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You mean my opener? I don't really think about it. The goal is to talk with the girl. Kind of depends on the girl as well, if she has given me interest or if she has been more occupied with whatever she is doing. In first case I come in a bit gamey and usually playful joke around. I have certain cheesy lines I use a lot of times (in the same venue) and it has become something of an inside joke, but I do not want to share it here. Otherwise I tend to pre-open, and then make comment about something in the room , an "insight". Or I start make a comment about something she is doing and that it looks pretty cool and actually I could use it with my training, sometimes this causes that we can use the same machine and talk with eachother.
With breaking the ice I do not have a set in stone strategy. Don't need it either.
The biggest problem with a lot of guys is that they need an EXCUSE to talk with the girl. They need to feel that it is socially acceptable, but I run with different programming. I do not grant the environment power about what I should be or should not be doing (not saying that I am purposely fucking up my social frame). But I consider myself the highest authority, so I do not really need an excuse to talk with a chick. And because I am quite bold with this sometimes some meatheads get angry because it feels to them like I am leapfrogging, but I could not care less as I can handle myself very well. And also why give people power who do not want you to get girls anyway (because they want girls themselves ofc) doesnt make sense to me
The main problem you are looking to solve is probably:
1. How can I make this socially acceptable
2. Can I deal with social pressure if it doesnt go well
If you solve the above you will not worry too much about talking to new girls in gym setting
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also I need to be honest. Gyms are pretty much hit or miss. If there are not a lot of girls in the venue like you are saying, it is probably best to find a gym with more girls. Population matters a lot. My very best gym has still not recovered from the lockdown. It was such a great place.
With breaking the ice I do not have a set in stone strategy. Don't need it either.
The biggest problem with a lot of guys is that they need an EXCUSE to talk with the girl. They need to feel that it is socially acceptable, but I run with different programming. I do not grant the environment power about what I should be or should not be doing (not saying that I am purposely fucking up my social frame). But I consider myself the highest authority, so I do not really need an excuse to talk with a chick. And because I am quite bold with this sometimes some meatheads get angry because it feels to them like I am leapfrogging, but I could not care less as I can handle myself very well. And also why give people power who do not want you to get girls anyway (because they want girls themselves ofc) doesnt make sense to me
The main problem you are looking to solve is probably:
1. How can I make this socially acceptable
2. Can I deal with social pressure if it doesnt go well
If you solve the above you will not worry too much about talking to new girls in gym setting
---------------
also I need to be honest. Gyms are pretty much hit or miss. If there are not a lot of girls in the venue like you are saying, it is probably best to find a gym with more girls. Population matters a lot. My very best gym has still not recovered from the lockdown. It was such a great place.
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