Nearly every time a girl lets me cum in her (unprotected) on the first date, she ghosts me

[Dragonetti]

Sorry for the vulgar title but it's a pretty straightforward question. Why does this happen?

If a girl enthusiastically lets you to cum in her without contraception, that's a pretty big deal. It almost certainly means she's attracted to you and respects you as a man.

The latest girl really wanted it. We had sex multiple times and she loved it and came. She asked to make plans a few days away. Then poof, disappeared.

I thought the move is to always have sex on the first date. And I don't text much at all between dates because that's good game. Am I overgaming? What am I doing wrong? This is really annoying me.

 

[Rakehell]

First date? You’re a wild guy, I don’t do this but I have before (never on the first date). Whenever I do though i’m left with this feeling of responsibility like I know the dynamic is teetering on thin ice.

To me this is because the level of risk, danger, degradation, etc that you persuade a girl into doing with you, needs to be matched with at-least just as much after care or investment in you as a person after the fact.

Especially if she isn’t the most promiscuous of girls.

If she feels like she wasn’t properly rewarded with extra time attention or affection after doing something she doesn’t usually do, or you make her feel worse for doing it, she will resent the fact that it happened altogether.

 

[Rakehell]

First date? You’re a wild guy, I don’t do this but I have before (never on the first date). Whenever I do though i’m left with this feeling of responsibility like I know the dynamic is teetering on thin ice.

To me this is because the level of risk, danger, degradation, etc that you persuade a girl into doing with you, needs to be matched with at-least just as much after care or investment in you as a person after the fact.

Especially if she isn’t the most promiscuous of girls.

If she feels like she wasn’t properly rewarded with extra time attention or affection after doing something she doesn’t usually do, or you make her feel worse for doing it, she will resent the fact that it happened altogether.

Basically this isn’t one of those times where you call her a lyft and send her on her way afterward. Being too laid back will cost you her.

 

[Dragonetti]

Looks like I was overreacting this time. SHe texted back, no ghost