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Response to tough question: "Do I know you?"

Mark E

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I came across a problem a while ago with a girl who I had known and talked to on a few occasions. I was sitting at a table with my friend at college, and looked over and saw her talking to some guy. She looked my way so I was like "oh hey", and she replied "Do I know you?". I knew she remembered me, because I had just talked to her literally a week before. That response could have been due to the fact that she was talking to another guy, but she broke circle to look my direction, and i'm pretty certain that she just said it because she is a bitch. I usually try not to describe any woman that way, but there is literally no other way to put it. Anyway after that response from her, my mind immediately went defensive, and I replied with a "yeah you know me, but you can keep pretending you don't". I did say it in a rather indifferent manner, because I don't care what she thinks of me, and I almost never lose my temper anyway. To no surprise, as soon as I said that, she remembered my name. It doesn't matter what she thinks of me because I have no intentions of having anything between us, but after this happened, my answer started annoying me. It was kind of a jerk response. It was far better than a nice guy response that would be something like "uh, I think so. Remember, we talked a while ago.", or "oh sorry, I thought you were someone else", but shouldn't there be a far warmer response? I began thinking of it, and ended up deciding that if a similar situation occurs in the future, I will say "You did at one point, but since you don't remember, that means you get to have the pleasure of meeting me twice. I'm Mark." with a sexy smile. I'm still unsure though. Would that come across as cocky? If you have any ideas of a better response, post them below.
-Mark
 

Jarradical

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Hey Mark

Chase actually goes into this sort of thing in his latest article https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-p ... -and-savvy

I think that your response is pretty spot on though, it's clever how you defuse the situation.

Ugh you just reminded me of how I handled the same question ages ago... I just stared at her and said "Yes."

Cheers
Jarradical
 

Light

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Hi Mark,

It all depends on how she said it in the first place.
Was she teasing you with a smile on her face?
Was she cold and looked serious?
Did she looked really confuse? if so you can assume that she really couldn't remember. Either she has a brain of a goldfish, or you didn't really made a big impact on her.

But I would have just paused for a moment, looked at her, and said : "No... Just a stranger saying hello." With a sexy smile (maybe a wink too).
 

Flames

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If she was with another guy I'm presuming that's why she said it in a bitchy way, don't take it personally :)

Either way I wouldn't bother this one unless she shows you a sign she's interested.
 

Mark E

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Jarradical said:
Hey Mark

Chase actually goes into this sort of thing in his latest article https://www.girlschase.com/content/how-p ... -and-savvy

I think that your response is pretty spot on though, it's clever how you defuse the situation.

Ugh you just reminded me of how I handled the same question ages ago... I just stared at her and said "Yes."

Cheers
Jarradical
Yes, it is always painful looking back at how inexperienced you were in your past. But it makes it that much better to see how far you have come, and how far you are going to go.
Keep at it!
Mark
 
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Mark E

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Light said:
Hi Mark,

It all depends on how she said it in the first place.
Was she teasing you with a smile on her face?
Was she cold and looked serious?
Did she looked really confuse? if so you can assume that she really couldn't remember. Either she has a brain of a goldfish, or you didn't really made a big impact on her.

But I would have just paused for a moment, looked at her, and said : "No... Just a stranger saying hello." With a sexy smile (maybe a wink too).

Hey Light,
Thanks for your input, but you might have the wrong impression. She definately wasn't teasing, otherwise I would have played along and it would be cool. But no matter the reason, I am not interested in her. The importance of the situation is that it was a difficult question and I was just asking about good ways to effectively diffuse such a situation, while increasing attraction. Only for the reason that it might occur in the future with someone I am interested in.
 
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