r/seduction: Boys worry about game, men worry about logistics

[Sub-Zero]

It's just that the older I get and not having my shit together makes me even more insecure. I've been trying so long to get my shit together and I have only gotten shitty part time Jobs where you can't support yourself. I went to college got my associates, didn't get any good job offers at all, now I'm in uni for the last 2 years trying to get a degree that I don't know will get me a career (english/ technical writitng). I'm so paranoid I might not get a job because it's an English degree and I already failed out of stem, but still in the mean time if I go to get any type of degree doesn't matter if it's stem or not, I still have to find a way to make a living now I can't wait 2-6 years until I'm done with college to get my shit together.

I feel like I'm 18 again, but not in a good way, I'm basically a grown kid, I don't know why I could never find a job with full time income to at least not have to put myself in debt.

I feel I do no better than the college kids and that's embarrassing. I get that you might not get the best job, but you can at least get a job to support yourself.

I was trying to learn some skills on the side, but school is taking so much of my time and I have so many other things to worry about mentally that when I'm done with school I want to just relax and not do anything.

Now I'm at the point where I feel I can't date not just because of my age, but because of what I don't have at age.

I'm also down because I spent years not going out to meet women like I should because I didn't want to go out alone and got into a relationship that sucked, so I wasted youth and I was in a better head space back then, now I feel old and feel bad about myself because I didn't go out enough when I felt being broke wasn't an issue.

So I guess I shouldn't be a recluse because I don't have my shit together ? How do you manage to get laid and still do your thing with bad logistics? Should I just go all out on dating ? I worry about not having a career and job title as well.
And how do you think I should feel about myself when comparing myself to college kids situations? I feel bad because I'm no better than them. I feel like a grown kid.

Thank you for replying to me Rob, your advice always helps me out.

Sub-zero, you dont have to be so insecure man. Girls are more concerned with how you feel about your situation than how they feel about. Girls just want a strong man secure and confident with where he's going in life, whether you have to live with your mom or you own a mansion.

Im a bit down on my luck at the moment and live with my parents and I still go out to meet girls no problem, (though my logistics are technically bad). I know Im working to get out of the situation and confident in my future.

Dont give yourself such a hard time, cut yourself some slack as long as your working to get that 1% closer every day to reach your goals in life brutha.

 

[Space]

Chase created an assessment quiz about a year ago, it is on the front page, in the header of the website, in a popup, you cannot miss it. You answer 10 questions and based on that, it roughly assess your skill level with women and provides you with an e-book. It has like 40 pages I think with links to specific articles which should help you get to the next level.

I've answered you here not to off my topic about logistics even more, okay?

Space you already know what time it is dawg.

Sorry for the late answer but for me the time is to first I'd like to get some answers to the topic I'm curious about since August (yeah, technically I've opened this question today but it's predecessor goes back to August with today's question already in my head just things are complicated here) then some time later we can get back to this thread which I opened two month later. I hope that's okay to you!

And stop this interlinking bullshit too. Its annoying AF.

Let me insert a quick quote from here:
6. Write down notes and observations in a dedicated player notebook.
Learning game bombards your brain with so much information and data that it’s necessary to write notes from your field experiences. Record lines that worked and lines that didn’t. Jot down specific venues you did well at. Write your conclusions from episodes of success or failure. I also want you to keep track of your daily approach count to know when you’ve gotten to 100. Your player notebook will eventually be a personal bible that reminds you of all the lessons you’ve learned.

I have my private notes, but obviously this forum is kind of a notebook for all of us. First, linking to here and there helps me keeping track of stuff. Indeed, not only me who wants to keep track of his forum posts. Second, if I were not able to link to posts about topics I've already written, I had to type them in over and over again making my posts 3 times as long, readers (who care) had to read 3 times as long posts every time, so I just don't find not linking the best way to use both writer's and reader's time.

 

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I just put 'bad logistics' into YouTube's search box and here's what I got, with my commentary:

Shitty advice

Really shitty advice

Pretty solid advice

The latter is the same that Chase suggests. His advice is a little bit less straight forward to follow, I mean in general. With those links to 50 other articles. At least for me. In the age of YouTube, I mean.

 

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Welcome the influx of new member from the NextASF forum! My ever still relevant on-topic questions are in my first two posts. Meanwhile I got into some long winded off-topic discussion with some regulars here, I may get back into that, but it's a little too long winded.