Regret the past

[Warhol]

Hey guys, I am having some anxiety regarding my fear of regret. I know on this site we discuss understanding the importance of not ignoring second thoughts about a girlfriend and to end it and keep looking. I understand the importance of improving your notch count and when the time comes it's better to leave a relationship and keep searching the unknown world.i know that if you find the perfect relationship with a unicorn girl we advocate possibly leaving it to keep exploring and discovering but is there ever a limit. I know we talk about how there are some amazing girls we have met by getting back out there and how there are some new experiences we would never have if we hadn't keep looking.

Is there ever a point where we miss one of our really good exes where we can't find a girl as good as one of our past. The one that got away?

Where we get too old to form a good enough connection with a girl like we had in the past? How do we make every new relationship just as good as the last?

What if we never find a girl as good as one as we had in our past? How do we reconcile?


Why is the regret of what is still out there much worse than the regret of what could have been ifi stayed with her especially if you are still with her?

 

[trashKENNUT]

Warhoi,

Is there ever a point where we miss one of our really good exes where we can't find a girl as good as one of our past. The one that got away?

Where we get too old to form a good enough connection with a girl like we had in the past? How do we make every new relationship just as good as the last?

What if we never find a girl as good as one as we had in our past? How do we reconcile?


Why is the regret of what is still out there much worse than the regret of what could have been ifi stayed with her especially if you are still with her?

Don't make girls as your purpose of life. And get good at it if you want girls that matches the same caliber u want.



Zac

 

[Warhol]

I know not to make it the purpose of life but I can't help feeling the pain of letting go of previous girls or comparing new girls to the previous one

 

[kalyan]

Why is the regret of what is still out there much worse than the regret of what could have been ifi stayed with her especially if you are still with her?

My friend, if you left her that means it was probably TIME for you to leaver her.. So if you were still with her, it wasn't going to be pretty (she was going to stop wanting you ask much).
The question of your post is a bit ambiguous but yes, I personally feel "you know, i really wish I didn't lose Sandra. She was really good at sex/ at attracting attention/ whatever you like in her". But these thoughts are not good. I don't know if you've read chase's article on overcoming depression.. Well, please do read it, and think of "thinking excessively about a certain girl" as a bad thought. So the article says, as soon as you think this, STOP. Change what you're thinking about. It's not so easy but it's simple.
And to answer your concern, you can always find someone better. Unless you're dealing with a girl who fucks you like a porn star, looks like a model, loves you like crazy... Yeah. You probably have many girls that are better than the one you're thinking about all this much

 

[Warhol]

Thanks Kalyan great answer, it's just kind of hard when you feel the girl was so unique but I guess itS all my neutons and pathways

 

[kalyan]

Think of it this way: almost 100% of people (not just guys) have this same problem one way or another... Either they're depressed or obsessed or insecure or whatever... But you're one of the few who will actually be actively doing something about it to improve his life!

 

[Warhol]

Yeah that's a great way to thunk about it the active improvement and the places to soar to. It's just me trying to get over that feeling that relationships mean something instead of focusing not only on their transient nature but also on other things that make me happy like accomplishing things