So I started talking to a girl at my work and I realized she seemed a bit interested in me. We work in different areas and haven't interacted a whole lot, I'm still pretty new. I meant to make a move today, but Saturday night I went out alone for my first time and bumped into her. I was quite drunk and pretty full of anxiety at this point due to being alone, and I was so in my own head that I didn't realize until after I probably could have kissed her (we were staring into each other's eyes for awhile, she was leaning close into me, touching my arm)..never going to make that mistake again.. I left the bar not long after that. . I didn't get a chance alone with her today, so I failed to ask her out. She also at first tried to say she didn't remember seeing me, though she "remembered" after a second. Now I've read enough about not getting hung up on one girl (I've done enough of that when I was younger), so I'm already going to meet new ones. However, I'd like to still ask her out once (tomorrow hopefully). Any advice on how to handle this? Is it likely to fail because I failed to escalate things at the bar? Curious to see what others think.
Hi,
What I will do is just go ask her out and apologizes for the bar thing. Tell her that I didn't make a move then, even tough I wanted to because I didn't want you remember me like that, a drunk man. You can slip a joke between this lines.
Also, try not to use alcohol from now on, it messes up you game and you will be able to game only when you are drunk.
What I will do is just go ask her out and apologizes for the bar thing. Tell her that I didn't make a move then, even tough I wanted to because I didn't want you remember me like that, a drunk man. You can slip a joke between this lines.
Also, try not to use alcohol from now on, it messes up you game and you will be able to game only when you are drunk.
adi13 said:
Well, basically what happened after that post is I asked her out. She said yes and we went out the next night, and I fucked it up due to my inexperience. The cafe wasn't as private as I had hoped and I felt like I had no idea what I should do to move things forward. I also missed several signals of interest. She rejected me for a second date because she's "kind of seeing someone" haha. I was chill about it and have been acting normal since. She was a bit cold at first but as I acted warm and non-needy things got better. I like her quite a bit, and I feel like someone more experienced could save the situation. With my lack of experience though, I'm unsure of what to do and think I would just make more mistakes. It feels like I'm hacking through vines in a jungle with a machete to clear a path. Until I reach the other side there will be a sense of no direction. Either way I'm starting to go out and I want to meet new girls, but I think this one is a loss.
Don't beat yourself up, it will come easier after more dates.
What I usually do when going out, I take them to bars with small tables. It know it sounds wired when you read it, but this way is very easy to get physical because you don't need to move or jump over the table to touch them. Find yourself a few places where you can meet them.
Also, read some articles on GC blog and watch some youtube videos from RSD. Books are also needed, they speed things up and have all you need to become an attractive man.
When you get home from daygame, always re-wind the game from that day; but only after you get home or you will be in your had during daygame. See what you have done wrong, what you can change to make it better.
Hope this helps
What I usually do when going out, I take them to bars with small tables. It know it sounds wired when you read it, but this way is very easy to get physical because you don't need to move or jump over the table to touch them. Find yourself a few places where you can meet them.
Also, read some articles on GC blog and watch some youtube videos from RSD. Books are also needed, they speed things up and have all you need to become an attractive man.
When you get home from daygame, always re-wind the game from that day; but only after you get home or you will be in your had during daygame. See what you have done wrong, what you can change to make it better.
Hope this helps
Yes it does help, thanks. I do read the blog a lot and it has helped tremendously. For instance, at first the idea of frames and framing boggled my mind, but today I think I finally have it understood and can start trying to use it. I have a long way to go, but I've already had many different epiphanies and positive changes in my confidence and actions.
