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JMP_123

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I was out last weekend and met a great girl. We chatted each other up all night and hit it off very well. We were grinding all night which led to us making out on a couple of different occasions. Luckily neither of us drank at all that night so neither of us were getting stuck with a drunk hookup thing. We exchanged #'s pretty quickly and stayed together for about 2 hours or more until she left at the end of the night with her friends.

She told me to text her and so the next evening I dropped her the atypical "had a blast with you, great meeting you," type text and got a pretty simple "aww thanks you too" text back. I followed up a few hours later with a "absolutely, we should meet out again," text offer to no response. I am very interested in this girl but don't want to text/call her too much right off the bat. Would I be best texting/calling her the middle of the week or Thursday evening to reconnect and possibly make semi-casual plans to meet out? Suggestions and advice please!
 

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This topic has been moved from the "General" board to the "Beginners" board.

- Franco
 

Whizzy

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Honestly whenever your first available would be best. Remember moving fast counts for a lot
 

JMP_123

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I wasn't too worried about blowing her phone up last night tonight or even tomorrow really. She won't magically lose interest between tonight and Thursday. BUMP
 

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Whizzy makes a good point. You should call/text her to meet up this week. Rekindle the magic
 

JMP_123

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As much as I hate to do it i'll most likely drop her a text tomorrow night-ish. What does anyone suggest I say? Should I text her just a simple "Hey how is your week?" and hopefully have it take off from there? I don't have a problem calling a chick to chat as well but nowadays no one answers their phones and if she wasn't to answer her phone I feel like i'd be worsening my chances of talking by texting right after her not answering a call.....damn texting in 2013..
 

Whizzy

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Just straight up ask her out, say a little bit about your week then just get to the point
 

JMP_123

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Talk about not beating around the bush Whizzy lol. So is that how you go about all your situations? With just knee-jerk reactions?
 

Whizzy

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Not knee-jerk...you want to ask her out right since you're interested? This way it makes it clear what you want to her. Just make sure you do it in a subtle or playful way. Either option shows confidence which women appreciate
 
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JMP_123

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Gotcha yea I understand that. Your response just came off very blunt. I hate making plans via texting, what would you say to texting someone and then at one point asking to call them to chat? Should I just stick with one or the other?
 

Whizzy

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Yea sorry about the confusion. Is there any reason you couldn't just call her right away and skip the texting all together if you dont want to make plans that way?
 

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jmp_design said:
Gotcha yea I understand that. Your response just came off very blunt. I hate making plans via texting, what would you say to texting someone and then at one point asking to call them to chat? Should I just stick with one or the other?

Check out this article: How/What to text girls

The point is not to have a conversation, but to get a meet. Once you guys meet, then you can have a conversation. Most guys screw it up by texting too much.

Keep your texting short, to the point, and no small talk.
 

JMP_123

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Whizzy said:
Yea sorry about the confusion. Is there any reason you couldn't just call her right away and skip the texting all together if you dont want to make plans that way?

Well I haven't spoken with her since our texts Sunday. I figured to just let it chill for a few days. I am like anyone else and work all day so I figured to drop her a "how's your week been" text during the day then quickly try and setup plans to meet out later or at least give her a call when we are both free later this evening. I'll be going to NYC for the weekend so It's important to recapture some attention to keep me fresh in her mind.
 
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