Rejection by a girl at work

[durtyfat7]

Hey guys, there's a girl at work that i am interested in ( she is working in a different department). She's not working alot ( 2 days per week), but i found time to talk to her( on the break), get to know her better/her passions...etc. It's been like this for 2-3 months. I'm a shy person and not very funny guy but i tried to make her laugh sometimes and it works, not everytime though. Last month, i was having a small conversation with her and i invited her for a coffee for next week. She blushed and said she''ll let me know cause she has university, very busy to sum up. I already added her on facebook, so i thought maybe she'll let me know back there but nothing. 2 weeks later, i was with her on break again at work, and i was talking to her normally and i brought the subject yet again. I asked her if she's available next week... and she blushed again and said she doesn't know ( she even smiled a little bit) and for some awkward reasons, i told her if she is not interested, it's fine. And she said it's a little bit that, but i can see it was hard for her to say it.

Since that time, im not talking to her alot( apart from hi when i see her) and that's it. She is a little cold at work and she's not smiling alot a work. Other employees said the same thing, i believe she is hiding things( maybe she has problems in her personal life).

My question is, i'm still interested at her and i don't really wanna give up like this on her. I believe like this bcs i screwed up when i asked her out( i wasn't very confident, straight, and i stressed a little bit). I dont know if she would have said yes if i invited her in a different way. What do you guys suggest me to do in that case in that situation?

Thanks in advance.

 

[lostnumber]

Sounds to me like she isn't interested and doesn't want to hurt your feelings by flat out rejecting you. You definitely could have done a way smoother job of asking her out, but who knows how big a factor that is or whether she wouldn't have been in to you no matter what you said. I think you should move along to the next girl and chalk this up as a learning experience

 

[ramshead]

Your attraction window faded 2 - 3 months is a long time at work you can pass by with 4 to 5 weeks of knowing a girl before asking her. She’ll think you’re being professional. At work it’s best to go out the day of. For example it’s Friday. Before asking her tell of of a cool bar or coffee shop you know off. Then talk about something else once your ready to go to your department ask her any plans today. If she’s interested and curious about the place you talked about she’ll saw no so ask her let’s go out tonight. If she says yes take her their. Have a good time their and then go to second place that’s walking distance. That’s your chance to grab her hand and go for a kiss. Then odds are you can fuck her that night and it will seem spontaneous and natural. Never tell a girl if you don’t want to go it’s fine. It shows weakness. If she cancels then blame it on the location not her. Like no worries it’s only coffee. It shows confidence and not making her feel bad. She’s trying to figure you out and not hurt your feelings but if she cancels and you show her it’s no big deal. She will be more attracted to you. Ps I think you should move on and try again with her in 6 to 8 weeks. Let her see you making other girls in your office laugh. Don’t add any girls on social media let them add you. If they have a boyfriend odds are you won’t fuck them because they don’t want to be seen as a slut. But since you added her take pics with attractive women. This willmake you more attractive to her. Just give it Time and try again in 6 weeks. You might be surprised and she asks you out

 

[durtyfat7]

I see. Thanks for you advice guys.
Logically, i should move on when something like his happen, but part of me thinks that she might have said yes if i was more patient the second time instead of "forcing" her to answer. I could see that she wasn't sure how to answer, that's why i told her its fine if she doesn't want to go.
I'm not really active on social media, so i don't think i'm gonna use that like u said. Do you guys think i should talk to her like i used to( friendly way) or not at all( like i don't really care about her presence) apart from say hi when she pass by?

 

[ramshead]

Treat her as you would normally would just don’t ask her out. Talk to the other girls as well and let her see you talking to them. She’s not your girlfriend so don’t treat her like one. Make it look like it’s not a big deal. Which it isn’t.