Response: Deleting Girls' Numbers Because They Don't Text Back Is Bad Game

[PeacockMan]

Hi

I have not been here in a long time, but @Chase https://www.girlschase.com/article/deleting-girls-numbers-because-they-dont-text-back-bad-game caught my attention because for years I've deleted girls numbers to:

- Protect my feelings
- Get over women

To give some context, since I've last been here, work has taken over most of my free time and I had a lot going on so I have not been dating one woman for the most part, meaning we go on one date every 2-4 months. That's a long story, but the long and short of it is a few months I made a huge mistake that caused her to cancel an upcoming date and so I sent a message in anger and she responded back with anger. Then I blocked her and she blocked me.

Since then we've reconciled a bit, talked on my birthday, however, she mentioned she doesn't trust me anymore. I asked her out recently and she said

"In the past you have paid all the dates and you are the one who started talking about how much you've spent taking me on dates in the past so I won't go on another date with you until I get around to treating you for your birthday a few days ago".

We spoke a few days ago and she mentioned she purchased a bottle of wine and will get 3 dress shirts for me as a belated birthday present. However I'm cautious about accepting her taking me out on a lunch meet up (not a date) as she's mentioned in the past how she repaid her exboyfriend for a bed just because she wanted to get even before cutting him off.

What does all this info have to do with the article by Chase? Everything in a nutshell. I've become a needy guy, hung up on her, afraid that this lunch will be her way of getting even then cutting me off for good. She's going to pick the location, she mentioned a nice restaurant, she's going to pay for everything.

And I know this sounds fucked up, but I've been asking Chatgpt for advise for days if I should block and delete her and move on for good to protect my ego and emotions. Because I've been so focused on work, I still don't have time to go out and meet new women. So what's the advise for a man in my situation where the only practical solution is to block and delete her number? Out of sight, out of mind as they say.

I'm sharing this as maybe a follow up article. I've slowly fallen into the celibate category, not by choice, but by a shift in priorities.

Edit: I have not slept with this woman but I had a good chance of doing so had I not overreacted and asked her a stupid question that made her put the brakes on:

Don't Ask Women Stupid, Needy Questions

There are these stupid, clueless, needy questions men ask women. Perhaps you've asked some yourself. Yet these questions are pure sabotage for your seductions. This is really more for new guys than anyone else. Though I have still sometimes seen intermediate guys making these mistakes too. In...

www.girlschase.com

 

[gameboy]

jeez dude just go on the date and eacalate. if you dont kiss her or pull her then find another girl.

 

[PeacockMan]

@gameboy that's the problem. I'm living in such scarcity at the moment and most of my time is maxed out between my jobs and the gym. She's framing it as a "lunch" and I keep overthinking it. She's said to me when I made that mistake "I've never trusted you and it going to take another 9+ months for me to trust you again". Long and short is I struggle with sometimes thinking way ahead into the future and taking women's words at face value and that fucks with my vibe. That's what happened the last time. I called her up and asked a stupid question and that caused her to feel uncomfortable and cancel.

There's a real discomfort playing the "waiting game" so my typical process is to "block and delete" so I never have to leave the door open for hurt again with that woman. But Chase's article crosses a little between https://www.girlschase.com/content/i-don-t-chase-em-i-replace-em

I thought blocking and deleting was a way to replace not chase. There's just no way I can keep a woman's number in my phone and not have the temptation to get obsessed with her especially when not getting what I want.

 

[gameboy]

I believe you are overthinking it. If you really want this woman, allow her to invite you to a date and reward her by telling her you want to kiss her. Or better yet, just do it. If she resiste shrug it off and give it another try at the end of the date.

You can still cut her out afterwards if it doesnt go well. Though I dont recommend it. Theres always a vhance she will want to see you again later.

 

[ChrisXKiss]

If you only have one woman in your life and you feel like it’s not even possible to meet new ones, then it is logical that you will feel scarcity, overreact and be extremely affected by anything related to her.

It is simply a matter of meeting more women and knowing that even if things don’t go well with this one it will be fine and you can find another.

And if this part of your life really bothers you, maybe it is time for your priorities to shift again and find ways to meet more women.

I am not saying to not go for this one at all by the way, just that keeping your cool when she is your whole world romantically won’t be easy.

Chase even mentions in this article: “If you absolutely need to delete a girl’s number to stop yourself from chasing after her or obsessing over her, then do it. Do what you have to do.”

It simply doesn’t show abundance, and doesn’t get you anywhere game wise, but if it truly affects you deeply maybe erasing could be a good choice.

It won’t make much of a difference in the end though, unless you do meet other women and keep this part of your life satisfied.

 

[Will_V]

Hi

I have not been here in a long time, but @Chase https://www.girlschase.com/article/deleting-girls-numbers-because-they-dont-text-back-bad-game caught my attention because for years I've deleted girls numbers to:

- Protect my feelings
- Get over women

To give some context, since I've last been here, work has taken over most of my free time and I had a lot going on so I have not been dating one woman for the most part, meaning we go on one date every 2-4 months. That's a long story, but the long and short of it is a few months I made a huge mistake that caused her to cancel an upcoming date and so I sent a message in anger and she responded back with anger. Then I blocked her and she blocked me.

Since then we've reconciled a bit, talked on my birthday, however, she mentioned she doesn't trust me anymore. I asked her out recently and she said

"In the past you have paid all the dates and you are the one who started talking about how much you've spent taking me on dates in the past so I won't go on another date with you until I get around to treating you for your birthday a few days ago".

We spoke a few days ago and she mentioned she purchased a bottle of wine and will get 3 dress shirts for me as a belated birthday present. However I'm cautious about accepting her taking me out on a lunch meet up (not a date) as she's mentioned in the past how she repaid her exboyfriend for a bed just because she wanted to get even before cutting him off.

What does all this info have to do with the article by Chase? Everything in a nutshell. I've become a needy guy, hung up on her, afraid that this lunch will be her way of getting even then cutting me off for good. She's going to pick the location, she mentioned a nice restaurant, she's going to pay for everything.

And I know this sounds fucked up, but I've been asking Chatgpt for advise for days if I should block and delete her and move on for good to protect my ego and emotions. Because I've been so focused on work, I still don't have time to go out and meet new women. So what's the advise for a man in my situation where the only practical solution is to block and delete her number? Out of sight, out of mind as they say.

I'm sharing this as maybe a follow up article. I've slowly fallen into the celibate category, not by choice, but by a shift in priorities.

Edit: I have not slept with this woman but I had a good chance of doing so had I not overreacted and asked her a stupid question that made her put the brakes on:

Don't Ask Women Stupid, Needy Questions

There are these stupid, clueless, needy questions men ask women. Perhaps you've asked some yourself. Yet these questions are pure sabotage for your seductions. This is really more for new guys than anyone else. Though I have still sometimes seen intermediate guys making these mistakes too. In...

www.girlschase.com

Go and meet her, not to prevent her from leaving, but simply to see her and enjoy being with her again. Maybe she'll be able to do the same, and you'll sort things out. Maybe not, and she'll leave and you'll have to find another. That's life.