I have 2 questions about never having sex with a woman I loved. I had a girlfriend, but I never slept with her, we broke up before then in college. I was 19, the only relationship I ever had and lasted less than three months (haven't had a GF since and 2 lays, 8 years later). 1. If a girl asks you about how much sex is in relationships, how am I suppose to respond? I don't think 26 year old responding "I dunno" is a good answer. How do I proceed in a smooth manner from there? 2. How negatively does if at all does not sleeping with at least one woman you love, affect you? Is this is something that's reversible with months/years hard work and the materials on here or am I gonna be somewhat "damaged" for life because of adolescent experiences. Or am I make that a bigger deal then it is? (Knowing how lack of sex from your adolescent and early 20s impacts you psychologically would be helpful to know to THnax).
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1. A lot? Just use humour (exaggerate). No reason to get serious with girls on questions like this.
2. Only what you do for it now matters. You can transform yourself at any point in life. Never stagnate. If your past sucks it doesn't have to dictate your future if you only want.
2. Only what you do for it now matters. You can transform yourself at any point in life. Never stagnate. If your past sucks it doesn't have to dictate your future if you only want.
Enas said:
I meant to say "If a girl asks or tells you about how much BETTER sex is in relationships, how am I suppose to respond since I don't have the life experience to have an honest opinion on this topic? I didn't think saying "I dunno" was a good answer.
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If a girl asks you that you can just make something up like "sex feels better in a relationship because you have an emotional connection and you know how to please each other better." just spew out some generic stuff that she will agree with. She wont know youve never been in a relationship anyway, unless you decide to tell her.
Ive never had sex with a girl ive loved either. All the girls Ive banged have been chubby/fatties that I didnt find attractive. I do regret it a little bit not making love to a girl i loved but then again thats life. You have to empathize with your past self in order to understand and accept why you didnt do certain things. Just keep gaming and eventually youll find a girlfriend that you love and youll have wonderful sex and youll pretty much forget about about those past experiences
Ive never had sex with a girl ive loved either. All the girls Ive banged have been chubby/fatties that I didnt find attractive. I do regret it a little bit not making love to a girl i loved but then again thats life. You have to empathize with your past self in order to understand and accept why you didnt do certain things. Just keep gaming and eventually youll find a girlfriend that you love and youll have wonderful sex and youll pretty much forget about about those past experiences
Enas said:
If a girl is asking this, she likely believes and wants to feel as if sex, when in an intimate relationship, is more sacred/meaningful/different than a random hook-up. Remember, most girls are romantics at heart, or at least want to believe in the fairy-tale, so she is seeking out reassurance from you that sex is in fact more special and feels better with someone you care for deeply. Ask yourself how you truly feel about it, and it's ok if you don't have a whole wide range of past experiences to reflect back on. Frame the question for yourself as "How would sex ideally be different for me when in a relationship as compared to when a random act?" If you still can't think of how you feel yet, maybe this helps - I'd answer that with something along the lines of : " Well I love sex, and it is super attractive when a woman is very confident in her sexuality and isn't afraid to express it. It's a shame that a lot of society shames you ladies for it, and that's what makes a confident sexy lady who's not afraid to show it all the more stunning! Anyone can have a random fling with a stranger and maybe it will be good sex, maybe it won't. I'm not looking for good sex - I'm looking for GREAT sex. And as to whether sex is greater when it's with someone you care for or love, that may very well be. I'd like to think there's a bit of a romantic deep down in me somewhere, so I'll remain optimistic! Enough of this chick-flick talk, let's go grab a bite." Respond in a way that is true to yourself, just make sure to do it in a nonchalant way with a bit of humor thrown in for a tension breaker. Show her you can value what she values and she'll feel more of a connection to you and will want to show you how special sex can be with her
