Seducing women older than you

[MisterX]

For those who haven't read my other posts I'm turning 21 at the beginning of October.

So women older than me are those 23-33 years old.



My experience so far is with girls my own age or younger. I haven't had any experience with women 23-33 years old. But I want to have.



So my question is- what calibrations do you have to make with women older than you?



I know there is a difference between seducing 18 year old girls and 28 year old women.

And I think there also will be a difference between seducing 25 year old women and 33 year old women.

Cause the young girls are still carefree and want to party while the older more mature women have been hit by life and have responsibilities and jobs and have had much more experiences with men.




So how do you approach them so they wont see you as a kid - especially with women at 30-33. Is it enough to just be s sexual, confident man and having your fundamentals to a tee?

How do you proceed with the dates and pulling her home and then escalating?

Do you go faster then with 18-20 year old girls?

Should you be more aggressive with older women?

More dominant?

Will you encounter more resistance to escalations cause they are more experienced or will you meet less resistance cause they are more sexually open?


Do you act more energetic and youthful or more chilled and calm or do you just act like with the younger girls?


And the final question - where do you find older women (30-35 or how they call them cougars)? Do you approach during the day? night? look around for a dating site where older women meet younger men?











And just to clarify I'm not asking about how to seduce them to be in a relationship. I'm only interested in sex with older women than me.

For a relationship the girl and I should have an age gap of no more than 2-3 years. That is what I want.

So I'm only asking how to make women 23-33 into lovers with no strings attached sex.

 

[Chase]

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Moved this one to "General." Typically, you'll want to keep "question type" posts to General, unless it's a really sticky / philosophical type question that might be suited for "Advanced." If you have a really well thought out process to share though (e.g., "Here's my killer process on getting girls 2 to 12 years older than you even when you're young"), that could be a great fit for "Advanced," though - especially if it requires a lot of more advanced skills and abilities that newer guys might not have at their disposal yet.

So my question is- what calibrations do you have to make with women older than you?

Generally,

• More subtle
• More calm
• Less "asshole," more "cheeky"
• No talking about school / other kid stuff
• Lots of relating to her on her regular life
• Ask her her age right up front and get that out of the way before she asks
• Consider saying you're older than you are - one of the few times I'd recommend flat-out lying because being young is such a dealbreaker for men

You can get younger girls by bouncing around and being loud and being an asshole, because they find this exciting and respond to it. When you do that with women over 20 to 22 or so, they curl their lips back in disgust and walk off. "He's still a child!" they say to themselves.

You have to calm it way down and employ a lot more subtlety and nuance.

Younger women are also less perceptive when it comes to subtlety. When you're subtle around younger women, they'll sometimes pick up on it, but then they don't even know exactly what it is about you they like so much, they just won't be able to contain themselves and start gushing about you. Older women are more poised, because they've already been there, done that, seen that, felt that, experienced that. She demands more subtlety because she is more seasoned; she was already the gushing younger girl in the past, and now she's no longer so easily impressed, or quite so expressive when she is.

So how do you approach them so they wont see you as a kid - especially with women at 30-33. Is it enough to just be s sexual, confident man and having your fundamentals to a tee?

I know some women in their early 30s who don't mind hooking up with a "kid" every now and again, usually the gals with a lot of energy who seem a lot younger than they are. Many of them hit their early 30s and hear their clock ticking and say, "Hold the phone... I've got to get serious." In the West this seems to be about 32 or 33 these days. That's the cutoff limit - she hits that and it's, "Whoa. Partying's still cool and all but... I need a husband!"

It's been weird watching this happen to female friends of mine. A year ago they were saying they never wanted a relationship. Now they're talking about getting married. Strange transition.

Just think of everything you do to get younger girls, and do that in a cooler, subtler, steamier, sexier, lower effort way. That's how you get older women.

And, remove the age objection early on. They're worried you're too young. They're also worried you're going to think they're too old, and will make them feel bad about themselves. You must remove these concerns.

How do you proceed with the dates and pulling her home and then escalating?

Do you go faster then with 18-20 year old girls?

It works about the same. However, if you're younger, you'll often have a harder time leading as dominantly as you would with a younger girl. e.g., if you're 21, you can have a lot of very fast pickups with 18 to 20 year olds, but you won't have nearly as many with a girl who's 25+ because she's going to automatically want to assume the leadership role, and the best you can do is lean back and be chill and smile at her attempts to lead, because she won't yield you leadership right off the bat (usually).

Should you be more aggressive with older women?

More dominant?

If you get an opportunity to, you can, but if there's a noticeable age gap they will rebuff your efforts to lead too aggressively or dominantly, the way you might laugh off a little child trying to order you around. However, a child who leans back and sizes you up and stare at you and asks you some perceptive, precocious questions might just pique your interest and make you think, "Hey, there's more to this kid than meets the eye."

Will you encounter more resistance to escalations cause they are more experienced or will you meet less resistance cause they are more sexually open?

Depends on what they want you for.

If you're out of the boyfriend zone, less resistance. She knows the drill.

If she wants you in a relationship, you'll hit a wall of resistance... again, she knows the drill. And she knows what she needs to do to not have it happen.

Do you act more energetic and youthful or more chilled and calm or do you just act like with the younger girls?

Definitely calm and chilled.

And the final question - where do you find older women (30-35 or how they call them cougars)? Do you approach during the day? night? look around for a dating site where older women meet younger men?

I think cougar's generally defined as 36+, dating a man at least 8 years her junior.

30 to 36 falls into the "puma" designation. At least, that's what I've seen on the women's sites throwing these terms about

When I was newly graduated from college, I used to meet women who were everywhere from 22 to 32 or so in some of the nightclubs I frequented. Look for more upscale / trendy places... younger girls don't go to these as frequently (they prefer the loud "swing your hair shake your booty" clubs and the dive bars), but late-20s, early-30s girls do.

Chase