED and you just want to hold your position as the prize without giving too much. Use your position "as the prize" when she's showing signs of attraction via text as leverage by not texintg much, holding her attraciton, and you'll have much more power on the date invite. When you respond and then get into drawn out conversation, it kills that attraction and kills the tension and does you no favors
gl man
You're totally right. I'm not used to getting this kind of attention early on, so I got carried away. I sent a few texts that went green and thought I was blocked, so I reached out from another number, but she never actually blocked me. Looking back, I see I gave away too much of my power, even though she still engages. Reaching out from a different number definitely came off as needy, and honestly, it’s been a while, so it’s tough to keep my cool. But it’s all good—I can finally see where I’ve been messing up and can improve next time. When I really like someone, I tend to lose track a bit.It could be bait and she's just messing with you. Sometimes girls do that.
But in general, if a girl texts you out the blue like you showed in part of your text conversation: Her: good morning
If she texts you out the blue like "why you ain't tm all day" then you can reply once or twice but getting into a long conversation after that lessons attraction. If she texts you something like that you want to remain the prize and not text her much because when you don't text her much when she's showing high signs of intertest it KEEPS HER ATTRACTED and you just want to hold your position as the prize without giving too much. Use your position "as the prize" when she's showing signs of attraction via text as leverage by not texintg much, holding her attraciton, and you'll have much more power on the date invite. When you respond and then get into drawn out conversation, it kills that attraction and kills the tension and does you no favors
gl man
This looks very promising. Keep up posted on this in your journal . I look forward to hearing about this onehere's an example of the "Yes girl" I approached the other day:
Me: "Ha, random, but always cool to meet marathon runners! Jk
Her: Hey [my name]! Sorry for the late reply! Hope you enjoyed your nap haha
Me: "Omg, I did! I needed it. Hope you enjoyed your cofee. Will you be bouncing off the walls for the rest of the night now? ;P"
Her: Tbh, that place didn't serve coffee
Me: Hm, I'd love to join a pretty girl like you for cofee tonight, but unfortunately I have plans already!
Me: Are you a fan of beer/wine?
Her: Haha I'm actually with my friends too
Her: Tbh, beer haha
Me: Nice! Perhaps next week we can grab a drink in midtwon? I'll shoot you an invite soon if you're interested
Her: Sure! what abt Wednesday next week after work??
Me: That could work
Her: perfect! Have a great wknd and talk to you next week!
This was all in one day. The main thing is I knew she was interested via the approach, and in her texting she seemed excited (she's investing and putting forth effort, which uninterested girls don't put much effort in), she's asking questions (investing), she offered a day for the date on her own accord (a good sign), she's using forms of emojis (another form of caring/investing, which uninterested girls don't care to do usually), she's also responsive and within respectable time limits (i'm not waiting for a day or longer to get a text back, which is a bad sign).
My first text is a slight tease to remind her of who i am and the conversation. I then clearly state my intent by saying she's very pretty (no friend-to-friend date projections going on here!). I get a little back and forth conversation so I don't jump straight into the date invite. She mentions she didn't have coffee but yet she might stay up all night (saturday), which you can take that she's open for a possible date that night or meet up (possibly). I told her I'd love "to join a pretty girl like you" but I have plans already, so i'm stating that this is no friend shit. I then probe her from the agreed coffee date to a bar date as it's more sexual venue when i ask if she's a fan of beer/wine. Great sign when she says she likes beer enthusiastically. I then do the bar date invite. She agrees by suggesting a day herself (huge sign of interest). I don't have any particular bar in mind yet, and also Wednsday is like 4 days away, so I tell her I'll shoot her a text about the details soon. Then I don't text her again until I have the date and logistics set up in my plan. I don't text her in-between those two days, not once. It would look needy and it's completely unnecessary and would make me look needy af
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To answer your question about the age thing and them losing focus, etc., girls who are interested do not need constant reminders. For example, they go to college, work, do all the other important things because it means a lot to them. They don’t forget to do these things because it’s important to them, and the same goes with someone they are interested in, regardless of their age.
If a girl is interested enough in you it does not matter their age and the same texting applies regardless of age. It’s very black and white here in the sense that if they are interested, they will comply; if they aren’t, they won’t. And they know EXACTLY what they want, which is why they might always be available for the guy they are attracted to but seem to be “unresponsive” to those they aren’t. This has absolutely nothing to do with attention spans or age
If a girl is interested enough in you it does not matter their age and the same texting applies regardless of age. It’s very black and white here in the sense that if they are interested, they will comply; if they aren’t, they won’t. And they know EXACTLY what they want, which is why they might always be available for the guy they are attracted to but seem to be “unresponsive” to those they aren’t. This has absolutely nothing to do with attention spans or age
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This was a very bad move on your end. Very desperate behavior. It’s pussy repellentI text her from a different number because I thought I was blocked
Her : my phone was dead but okay
Me: Damn, I thought I got kicked off the team for a sec
Her : lol
In all honesty do you think this is salvageable?
