LR New Year With A Bang (SDL)

[James D]

Question

So what frames did you set with her?

When you set those frames after she was locked in or after the lay first time.

Did you tell her you pick girls often?

Or its more of I dont tell she dont know.

Or because of long distance she agreed?

As I said, I'm not an expert on the subject, I don't think I've fully grasped the underlying dynamics to make something like that work.

My answers to your questions may not be as precise as you wish cuz I'm still trying to understand this whole thing for myself.

The frame was: "I enjoy being with you but sleeping with other women is part of who I am. Keeps me sharp. I'm not into you seeing other guys, so if that's something you need in exchange, I respect that but that won't work out for me."

It's a simple frame.

How you enforce it depends on your frame control and the interaction you have with her.

If you want me to explain how I enforced it, I don't even know myself.

The best advice I can give is: "Start off strong and in-control with the chicks you sleep with, so that the underlying interaction between you and her titls in your favour. That, coupled with strong frame control, ought to get you what you want."

When you set those frames after she was locked in or after the lay first time.

Anyone correct me if I'm mistaken but who the heck would set such a frame after the first lay?

Doesn't make any sense to me.

Of course, after she's locked in and clearly enjoys your company and seems to wish for a relationship, then you can bring in the terms.

That's just my opinion though and as I said, I'm new to this and still trying to figure it out.

 

[empath]

As I said, I'm not an expert on the subject, I don't think I've fully grasped the underlying dynamics to make something like that work.

My answers to your questions may not be as precise as you wish cuz I'm still trying to understand this whole thing for myself.

The frame was: "I enjoy being with you but sleeping with other women is part of who I am. Keeps me sharp. I'm not into you seeing other guys, so if that's something you need in exchange, I respect that but that won't work out for me."

It's a simple frame.

How you enforce it depends on your frame control and the interaction you have with her.

If you want me to explain how I enforced it, I don't even know myself.

The best advice I can give is: "Start off strong and in-control with the chicks you sleep with, so that the underlying interaction between you and her titls in your favour. That, coupled with strong frame control, ought to get you what you want."


Anyone correct me if I'm mistaken but who the heck would set such a frame after the first lay?

Doesn't make any sense to me.

Of course, after she's locked in and clearly enjoys your company and seems to wish for a relationship, then you can bring in the terms.

That's just my opinion though and as I said, I'm new to this and still trying to figure it out.

Got it no neeed to rock the boat now.

Just need not to be needy and clear with what I want.

Rest is trial and error.