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There are several elements that I find necessary for coming across as openminded and creating that friendly-touchy atmosphere in cold approach pick up.
Oops! I just checked the definition of promixity and it went like this- 'nearness in space, time, or relationship'. Wow! Straight to the fucking point, no dabbling upon words. Thanks Google.
When I started out doing cold approaches I'll stand afar, trying to open a woman. Gone are those days. Cold approach is a sport: you go to a different location where people don't know you and hook several women. It's an amazing skill set.
These days, I'm pushing my boundaries with these women. Doing and saying stuffs I'd normally not do or say to women in social circles because of judgements. I'll talk to them like we're lovers already, be touchy and really sexualize our conversations at the get go. Relatability was a big issue for me.
Since, I was a shy guy who didn't know how to relate with another human. Trying to show a total stranger(especially a woman) I just met that I'm not sexually judgemental about female sexual desires or experiences was a big deal for me.
Learning to even do it with ambiguity wasn't so easy, either.
When I dabbled upon 'proximity' in cold approach pick up. I figured out it was one of the best way to create familiarity with a woman, but it wasn't verbal- more of body language.
I try to maximize proximity with a new woman. That is getting closer to the extent that our bodies touch closely. If we just met in cold approach: I'll touch the back of her shoulders, check out a scar on her arm and ask about the story behind it.
If we are on a date- we are never going to sit across, instead I'll plan the date to be where our bodies can subconsciously touch, this creates tension.
With our bodies touching it was easy for me to relate with them, just like an old time friend. And we created this unique bubble of man to woman scenarios.
Now, that I've done countless approaches. I see how important proximity is to cold approach pick up. When I started being more conscious of my proximity with a woman in cold approach. I started to get to the hook, pretty well. Sometimes, early enough. The flakes on dates became lesser.
Sometimes, When I don't have the opportunity to apply proximity in a set: I try to touch the woman a few times. Calibrate it to the moment at hand, to make up for all those missed subtle touches I would have had. The fact is- Women are touchy creatures, that is: they hug their friends, do the double peck on the cheek, if they've got kids- they pamper them with care and touch. I guess it's just their way, that's why we love our Mothers'.
Proximity with a new woman shows dominance, creates tension and sets the precedence for bolder forms of touch and ass grabing.
As social beings proximity and touch is how we connect. And for seducing hot women- you need it as part of repertoire of skills.
Well, I can't say it all in one post. Just try it out, when next you're out practicing your social skills and see the positive impact it has on your game.
Mr STIF
Oops! I just checked the definition of promixity and it went like this- 'nearness in space, time, or relationship'. Wow! Straight to the fucking point, no dabbling upon words. Thanks Google.
When I started out doing cold approaches I'll stand afar, trying to open a woman. Gone are those days. Cold approach is a sport: you go to a different location where people don't know you and hook several women. It's an amazing skill set.
These days, I'm pushing my boundaries with these women. Doing and saying stuffs I'd normally not do or say to women in social circles because of judgements. I'll talk to them like we're lovers already, be touchy and really sexualize our conversations at the get go. Relatability was a big issue for me.
Since, I was a shy guy who didn't know how to relate with another human. Trying to show a total stranger(especially a woman) I just met that I'm not sexually judgemental about female sexual desires or experiences was a big deal for me.
Learning to even do it with ambiguity wasn't so easy, either.
When I dabbled upon 'proximity' in cold approach pick up. I figured out it was one of the best way to create familiarity with a woman, but it wasn't verbal- more of body language.
I try to maximize proximity with a new woman. That is getting closer to the extent that our bodies touch closely. If we just met in cold approach: I'll touch the back of her shoulders, check out a scar on her arm and ask about the story behind it.
If we are on a date- we are never going to sit across, instead I'll plan the date to be where our bodies can subconsciously touch, this creates tension.
With our bodies touching it was easy for me to relate with them, just like an old time friend. And we created this unique bubble of man to woman scenarios.
Now, that I've done countless approaches. I see how important proximity is to cold approach pick up. When I started being more conscious of my proximity with a woman in cold approach. I started to get to the hook, pretty well. Sometimes, early enough. The flakes on dates became lesser.
Sometimes, When I don't have the opportunity to apply proximity in a set: I try to touch the woman a few times. Calibrate it to the moment at hand, to make up for all those missed subtle touches I would have had. The fact is- Women are touchy creatures, that is: they hug their friends, do the double peck on the cheek, if they've got kids- they pamper them with care and touch. I guess it's just their way, that's why we love our Mothers'.
Proximity with a new woman shows dominance, creates tension and sets the precedence for bolder forms of touch and ass grabing.
As social beings proximity and touch is how we connect. And for seducing hot women- you need it as part of repertoire of skills.
Well, I can't say it all in one post. Just try it out, when next you're out practicing your social skills and see the positive impact it has on your game.
Mr STIF
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