Poking The Bear PROPERLY (Lessons From Girlschase Drama)

[Ree]

Maybe not flame wars back then. But I'm sure you remember that just two years ago or so, this board had like 5,000 posts about insecurities regarding interracial dating and the college-FOMO trend. That is, until the users had to be banned for not taking/following/appreciating advice over and over and over. And even new race threads got banned too after a vote.

I rarely enter the debates these days, too time-consuming for me personally. But I appreciate a discussion where things get heated much more than victim mentality posts.

interracial dating and race threads?seems like a volatile period I slept through,seems like an interesting topic,white dudes really kill it in Africa,I have always been curious wether as a kenyan,I would have the same advantage in a place where I was novel,(Nigerians also kill it in kenya),I have never traveled outside Kenya and so I dont know how big of an advantage this "novelty" actor is.,I think race is an interesting topic,its sad that it brouht so much drama that it had to be banned, maybe people just can not talk about race without getting emotional,but yeah,lets hope things stay chill.

 

[Ree]

It's all about social IQ and good intentions, I think.

When people start shifting goal posts, rationalizing every counter-point and going 100% against everyone without addressing any of it; it stops being a debate but a pissing contest.

When a lot of high level dudes go on about something, it should be best to have a more mild mannered tone in your approach or your perspective. Just basic social calibration. I paraphrased my post on Naturals vs PUAs "in my limited experience" because it went against what some high level people above were espousing. I wasn't 100% sure of my observations anyway, it was just my experience. Cool, let me drop my piece but with some social finesse. That's all.

I'm new to this forum and people in my place just need some finesse when giving their piece, especially if it goes against the grain. If I go into a meeting with 10 20+ year business owners. I'm not gonna dominate the conversation, lol. I might have very different opinions but I'm gonna disqualify or qualify my opinions before giving them and make them softer. (ie: In my opinion, from my experience, it could be wrong but, this is what I think but I'm open to revisions, etc.)

I think many people who are into PU don't have good social IQ or they just want to dominate social settings without much regard for anything else. (Another very low value, needy behavior.) They usually don't have many friends, social circles/life or they aren't much integrated to the society and social fabric so they don't really know how to function with social finesse.

I disagreed with many people here but I know who had good intentions in those debates and who just wanted to win. Who I can argue with and who I can't.

This forum has INCREDIBLE value. The amount of 5+ year deep people that got success is insane. I just dove deep on some 2-3 year old posts. Let's not fuck it up for everyone else.

I think all one should do is drop your opinions with some finesse and disqualify them a little bit if they're so contentious (again, BASIC social IQ) and just have good intentions and be willing and open to learn, especially from legit dudes, instead of just blindly trying to put your mental framework into their heads. (Or simply just more agreeing to disagree after all the points have been made intead of just blindly butting heads.)

I agree 100 percent,its more style over substance,two people can make the same exact point,but one pisses off everyone,while the other is heard

 

[DarkKnight]

I havent been around for a while but it seems that there have been a lot of flame wars,this must be something very new,in the olden days,there was little or no moderation and I cant even remember a flame war happening

I think it was a temporary flare up. We also have to remember that this has become skilled seducer, not girlschase boards. The rebranding is more than just symbolism. It's a sign the owners want to take it up to another level and change things. Also from time to time there will always be flare ups or people who miscalibrate. As an owner you cannot always play nice. You had a company right? You should relate more to this than anyone else.

 

[Ree]

I think it was a temporary flare up. We also have to remember that this has become skilled seducer, not girlschase boards. The rebranding is more than just symbolism. It's a sign the owners want to take it up to another level and change things. Also from time to time there will always be flare ups or people who miscalibrate. As an owner you cannot always play nice. You had a company right? You should relate more to this than anyone else.

yeah i guess you are right,I was a member of some anime forums and for some reason unmoderated spaces just bring out the worst in humans(I really wonder what this says about human nature)