Okay guys, I'm back in Bangkok. Arrived yesterday evening, feeling crazy sick, puking and stuff but some guy gave me a paracetamol (could've thought of that) and it was soon over.
I visited Udon Thani because I had read somewhere that there are lots of girls there. There are not.
However, I got tinder after Tony recommended it and in Udon I did get a ridiculous amount of likes (60 in a day with a profile and pictures that got jack shit in the west). Maybe because of the fact that hardly any foreigners go there, maybe because there aren't many people on tinder (I swiped through the closest 20 miles in a day). I got tinder plus for a month to check it out, because it was only slightly more expensive than a boost and you get a free boost with it. Here in Bangkok I used the boost and got a good amount of likes, though even with a boost less than in Udon, about half I think. So far haven't been able to turn any of my matches into dates though. But I just got tinder three days ago or so.
Back in Bangkok I went on basically my first actual date ever, with the girl I met at the bus stop in the beginning, with who I messed up our first meet up. This time we did meet up though, but it didn't really go anywhere. We walked around the mall for a while, I bought some Christmas presents (I'm going home for three weeks to celebrate Christmas with family and friends), she ate some food there (I wasn't hungry) and then we took the bus to Lumphini park. Conversation was a little difficult, both because her English sometimes wasn't completely understandable or she didn't understand me, but also because there turned out not to be that much I could deep dive her on. Or maybe I just need to work on my skills. She had no interests beyond comedy movies, nor any future hopes or dreams, we talked a bit about her childhood and how she grew up in a village and compared that to Bangkok but that was about it. That was quite difficult as well.
We left each other quite soon after we got to the park, because she said she had to go shopping with her uncle, who she lives with, for a birthday present.
Afterwards she did send me a couple texts so I'm thinking about asking her tomorrow morning if she wants to watch a comedy, and if so invite myself over to her place when her uncle isn't there.
I went daygaming this evening, after the date, at a subway station. There is truly an insane amount of people in Bangkok during rush hour, and there not being enough cute girls to daygame isn't an excuse here. After probably around forty minutes and a ridiculous amount of cute girls having walked by I spotted a very pretty girl and forced myself to approach her. I walked up quickly behind her, and when I was next to here I touched her arm with mine. "Hey, this is really random, but I just thought you looked really cute and wanted to come talk to you. I'm Wanderer. What's your name?" "Hi.. ?" I was trembling like crazy, adrenaline pumping through me. I asked her if she lived in Bangkok, how she liked it (she didn't understand that question), then what she was doing, which I couldn't figure out if it was studying or working or some combination. I didn't know what to say so most of our conversation was about that, me asking the same question probably about five times since my mind kept going blank. She had stopped when I talked to her, then I walked a little with her, then stopped and leaned against a low fence. I told her again I thought she was cute and that's why I wanted to talk to her when the conversation died down. Told her I was nervous because I don't usually do this. Talked a total of three minutes. More or less, my perception of time was gone. Then she said she didn't have much time and had to go, so, always close, I asked her if she wanted to meet up. To my slight surprise she said yes, quite enthusiastically in fact. Got her Line, and she sent me a message, "hey", about fifteen minutes later. Asking her out doesn't feel remotely as scary as approaching her, at least it didn't make me feel any little bit more nervous than I already was. My chest was still aching an hour later, but it sure feels good to be taking some small steps forward. I'll get there.
I didn't stay at Khaosan last night and tonight because I was sick. But for tomorrow and the day after I've booked a bed in a hostel right near Khaosan, where I'll get my first experience in a club.
Thanks Colt & Tony for your advice, after reading your articles for literally years it's great to see you here now that I'm actually putting it into practice.
. There's no place like Bangkok. Follow Tony/my advice and go to Khaosan. For you, I'd say *night game* my friend. Night game. Or evening game. Go to khaosan. Go out to a bar. Start by finding some fellow travelers. If you scare easily, find GUYS first. Chat some guys up about where they're from. Buy someone a drink. Eat some curry. Maybe you'll be able to join a big group. Every other guy in Bangkok has the same dang thing on their mind as you