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- Nov 20, 2012
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In my reply to Chris’s introduction and question post, I made a pretty bold statement about some recent successes I’ve had interacting with women, and I stand by those claims 100%. The thing is, as positive as those experiences were my results are not as consistent as I’d like them to be. There are a few factors contributing to this, some are well within my sphere of control while other simply are not. An outing today made me take a closer look at what elements were in play that lead to the lackluster exchange between me and a cute bank teller.
The first thing I had to take into consideration was the fact that I broke code and left the house without my fundamentals as sharp as they could have been. I knew I was being lazy about it even before I stepped out the door wearing flip-flops, old baggy jeans, and an oversized T-shirt. I didn’t seem to care about my appearance, and had convinced myself that this one time wouldn’t really matter. I was almost right. It was late in the afternoon and the bank was mostly empty except for the guy ahead of me and the male teller who was taking care of his transaction.
From one of the side rooms a stunning blond appeared and asked if she could help me, of course at that point it was ‘game on,’ or so I thought. Because of the location and limited time I had to work some kind of magic, I decided that a direct opener would be the best approach. She was wearing a nice scarf that accentuated her incredible blue eyes, both of which I commented on. Her response was more or less a neutral “thank you,” and I immediately followed up with an attempt to initiate some light banter about her holiday plans. That’s when she began to distance herself from my flirtations, avoiding eye contact and such, trying to keep things professional.
Needless to say, I wasn’t surprised by her reaction, even though I tried to get things moving with this girl something was just off. I knew I wasn’t projecting the sexy, confident vibe I normally do, even during these kinds of random encounters. I looked sloppy, and my game felt like a routine instead of a genuine expression of interest. She knew it, I knew it, and the whole thing felt contrived.
In retrospect, I don’t think I was in the right frame of mind to successfully attempt a cold approach with a hired gun at the end of the work day right before a major holiday event, and perhaps she too was distracted by whatever plans she had for the extended weekend. Either way it seemed that there were internal and external factors that came into play and made for a rather unsatisfying interaction.
So now I’m looking at the when to make an approach in a slightly different light. Sometimes I’m just not in the mood to pick up girls or don’t have the energy to be as effective as I want to be. I like things to be challenging, but I don’t want to shortchange myself or the ladies, be disingenuous, or make things harder than they have to be. Just like with any of my other interests, (working out, playing guitar or whatever) I need to remain mindful of the burnout factor from over doing it. The only strategy I have for dealing with this is to pace myself and take short breaks from time to time.
Anyone have any other solutions for keeping your game running at peak efficiency on a daily basis without getting bogged down and losing steam? Thanks in advance.
-Trilogy
The first thing I had to take into consideration was the fact that I broke code and left the house without my fundamentals as sharp as they could have been. I knew I was being lazy about it even before I stepped out the door wearing flip-flops, old baggy jeans, and an oversized T-shirt. I didn’t seem to care about my appearance, and had convinced myself that this one time wouldn’t really matter. I was almost right. It was late in the afternoon and the bank was mostly empty except for the guy ahead of me and the male teller who was taking care of his transaction.
From one of the side rooms a stunning blond appeared and asked if she could help me, of course at that point it was ‘game on,’ or so I thought. Because of the location and limited time I had to work some kind of magic, I decided that a direct opener would be the best approach. She was wearing a nice scarf that accentuated her incredible blue eyes, both of which I commented on. Her response was more or less a neutral “thank you,” and I immediately followed up with an attempt to initiate some light banter about her holiday plans. That’s when she began to distance herself from my flirtations, avoiding eye contact and such, trying to keep things professional.
Needless to say, I wasn’t surprised by her reaction, even though I tried to get things moving with this girl something was just off. I knew I wasn’t projecting the sexy, confident vibe I normally do, even during these kinds of random encounters. I looked sloppy, and my game felt like a routine instead of a genuine expression of interest. She knew it, I knew it, and the whole thing felt contrived.
In retrospect, I don’t think I was in the right frame of mind to successfully attempt a cold approach with a hired gun at the end of the work day right before a major holiday event, and perhaps she too was distracted by whatever plans she had for the extended weekend. Either way it seemed that there were internal and external factors that came into play and made for a rather unsatisfying interaction.
So now I’m looking at the when to make an approach in a slightly different light. Sometimes I’m just not in the mood to pick up girls or don’t have the energy to be as effective as I want to be. I like things to be challenging, but I don’t want to shortchange myself or the ladies, be disingenuous, or make things harder than they have to be. Just like with any of my other interests, (working out, playing guitar or whatever) I need to remain mindful of the burnout factor from over doing it. The only strategy I have for dealing with this is to pace myself and take short breaks from time to time.
Anyone have any other solutions for keeping your game running at peak efficiency on a daily basis without getting bogged down and losing steam? Thanks in advance.
-Trilogy
