Semantics on Dating Apps

[lostnumber]

Interesting idea. I've not been super happy with my flake rate, and I can see how a warm call could improve that, so I'll have to play around with it and see if I can fit some more phone calls into the date setup

I think your example is overly optimistic though, at least for me. Realistically I'm usually booked 4-6 days out; its very unlikely I could make plans with a girl on one days notice, even if she happened to be free.

Same thing with your text. If we were both sitting at home with nothing going on I could see how that would be very effective. In reality I'm sitting in a work conference, or out at the bar with friends, or on the bus on my way home, etc. And I assume the same is true of most girls

But I think the concept of adding in some phone game has merit, so I'll play around with it and see if there is a way to integrate with what I'm currently doing. Thanks for the tip!

 

[NotJamesBond]

mindful, I'm digging your method. I'm going to steal it (with my own original comments, of course). Comment on the photos themselves, not the bio...It makes perfect sense!

I'll implement the phone call thing PS, if anyone from the apps ever sees me ever again haha. I've had 0 success with Bumble. I've gotten a couple dates with a dating site though.

 

[mindful]

mindful, I'm digging your method. I'm going to steal it (with my own original comments, of course). Comment on the photos themselves, not the bio...It makes perfect sense!

I'll implement the phone call thing PS, if anyone from the apps ever sees me ever again haha. I've had 0 success with Bumble. I've gotten a couple dates with a dating site though.

It only works if a girl has interesting pics that you can be playful/flirty with. A lot of girls do but some don't... then I will do a standard opening or use her bio.

I also barely get flakes if I meet up with a girl within a few days. This is usually how I operate anyways, I move as fast as a girl responds on dating apps (usually get number and set up date within a day). If we have a back and forth with messaging over the course of 2-4 hrs then I'll grab her number and immediately ask her what her schedule is like.

I think there are too many outside variables with online dating apps to play it slower... such as with day game where you would get her number then not text her til a day later or so. This also helps to get the girls that really do wanna meet up with you to do so. I've also done same night meets ups too, especially when playing the out-of-town card. 5-6 messages is all you need unless a girl isn't really investing in the convo.

Once you are successful with it a few times you will see that you don't need to be having that long of convos before a girl is willing to meet up. You just wanna be playful/flirty with her, show her you're a normal cool guy (ask a personal question or something after your flirty opening - this could lead to a few back and forth messages), then setup the date. You want to balance the flirty/playful messages with some normal stuff. There is a lot of room for variability here depending on the girl and her responses.

Also, girls can be super picky on dating apps too... the past few girls I went on dates with they told me I was like 1/70 and 1/100 guys they swipe right on. My pics are probably slightly above-average but not great, but they do depict an interesting lifestyle. Plus out of the guys that they swipe right on... how many actually get her on a date? Just food for thought.