Hello
Been lurking and reading a lot of the excellent articles in this site. I must thank Chase and all his experts for the great articles. All of this has been so revealing. This is life changing but at the same time so scary.
Let me give you a quick intro about me. I am from Mexico, and I am 46, almost 47 y/o. I do not consider myself as an ugly person, I would not either say I am spectacular looking. I do look relatively young for my age. I think I do have more problems in my personality and lack of self confidence. I would probably need good advice on looks but I rather feel that the lack of success is more about my attitude than a given physical shortcoming. (I'm trying to say that while I am open to suggestions to improve physically, I am almost certain that my problems are psychological).
Right now I feel very confused because on the one hand I feel I can actually attract certain girls, but once they see how clingy I become all goes out thru the window. Maybe I have voice issues as well.
I once had a date with a 19 y/o girl, and after reading Chase's article on younger 18-22 y/o women I realized that I actually had more chances that what I expected. She was talking a lot about herself. We were at a coffee shop and she talked about silly high school experiences and the like until she got spent. I failed to move her to another place to keep up the energy. Then I tried to talk and suddenly lost my confidence (I mean, I had not read so many articles on this site and lacked so much experience) and I took her to her house and left it at that. She stopped talking to me the next day in the language course we were taking class together.
That was just a little sample so you know where I "Stand". The first thing I would like you to help me with is about my mindset. I wholeheartedly agree with Chase and Hector and all, that one should have several options open and even pursue many women. But is very difficult to me to adopt the mindset. I feel very monogamous. I can't take out of my head that I need only one girl. I like the idea of having sex with a girl the quickest possible, but how do I get my head around not thinking the first is the "only one". How can I be more like James Bond who does not really care if they call back or glance back. I am simply too soft. Maybe is that my father never lived with us, and mom called the shots and programmed me. Would you advice therapy?
There were other things pertaining to background but I deleted them too much self pity. I would appreciate some pointers on this matter. And hopefully after some practice I can get back with more questions.
Despite being down in this moment I am eager to try something, I just need to put myself where there are women.
Been lurking and reading a lot of the excellent articles in this site. I must thank Chase and all his experts for the great articles. All of this has been so revealing. This is life changing but at the same time so scary.
Let me give you a quick intro about me. I am from Mexico, and I am 46, almost 47 y/o. I do not consider myself as an ugly person, I would not either say I am spectacular looking. I do look relatively young for my age. I think I do have more problems in my personality and lack of self confidence. I would probably need good advice on looks but I rather feel that the lack of success is more about my attitude than a given physical shortcoming. (I'm trying to say that while I am open to suggestions to improve physically, I am almost certain that my problems are psychological).
Right now I feel very confused because on the one hand I feel I can actually attract certain girls, but once they see how clingy I become all goes out thru the window. Maybe I have voice issues as well.
I once had a date with a 19 y/o girl, and after reading Chase's article on younger 18-22 y/o women I realized that I actually had more chances that what I expected. She was talking a lot about herself. We were at a coffee shop and she talked about silly high school experiences and the like until she got spent. I failed to move her to another place to keep up the energy. Then I tried to talk and suddenly lost my confidence (I mean, I had not read so many articles on this site and lacked so much experience) and I took her to her house and left it at that. She stopped talking to me the next day in the language course we were taking class together.
That was just a little sample so you know where I "Stand". The first thing I would like you to help me with is about my mindset. I wholeheartedly agree with Chase and Hector and all, that one should have several options open and even pursue many women. But is very difficult to me to adopt the mindset. I feel very monogamous. I can't take out of my head that I need only one girl. I like the idea of having sex with a girl the quickest possible, but how do I get my head around not thinking the first is the "only one". How can I be more like James Bond who does not really care if they call back or glance back. I am simply too soft. Maybe is that my father never lived with us, and mom called the shots and programmed me. Would you advice therapy?
There were other things pertaining to background but I deleted them too much self pity. I would appreciate some pointers on this matter. And hopefully after some practice I can get back with more questions.
Despite being down in this moment I am eager to try something, I just need to put myself where there are women.
