Rejection Challenge

[Gamenoob92]

I just realized today that though I have been doing daygame for a while now, and even gotten some dates and a pull, every day I go out to approach is a huge mental battle and saps all the energy out of me and I am not able to do anything productive for the rest of the day.The predominant thought that keeps running through my head at the beginning of every session is "I hope I do not get an awkward rejection or get totally ignored by a girl". I am so absorbed by this thought that even when the girl hooks, I am not able to carry on an interesting conversation and go into boring chat.

In order to get rid of this I have decided to start a "Rejection Challenge". My goal is to get rejected at least 1 once every day for a week and then increase the intensity later to maybe 2-3 and 5 every session. I do not want to do crazy things just to get rejected but my goal is to use the regular openers I use in daygame which are generally light compliment openers which are modified to suit the particular girl. But my mindset is going to be one where I am completely open to and even looking for rejections. I am excited to try this out. Anyone wants to join me and then share their views after each session?

Would love to hear your thoughts! I want to face this fear of rejection head on!

 

[Kvothe]

It’s a good idea, and one that I try to do when I deal with AA. It rewires your brain to view rejection as a win, which is a good thing.

Right now the other thing I do is a combination of binary ranking and the three second rule (for when approaching feels like a chore and I’m having trouble increasing quantity). The idea is to look at a girl, and ask to yourself, “if this girl was naked and in front of me wanting to fuck, would I?” If yes, approach immediately. Eventually your micro momentum increases and it becomes less of an uphill battle.

 

[Gamenoob92]

Thanks for the response! Yes, I am trying to do exactly that. Rewire my brain to view rejection as a win. The 3 second rule and binary ranking also does not work for me as of now as I feel that actually getting the girl in my bed is a distant dream.

Somedays my anxiety is super high and I just can't seem to approach. That is why I have decided to really handle this fear first, before moving on to working with other aspects of my Game. Tomorrow will be my first day.

 

[Cody Lyans]

Don't do this challenge it is like admitting defeat. Just do what makes sense, which is make fewer approaches that are MORE EFFECTIVE and focused on overcoming the sticking point of not making good conversation. Sorry man just a friendly bump to get you on track