Relationships and Being a Kissless Virgin

[Ken]

So, I've been on the Girls Chase forum for more than a year, and I still haven't gotten the results I wanted. I am still a virgin, I haven't kissed anyone yet, and I have never been in a relationship.

Now, I don't want to be one of those guys who bitches about his situation and never does anything about it. I am more comfortable with being a virgin than I ever was before, and if I die today, I wouldn't mind. That being said, I am in the place that I am in right now because of me and my actions. I thought I can change it, but it is much harder than I ever thought it would be. Doesn't help that I am invisible to almost every female in my college.

The question I want to ask is, how can a kissless virgin get into a relationship with a woman? I don't think I will get into one anytime soon, but it would still be good to know just in case. Also, how can I develop a deep, emotional connection with a woman?

 

[WayOfHand]

I think the answer to the first question is pretty much that one can't or it is highly unlikely.

So what can you do then? Make a slight tweek into to the question! How can a kissless virgin become sexy and manly man? Now there is a question that Girlschace is full of answers. All you need to do is change your goal slightly. Still need to remind that there is gonna be no shortcut. It takes work to achieve but is absolutely possible!

So let me help you. Lets look this past year. I'm sure you have read GC articles but what else have you done?
-Do you dress differently? How?
-Do you do sports? What?
-Have you other hobbies? What?
-Do you behave any different? How?
-How many girls have you talked to? Number?
-Do you talk different? How?
-Are you a studying or working or whats your situation?
-Have you joined any new social groups? What?

Theres only a few that came to mind but they will already give quite a good picture. Any other changes in yourself would also help to know. If you can answer these questions we can try and see what you could improve next year!

 

[razir110]

I will be a bit bold here,

But have you been reading this for a year and have you been approaching girls? Or you read and don't approach?

The ONLY way to get better at anything in life is to do it and not to read about it, nothing new here. You are bad at dancing, you practice and get better, you are bad at maths, you practice and get better. but you must do it in real life! Plus only you know that you are a virgin, etc. The girls don't (until you come across as not confident) but you can only overcome it by trying and trying. You can only build social skills by interacting with people.

So from now on every time you are in a position to talk to a girl, DO IT. You will be surprised by how fast you will improve!

 

[Ken]

I think the answer to the first question is pretty much that one can't or it is highly unlikely.

So what can you do then? Make a slight tweek into to the question! How can a kissless virgin become sexy and manly man? Now there is a question that Girlschace is full of answers. All you need to do is change your goal slightly. Still need to remind that there is gonna be no shortcut. It takes work to achieve but is absolutely possible!

So let me help you. Lets look this past year. I'm sure you have read GC articles but what else have you done?
-Do you dress differently? How?

I started wearing less crewneck t-shirts and more V-neck and Henley shirts. I also started wearing more tighter-fitting clothes and stopped wearing looser-fitting ones. Also, I bought my first pair of chukkas and wore them to college. I also started wearing accessories over the summer, specifically a necklace and bracelet I got when I was in Puerto Rico, and three bracelets I got from Hollister after I came back. I stopped wearing them a few months ago to avoid overusing them.

-Do you do sports? What?

No.

-Have you other hobbies? What?

I like to write, and I write many things, including stories, blog posts, and articles for my college newspaper. I also like to read, but I mostly read articles and fanfiction, and I wish I read more books than I currently do. I am into history and I like researching the history behind many things.

-Do you behave any different? How?

When I get rejected by a girl, it doesn't hurt as much as it did in the past, but at the same time there has been long periods of time where I don't approach women due to being sick of rejection. When I get angry or depressed, it's not as bad as it was in the past, since I know this won't last long. Being aware of what causes me to get angry also helps in this sense.

-How many girls have you talked to? Number?

A lot more than I have in high school. I don't have a specific number, because I don't keep track of the women I approach, and my memory is bad.

-Do you talk different? How?

I try to speak with a much deeper voice than I do, and I already have a deep voice. I also try to get rid of the "uhs" and "like" and "you know" when I speak.

-Are you a studying or working or whats your situation?

I am in my third year of college. I never had a job in my life, and I don't plan on getting one anytime soon. I got too much to handle.

-Have you joined any new social groups? What?

I recently joined a new social group in my college that has two guys that went to the same high school as me. I randomly introduced myself to one of them despite never speaking to them before, and earlier last month when I went to see Doctor Strange in theaters, this guy was in the ticket booth that I bought my ticket from. A few days later, I saw him in my college's cafeteria area talking with the other guy I was talking about and a few other people, and I decided to join them. Now they consider me part of their crew.

I also grew out my hair in May.

 

[WayOfHand]

Hey Ken, sounds like you have been busy improving yourself last year. Thats awesome to hear.

I also like to read, but I mostly read articles and fanfiction, and I wish I read more books than I currently do. I am into history and I like researching the history behind many things.

I also enjoy reading and at the moment I'm trying to focus more useless spare time into it.

Sometimes it takes a long time to change yourself and different people do this with different intensity. What you could look into is where you see the biggest need for improvement and focus on that one thing at a time. Remember to not let yourself go easy, pick hard subjects.

What I might suggest is starting a sport, especially one increasing strength (gym). Thats one huge change that will majorly affect you both physically and mentally. This one really is important.

Other thing I think would benefit you is talking to a bigger variety of girls. And what I mean by that is talking to the less attractive girls. All of them! You can even make friends out of some of them. That would give you so much practice with talking to chicks.

Also set yourself goals. That you will talk to X number of chicks this week. Then increase it slowly. This is important. Otherwise you will make excuses not to do this stuff. No need to get anything from them even. Just give.

So far your improvements sound totally good to me. You are definetely at a point where you should be. Now keep on doing this and not so long from now you will find success. Just remember, it takes work. No shortcuts.