Seppuku's Journey into Seduction

[Seppuku]

October 21st - the black week

Hahaha here I am now, Tribal Elder. Still can't believe I reached there.

A black week - well, all is relative, since my last post I went on two new dates, and had three regular girlfriends in my bed, and took a few new promising contacts. But because of various circumstances, yesterday was the first time I come since my last reported lay here with Mary my FB on Oct 11th. That's a black week, from the point of view of my blue balls.

On Friday 14th, I exchange texts with Joan my new regular FB. She has her period. I try to dismiss that, but it seems very painful this time. I take the chance to cancel the planned evening at my home, and go on a first date with one of my new contacts.

FR. First meet and date with Chantal. One of my new contacts in Badoo, another Kenyan (I'm not through yet with my African moment), 26 years old.

When we initially chatted in Badoo end of September, she said something like "I want to try making love with older men" quite out of the blue. Although the tone was joking, it made me wonder if she was not a prostitute. She moderated it with "I’m an open minded person, don’t be shocked". Communication dropped, and then resumed on Oct 11th. I immediately launch the idea of meeting. So after the evening is cancelled with Joan, I arrange the first date with her.

We meet at 9:15pm and I take her to the Kempinski. She seems pretty cool and I quickly dismiss the idea of a prostitute. The date is simple, relaxed, and quite touchy. She needs to be home at 12. And it’s now 11, a little short for a full escalation, but still want to make her see my home, to facilitate the second date at my place. I take pretext of the loud music to leave, and take her home. It’s easy because she has expressed some curiosity about where I live. At home I take her in my arms on the sofa, kiss her on the neck, and briefly on the boobs. We dance and I touch her big ass. Time to leave. When she puts her shoes I make her sit on my dick. We leave and I drive her home.

She was cute although a little fatty. It seems to be the eternal problem here, difficult to keep a good dietary habit due to the living style, and people grow fat. Anyway she is still quite fuckable, so I keep her for a second date at my place next week.

Saturday 15th, I take Gianna my GF to the cinema, then home. She cooks for a change. We then have one of these good fuck sessions BUT each time we fuck, she has a little spot of blood. Not sure what's going on. It sure distracts me and I don't come.

Sunday 16th I'm quite down and tired from a cold.

Monday 17th I feel better and decide to go on a first date with April, another Kenyan new contact.

FR. April. I met her on Badoo a few days ago, and we agree on a date tonight. The pictures she sent me were quite sexy and hot. Appointment at 8pm, she's supposed to come at the Intercontinental for a drink. At 7pm or so, she texts and say "I hope I won’t be late because I’m in Gharafa now". She went there to visit her sister. Sounds like buying herself free time. I tell her to text me when she is in the taxi. At 8pm, still nothing from her. Fortunately the appointment is at the Strata, 5 minutes away, so I’m still comfortable at home. At 8:15 I text her

Me: It’s 8:15
Her (right away): Just took a taxi. Where are you?
Me: What time do you expect to be here?
Her: Is 9 OK? Sounds like all bullshit. If she was on a taxi at 8:15, she should reach by 8:40 maximum.
Me: 9 is not OK. I will have my dinner then
In my mind the date is cancelled now. I go out for a quick dinner. I try to see if Chantal or Mary are available tonight, but no luck. At 9:20 she texts
Her: Hey you there?
Me: I’m home
Her: I’m in intercontinental. Sorry I’m late
Me: You expected me to be waiting 1h20 there?
Her: Am sorry

So we finally meet at 9:40pm in the intercontinental. Her face is cute, she’s fatter than implied in the pictures, and much less sexy: she dropped the long hair, and is dressed simply (trousers) instead of the short dress and heels in the pic. Apart from that, the date goes well, the connection is good, she mirrors my body language and posture, she’s touchy, and it’s a fun 1h20 minutes. At some point she mentions that the ladies of her tribe are known to be good in bed. "You make me curious now (wink)". By 11pm it’s time to go. I will drive her, but the keys of my cars and my eye glasses are at home such a naughty me.

I take her on a brief walk to my home and I can sense her excitement. In the elevator I take an ostensible, appreciative look at her body. She has these huge boobs. "it’s an impressive situation!" "You mean my boobies" "I was about to say, mangoes, or watermelons". As she goes out the elevator I give a brief, friendly tap on her large ass, she laughs. At home, I serve two glasses of juice. As she had been asking where is my wife, as a joke I tell her "Let me introduce you to my wife" and I take her on a brief tour of my home. We open the cabinets, drawers, and look under the bed. "She’s not here!". She laughs, I already told her I’m divorced. On the sofa, I get closer to her, and start kissing her in the neck. Good reception, we make out, she kisses very well. I’ve got to evaluate these boobs, I cup one in my hand and appreciate the weight. It’s massive. She’s supportive, and she extracts her boob out of the shirt. It’s huge, with a large black areola. I suck it well. She likes it.

But she has this curfew thing, plus work at 7am the next day, so she starts to be a little restless. I know I can lose her at this point, but I’m ok to take the risk. "I’ll drive you!". Before we leave my flat, I tell her I’m not selfish and put her hand on my hard on. "See, you can touch, too". Then I say "he’s of moderate dimensions... but he knows the job!" As I drive her, she hints again that she’s good in bed. "Need to see for myself. It’s like me when I said my friend knows the job. It could be bragging for all I know. Need to see!" We make out before parting. She kisses really good.

I’m mitigated on what to do next. I am just trying to convince myself of upgrading my standards. On the other hand, she is likely to be a very hot experience in bed. Also, at this stage, I still have Chantal cooking, plus three regular girlfriends, and just another new promising contact in Badoo. Won’t be enough room to fit them all. Keep on for now.

Tuesday 18th. I try inviting Chantal for a dinner home.

Me: Thinking of cooking tonight. Do you feel like joining me for dinner?
Some blah blah.
Me: Do I count on you tonight?
Her: Will there be wine for an escort?
Me: Have some red wine here
Her: Sounds fun
Me: OK, it’s best if you can organize a taxi to come, because I’ll be busy in kitchen
Her: OK, maybe I’ll come with my community
Here the thing that went wrong (I’ll know later) is my suggestion for a taxi. But I don’t know that yet. And it all sound like a test.
Me: Wooooow invitation is for you
Her: She explains that it sounds that I’m cooking for a whole community because otherwise she doesn’t see why I would be busy. I cut the crap immediately and decide to make her reflect a little.
Me: OK if you don’t feel like being alone with me I understand. Best we go out next time.

So I extend the invitation to Mary my regular FB, and will spend the evening with her. Unfortunately for my blue balls, she is on period this precise day. No fuck!

By 8pm Chantal texts me "Enjoy your beef stew". I send her a picture of my cooking plus the bottle of wine, and leave her comment unanswered.

Wednesday 19th. Chantal out of the picture

Chatting resumes with Chantal. At some point she says

Her: If I knew you were off today I could have come yesterday for a sleep over LOL
Me: I tell her I’m not off today - it’s her misunderstanding - but this would deserve comment because I’m the one to decide if anyone sleeps over at my place or not. But OK I let it go. I decide to try a second time.
Me: You have plans later? Because you could come over for dinner. Still have some of this cooking left.
Remains unanswered until 8:30pm.
Her: I’m bored when it’s me coming with taxi. But it just so happens that there was a round of pressure at work, and I had to leave around 9pm.
Me: I’m still in office, about to leave. It’s too late anyway
Her: What, late? I need to get drunk. Will you drive this way or not
Me: Not on my way. I’m already home now. She explains that she went out with girlfriends, but now back home.
Me: And how did you go there? She must have gone in taxi, and she knows it.
Her: Really, going to see a man with taxi and he has a car, I think it’s a bit of degradation
Me: Discussion over

She sends a frustrated message that I leave unanswered. I erase her from my contacts, now in Whatsapp she won’t see my profile pic anymore. Here is the problem. She expects me to be driving here around both ways, about 1h20 minutes total, as a question of standards, or else is degradation. She has no concerns about this time adding up to my very busy schedule, and it’s out of question of taking a taxi when it would be helpful. She’s only worried about herself and her need to get drunk, and her degradation etc... She’s out. I have already enough girls, don’t need to stick with one like this.

But still no luck for my blue balls.

Friday 21st - The relief! Finally meet with Joan. She's a sexy lovely cute (25 years old Kenyan), wearing a skirt and heels, with her huge boobs nicely packed. I was thinking of letting her go, simply because I need some turnover in my harem, to allow for new ones. But not sure now. She comes home and cook for me, and it’s very good! Then we fuck like crazy. She has these enormous boobs, I can’t stop sucking them. She comes many many times, she’s ecstatic. I take her from behind and come. Very good fuck. Drive her home.

 

[Ergon]

Re: Seppuku's Journal - dating in Doha

Congrats on your new rank.
I had expected you become an elder for a while given all your skills and help to the community.

I have seen you play around with variations of your original 2 dates pattern. Are you deliberately experimenting with it?

Also you're good with texting. Did it take you long to master or did just come naturally for you? I wish to become a bit better at it (even though haven't' even got any numbers lately haha).

Ergon

 

[Seppuku]

Re: Seppuku's Journal - dating in Doha

Hey Ergon,

Congrats on your new rank.
I had expected you become an elder for a while given all your skills and help to the community.

Thanks for that. I'm happy to help. It's like giving back some of what I received.

I have seen you play around with variations of your original 2 dates pattern. Are you deliberately experimenting with it?

I did experiment it late last year. It's harder to pull consistently. Betting that a second date will take place is a big risk. But as you get better with women you start getting consistent second dates. I'm still aiming for first date, and as a matter of fact, all my latest LRs (both posted here and in the FR board) are all first date sex. But for first date sex you need about 4 hrs of time ahead of you: maybe 1h30 to 2h face time on a "neutral" date place, then pull (0.5h transition or so), then 0.5h to 1h escalation, then sex.

So if I don't have 4 hours in front of me, I go for two dates model. If I can, I still try to bring them home on first date, even if I know I won't have time to escalate - like I did here with April and Chantal. Because once they saw my home, it will be much easier to organize a second date straight at home, "for dinner".

I would advise you try to get everything done on the first date - you stand a significant chance of losing here in between two dates otherwise. But if you can't then go for two dates. The idea is to keep the first date short (max two hours total face time), make her excited enough around you but not too horny. If you let a horny woman going home unsatisfied, all bets are off. She needs to be leaving you wanting for more but not horny as fuck.

Also you're good with texting. Did it take you long to master or did just come naturally for you? I wish to become a bit better at it (even though haven't' even got any numbers lately haha).

It's all learned. I used to suck big time. I became good at it with two years of online dating. The problem is to analyze what I'm doing. I guess it summarizes into "give her just enough but not as much as she would like". She's hungry. If you don't give her food, she starves off, and go find food elsewhere. If you give too much, she's overfed and don't need food anymore. You give her just enough food that she doesn't go away, but not too much so that she stays hungry. LOL. Does this make sense? That involves including (deliberate) silences, letting her come back, and being unpredictable.

Cheers man, thanks again!
Seppuku

 

[Seppuku]

October 28th: Need to rationalize

This week was another crazy one. My previous FB Lily is back in the country. With my current girls in rotation, it’s now 4 regular girls. It’s getting a very tight schedule. I’m getting to the point where I’m probably losing some new lays because not enough time to accommodate and follow up with new contacts. I am going to need to rationalize my harem a little.

Saturday: Gianna. Monday: Crissy. Tuesday: Mary. Wednesday: Lily. Friday (planned tonight): Joan.
Fading out: Chantal, April, Roselin, Roslyn, Miss L (the flight attendant mentioned on my Oct 3rd post). Also here, a 25 years old Chinese cutie who friended me on WeChat two weeks ago

New this week
FR. Crissy. We had been texting the whole week before, but I had been very busy, so we meet only on Monday. 26 years old Kenyan girl, she is very pretty, sexy, elegant and classy. Unfortunately bars are closed today (mourning the demise of a royalty) so my plan for the Kempinski is gone. I take her to the restaurant instead, it’s more formal and less intimate that I expected.

There is no silence, as I manage to keep a conversation going all the time, and I listen to her story. In the meantime, from her body language, I can feel her reservations towards me. I didn’t initiate physical contact in the car when I was driving because I figured it would be easy to do later. While we walked to the restaurant, it was a public place with high social pressure, so no chance to take her hand. And now in the restaurant it’s been nearly one hour since meeting her and still no contact. The physical barrier is growing. I keep my composure as much as I can. Unfortunately it is a noisy environment so I’m obliged to lean in into her several times just to hear what she says.

As I can feel her body language is getting more closed (she crosses her arms), I tell her “let’s break this distance” and take her hand out of the blue during the conversation. She smiles. She is now getting a little more open.

Dinner finished, I take her by the hand and inform her that we’re going to my home for a glass of wine. She’s fine and she follows. At home I make her comfortable. I get to take her in my arms and kiss her in the neck. She avoids the kiss on lips. OK she still has these reserves. From our deep diving earlier at restaurant it seems that she has been pretty hurt by her recent relationship and is being more cautious. Fine enough. I will need to have a tighter game, build a better connection before trying again. So for now I decide not to push too hard.

I drive her home. My hand on her leg, just above her knee (she’s wearing a dress) as I drive. She is the first one to re-initiate texting, but only the next day early afternoon. We agree on another date Saturday.

My Chinese Lily is back. She had left the country and back to China, but returned here about a week ago, earlier than expected. On Sunday evening I ask her to come home but she’s too tired. On Wednesday she’s back to me, around 8:30pm, and asks what I’m doing now (which is a proxy for "I want to fuck right now"). I take her home and we fuck like crazy. She still has these humongous boobs, I can’t get enough of them. The thing about Lily is she openly knows I’m having many other girls, but she’s fine with it. She asks me to see the picture of a girlfriend. I try to escape but she insists, so I show her the pictures of Jackie (my LR in the Philippines). There’s no knee jerk jealousy reaction.

My other regulars
Gianna. I met her on Saturday evening. The is still this on-going unrest, which seems to be growing. These days she has been constantly trying to grab my attention on texting, it has been a little bit heavy. On Monday she turned silent, and I knew she was waiting to see when I would initiate texting. So I just didn’t - because I’m tired of these little games. It was radio silence until Wednesday, when she reinitiated with "Did she do anything wrong? You go silent on me" and when I told her she’s the one who went silent on purpose, she denied. With her I think I have been guilty of giving her too much attention. I have tried to make her as close to girlfriend status as possible. Her reaction was to demand more and more attention. Cooling down things with her wouldn’t be bad thing anyway. As written above I’m at a point where I need to free up some space into my rotation program anyway.

Mary. I met her on Tuesday night. She’s nice and her body is still sexy as hell... But she is now getting attached, I can feel it - even if we meet like two hours each week. It would be nice to pull back a little.

The older ones
It gets interesting. I probably got more than 30 girls in the last year... And things are never really over. So I regularly keep seeing some old ones popping up on my Whatsapp. This week, I saw Jennifer (LR in April), Genna (my Philippines GF of last year), and Sarah (my LR in May). In the last two months I saw Olivia and Jane from last year. As I accumulate more girls, the potential for more and more girls coming back to my life later on increases... Yes, it's Whatsapp only, but what would it take to bring them back on track if I really wanted to.

Interesting exchange on WeChat
I want to report this text exchange I had on WeChat this week, absolutely incredible. It's interesting, in hindsight, the whole thing was framed from the very beginning to end up to its logical conclusion. The girl initiated a friend request on WeChat. After some initial basic back and forth, we get into this:

Her: If you want to meet me, one time we can meet. Make bonding in your home if it's allowed to have visits. Are you drinking wine?
Me: Yeah I enjoy drinking wine. We can meet you and me, alone
Her: Every Friday you have a day off?
Me: Friday I'm off, yeah
Her: But sometimes Fridays I am going to part time job. Because my salary is so small
Me: I understand
Her: Because I need money to send to my son. I'm alone to take care of my son since my husband died three years ago
Me: No worries, I understand
Her: If I have time I can meet you. But I don't know, maybe this coming Friday I need to go to my part time job
Me: OK sure
Her: But my only off day is Friday
Me: Can you go out on weekdays evenings?
Her: I'm not allowed to stay outside at night, we have a curfew at 8pm [this is usually the case with girls on company accommodation. They have to follow strict rules and curfews. But 8pm is really tough - most girls can go out until 10, or even 12]
Me: Wow
Her: If you can help me, if I come with you on Friday, then I don't need to go on a part time job. [LOL: this is where this whole thing was headed. I can come home with you but you need to pay "to compensate for the lost part time job". LOL. Opportunity cost. Time is money]
Me: We have a misunderstanding maybe I go on to explain that many men in Doha would be happy to trade "financial help" versus "regular visits at home". But not me. I'm against pay for sex, as a matter of principles.
Her: I know the man. I do not believe won't try to have sex if he stays with the lady
Me: This discussion is over

Another case of prostitution that doesn't say its name.

 

[Seppuku]

November 11th - What is Quality?

One of my stated objectives for the year is to improve of the quality of my girls. But that raises the question: what do we mean by quality? So I started asking myself some questions and came up with this.

So what is Quality?

* Is it her looks?
* Is it her beauty?
* Is it the experience of sex with her?
* Is it her “coolness”?
* Is it her level of education?

Let us define what we mean here.

• Looks: external appearance, her face, the way she dresses, is she hot? Would it feel proud to be seen with her at my arm? Are all other guys looking at me?
  Beauty: once you remove all clothes. The sexual appeal of her body. Does she gives you a hard on if you watch her naked? So beauty goes hand in hand with the experience of sex. Again, if she has a pretty face, this goes in looks, not beauty.
  Education: general level of studies, sort of job she's in, etc... Does she know where France is on the map? Lol
  Experience of Sex: This comes in two dimensions for me. (1) is it hot, passionate sex? and (2) intensity of pleasure (say she is tight, for instance). This last one, maybe some of the younger guys here won't relate if you haven't had girls 25+ who had children before.
  Coolness: What is the overall experience of the relationship. Is it peaceful? Is it good feelings and positive emotions? Or it full of drama, roller coasters, fights, frustration, insecurity, "explanations", etc...

About Education. I list it for exhaustiveness. It may be a factor for some of you guys. In my younger days I had my fair share of university graduates and PhD girls, and I'm not sure that made me any more happy than with my waitress girlfriend last year. The girl is not here for the educated conversation. This, I can have with my work colleagues. So for me, it will not be important factor.

Looks does not equate Beauty. If you ever had a girl that looked smoking hot, but got disappointed once you removed her clothes, you'll know what I mean.

Beauty does not guarantee great Sex. I've had many girls with moderate beauty that gave me a crazy experience in bed. And a few beautiful ladies who turned out to be quite passive and disappointing in bed.

As an illustration, let me take the example of the four girls I'm currently seeing regularly.

• 
  * J. gives me very hot sex. She sucks very well, she orgasms many times, and makes me come each time. The sex lasts hours, there are several rounds, she is very active. She’s cute, has large boobs to play with, but has too much belly fat. She dresses elegantly, with heels and nice dresses highlighting her large boobs and sexy legs. The relationship so far is extremely peaceful and enjoyable. On a scale of 1 to 5, she would score 4 on looks, 2 on beauty (the belly fat kills it a little), 5 on sex, and 5 on coolness. Average Score 4.0.
  
  * M. is very inexperienced, and she doesn’t seem to enjoy sex all that much. I don’t think she ever orgasmed with me - although I'm working on it. Her face is cutish, however her body is beautiful, she is very tight, and the pleasure I experience with her is very fast and very intense. I come within minutes with her, which is usually not the case with others. The sex last 10 to 15 minutes at most, and she is passive. She dresses with tight jeans emphasizing her tight waist and large hips. She’s tall, so quite attractive silhouette. But she has crazy hairstyles, that ruins it a little. She is extremely peaceful, I never hear a hint of a complaint, and she has a very good sense of humour. She would score 3 on looks, 4 on beauty, 3 on sex (the intense pleasure saves the day), and 5 on coolness. Average Score 3.75
  
  * G. is pretty. She has a sexy mindset, and she comes with sexy underwear. She enjoys sex very much, but in order to come she requires a very fast pace which makes my erection weaken. And when her orgasm picks up, she accelerates the rhythm which kills my own orgasm. Because of this, I come only 50 pct of the time with her. Although she spoke about it, she doesn’t give me head very often. She has a nice large ass, but I find the doggy style uncomfortable. She can dress very elegantly - most of the time. Once in a while she is wearing high heels. She has a good sense of colors. But from times to times she neglects herself a little and drops her standards. On the relationship side, she gave me some frustrations and "explanations". Not the worse drama queen I ever seen, but certainly more than any girlfriend I had in the last two years. That would be looks 4, beauty 3, sex 3, and coolness 3. Average Score 3.25
  
  * L. is still a pretty woman at 37. She enjoy sex a great deal, and she has these huge boobs I can't get enough of. The sex lasts typically an hour and overall very enjoyable. She dresses quite elegantly and in spite of her efforts can't hide the volumes around her chest, so she's quite sexy. She is very cool and stayed around me in spite knowing that I see other girls. Recently some talks about having sex without condom, mean I can't give her the highest score in coolness. She's 4 on looks, 3 on beauty, 4 on sex, 4 on coolness. Average Score 3.75

About the scores. The way I see it, a beauty or looks score of 1 corresponds to the general "hotness" scale of 6/10. So looks 3 would be what people call an 8 in the PUA sphere, and 5 would be a 10.

If I average the marks on the 4 categories, J. is 4.0, M. is 3.75, G. is 3.25 and L is 3.75. I actually pushed the exercise to rate (from memory) all the girls I have been in bed with in the last two years, making sure that the marks make sense also on a relative basis. The scores I got reflect pretty much accurately my personal preferences of the girls. The scorecard system above seems to give an overall pretty good picture of the "quality" of the girls.

Any guy reading this, feel free to comment. Is there any important dimension you would have added to the scorecard?

 

[Inbocca]

Re: Seppuku's Journal - dating in Doha

Nice system. I used to have something similar but dropped it after I realized I was overthinking it. To each their own. Glad to see you're quantifying your goals though.

If this is just for your "harem" and you're not actually trying to date these women, there really isn't more than what you find sexually appealing. Since you're referring to quality, I'd say maybe quality of personal lifestyle? Not necessarily profession - you mentioned the waitress was good enough to be your girlfriend - but maybe just how they live their lives. Health, aspirations, self-esteem, lack of bad habits, etc. If that doesn't matter to you then it's not important. Kinda hard to say, every guy looks for different things.

 

[Seppuku]

Re: Seppuku's Journal - dating in Doha

Hey Inbocca,

You are right, a dimension about general outlook in life is in fact a good idea. What is her attitude vs life? How ambitious is she? Is she taking charge of her life, active about improving it? Etc...

Indeed, this waitress, ex GF of mine (Lucy) was a fighter. Not in relationship (she gave me a very stable, peaceful and loving relationship), but in her own life. She faced some struggles in her work (while in Qatar) - quite stressful - and faced it bravely, took the courageous decisions and finally got out of her difficult situation. Today she is facing much better prospects that she could ever hope to get when she was in her difficult professional situation here in Doha. She recognized the dead end, had the courage to step back, get out of the dead end, then finally found a much better direction for herself. That courage and determination she showed, I appreciated.

Another GF of mine (Jenna) was married to a guy who threatened her with a knife in front of her eyes. She got out of his grip, and went on to become an entrepreneur. After taking some outsourcing project management jobs for years, she finally started a successful catering business. I did appreciated her entrepreneurship and aptitude to get things done.

Both girls would rank a 4 or 5 on my scale. Yes, these are definitely traits to look for on girlfriend material, although somewhat less useful for my harem of FBs, and harder to assess for all the ONS I got.

The Scorecard suggested in my post wouldn't be very practical, because hard to assess objectively - I tend to over-rate the girls that I'm seeing right now compared to the girls I saw a year ago. But at least I found the above a useful reflection on Quality. I'll keep this new "Attitude / Outlook" Quality in mind, at least for GF material girls. In any case, this is only one possible system, as you pointed out.

Cheers,
Seppuku

 

[Seppuku]

November 15th - the question of Balance

Been quite busy. My work has been quite demanding lately, requiring me to stay late in office. In addition I have finally decided to kick my butt to create the company I need for my side business. My deadline is Dec 15th. Required hours in due diligence. Then I've been seeing Mary, Joan and Lily as my regulars. Gianna... Well, it ended not very gracefully unfortunately when she blew up her last fuse. More later on this.

Seeing three regular girls in a week is interesting... However it also leaves very little time and energy to pursue and bring new girls on board. I also have had plenty of new contacts in the past three weeks that I sort of wasted because no available time to properly pursue. Technically, after my three regulars, I can realistically have one evening time slot per week, for a new date. More than that is not realistic over an extended period of time. Fortunately - so to speak - this is going to improve. Lily my Chinese FB (I actually like her a lot) is returning to China for good. That will leave me with Joan (every Friday) and Mary (usually Mondays or Tuesdays), plus a lot of new free time.

In spite of that, I have had a stream of dates - although all of the inconclusive to this day. Thinking about it, it's been a month that I didn't bring a new girl in my bed. In the same period, I had 8 dates (some of them already described in previous posts), none of them conclusive. I guess that seeing regular girls also builds up complacency. Need to be careful to keep my alpha frame!

That raises the question of balance. On one hand, doing ONS for the sake of ONS is fun, but a little sterile after a while. The interest is also in getting some continuation with the most interesting of these girls. On the other hand, getting only relationships builds up laziness and complacency, leave with less time available to bring on new material, and ultimately lead to some degree of skill loss. So what is the right balance? There has to be some constant inflow of new girls - essential for the alpha frame! but there has to be some follow up with the best of these new girls - or else what is the point? Not sure what the right balance is. Three (like now) might be the upper limit. Two may be better. Question: what do you do when you have already three, and another interesting one shows up? Do you drop one of the previous ones? The over crowded harem. LOL. It's a good problem to have!

And I never imagined it's a problem I would face when I started all this.

No mega post today! I have more to write, but will keep it for another day.

Cheers guys!

 

[Seppuku]

November 24th - Dry spell

There are cycles in seduction. You start alone and have this urge to get your hand on a good looking female. Motivation at the top, so you go out on a date binge, lay a few then find a good one (or more than one) that you want to keep seeing. You start spending some time with this one (these ones) and have less time available to date and bed new girls. Besides, when you manage to date other girls, you are not as motivated (aggressive) and don't have enough time to follow through efficiently. Then things happen. The girl could finally blows a fuse that you don't conform to the Good Boyfriend manual. Or for various reason she's obliged to move in another town / country. Or you could be the one needing for change. Then you return to the "market" and find out that you have lost some of your edge and vibe. Stay alone some time, then motivation at top. Then go again.

Happened to me many times now. In Jan 2015, when my first "GC" girlfriend Rachel dropped me. Aug 2015, when my GF Lucy had returned to the Philippines and found myself alone in Doha again. Then in April 2016 when I returned to seduction after being 4 months seeing one girl (Abby) almost exclusively. Then now.

I was mentioning the need to rationalize my harem, and it all came at once. Gianna blew a fuse big time, she came in my home with the intention to teach me a lesson but I didn't let her come to that, and took her out of my home before she could do this. Bye, darling. Lily returned to China for good. A couple of day before she left, she came home and we had a majestic, mega fuck session and it was good. We'll try to meet in China if I have a chance, but for now she's out of the harem. And last, is Joan. She just silently disappeared. May not be for good (not sure yet), but last Thursday and Friday I was tired and lazy and didn't initiate our regular Friday time... And she didn't either. No news from her since then.

This still leaves me with Mary. She was starting to show signs of attachment so I started by spacing our meetings a little more - like once every two weeks. Difficult to do anything intermediate than that because of our work schedule and different days off. But last Monday I took her home and it was a lovely time. With my needs met only once a week or so, I'm in a quite horny state when I meet her and that makes for a very interesting time.

Now, all these relationships have increased my self complacency, made me lazy to move my ass with less time to efficiently pursue new girls. Plus, I may be losing the vibe.

So I'm experiencing now a bit of a dry spell, where I've been on a stream of dates which led me nowhere. Some of them already documented here in previous posts. Plus some new. Can't document them all. But for now, I want to describe what happened next with Crissy, my FR from my Oct 28th post.

FR - Crissy.

About a week after that post, I took her out again, trying a step back into dating. The first venue was dull and had AC problems plus bad service, so we got out and went to another venue. Lots of time lost on this. But the bottom line was that I didn't feel her attraction for me, the way I usually feel it from other girls. SO I questioned her why she wanted to see me again. Her answer was "for the same reason as you" - ball back in my camp. I took her back home and stopped texting her completely after that. I guess it's a good rule to have. If it doesn't seem to be going anywhere after two dates, just drop it, the time is better spent elsewhere. But it wasn't over. Afther three weeks I have the surprise to see her coming back. It's worth showing the text exchange here.

Her (out of the blue after 3 weeks): hey. Did I offend you?
Me: Hello. Not at all. How are you?
Her: Oooooh. Am good and you?
Me: Very good here. (little blah blah). I’m not upset or offended. Little surprised that you raised this.
Me: Are you offended or upset maybe?
Her: Not really. Just got shocked that you never said word since that night out. And I thought maybe I offended you.
Me: I don’t agree. You didn’t say word either.
Her: mmm. Ok.

The following day, I have no news from Joan my regular and my attempt to set a date with another doesn't work. So I decide to try with Crissy.

Me: Are you back home from work?
Her: Yea.
Me: You said you were shocked and not really offended. Are we cool?
Her: Yes
Me: Ok good. This is behind then.
Her: Yea
Me: I’m thinking of having dinner out tonight. Do you have plans?
Her: Got no pans yet.
Me: Let’s make plans then. Can you be ready for 7pm?

So that's how I get her back on a third date. After three weeks, it's sort of like starting again. And this time, guess what, I start to feel more attraction signs from her. There is a good emotional connection, she gets warmer and closer, mimics my body language, does some incidental touching, and once in a while lets her head linger on my shoulder. We have a nice dinner and a couple of drinks, then at 9pm I close the bill and we leave. I drive her to my apartment.

Her: Don’t tell me we’re going to your home?
Me: Yes, I’m telling you we’re going to my home
Her: But I need to sleep, I wake up at 6am tomorrow
Me: It’s alright, it’s just past 9. You sleep from 11 to 6.
Her: more blah blah
Me: It’s ok, I’ll drive you later.

At home she sits on my sofa, almost lying on the side. I have to fight a little to get her in my arms and her head on my shoulder. I start kissing a little but lips are forbidden apparently. It is a struggle. She plays dead weight, pretending she sleeps on my sofa. I ignore and proceed to caress her body. She has these nice big tits and I caress them and kiss them through the clothes. The clothes are tightly packaged so I give up trying to remove them. I manage to have my hand beneath the shirt, but she’s wearing a body underwear. After a while of this game she becomes impatient and adamant to go. I say alright then. In the car I tell her she started expressing impatience and tell her that I really wonder if she likes me. She says she does, and I add that she can’t escape forever. "I’m not escaping!" yes you are. "Just to be clear, because I’m a no bullshit man. What I’ve been trying to do just now is to extract your boobs and kiss them, because I want to kiss them. I’m telling you that I will keep trying. So that you know what to expect if we meet again". She smiles and says something about next time. The tone of all this exchange was relatively relax, slightly humorous, no frustration or nervousness expressed. After that we switch to other topics. I drop her home at 10pm.

I am still unsure if I want to spend more time to persist on this. Maybe if I have free time one day with nothing else on horizon. If I have to analyze, I would guess that at some point I became incongruent, giving mixed BF and lover vibes. It's something I need to keep in mind for my new dates. But another part of this is, again, I wasn't dominant enough. There is something to learn from all these African girls I've been dating lately. My success rate is lower with them (5 to bed out of 12) because they expect a much stronger, dominating male. That's the way I feel at least. I have built my skills mainly on Asian girls, and focused on being smooth and sexy, rather than being commanding and dominant. It is a very different game I need to run on African girls.

Time to become focused again.

 

[Seppuku]

November 28th - the Chinese Girls

Well, I wanted this journal to document all the interactions I've had since I started this journey, and until very lately it has indeed been quite exhaustive. In the last three or four weeks however I haven't been able to keep up with the latest stream of dates I had. I'm going to catch up now. It turns out that the missing interactions that were kept out of this journal all involved some Chinese ladies.

Whereas two years ago there were very few Chinese ladies here - my LR Ina was an exception - they have started to appear more and more in the landscape in the last year... And as far as I could tell most of them are involved to some degree into a prostitution network. I posted in this journal my two latest LR with two Chinese girls. Let's go on and complete the list. Sorry for the huge mega post. And by the way the post concludes by my newest LR which puts an end to my ongoing dry spell.

FR. Miss L
She's a petite, cute and pretty, 25 years old Chinese girlie. She looks really like a little angel doll. I friended her on WeChat on September 30 and the first few weeks of interactions were sporadic. In my defense I had been extremely busy juggling with four regulars plus extra dates in the same period. After four weeks of flirty interaction on text, Oct 31st, we finally agreed to met at 9 pm. Around 8:30 she texts me the location where to meet and says she’ll be here at 9:30pm. By 9pm she says 9:40. It smells bad, but I give it a try. At 9:40 I’m there, she’s not. I wait until 10pm. 20 minutes late, I text her "It’s 10pm. I’m going". When I’m almost home she answers my text and apologizes. I tell her that I’m not angry but I cannot be waiting 30 minutes. So the contact is still on. During the following week, I keep pinging her from times to times, just to keep some presence and keep the contact.

On Saturday I go for it. Initial chit chat on WhatsApp then I try:

Me: Let’s meet in real finally
Her: Hehe
Me: Are you free tonight? Or tomorrow evening?
Her: Tonight
Me: Not too late please

Then we arrange logistics. I come the same evening 8pm to pick her at her home, and see her in real for the first time. She's really pretty. We’re going to try a few new places tonight - I’ve used and overused my classic places, they see me with a different girl each time so it’s time they forget a little about me, and time to try new places.

The first place is a piano bar at the Shangri-La hotel. It’s frankly nice, good ambiance, the music is not too loud, and I show a few cha cha steps. My date seems to accept my touch and lead quite well. Her English is not great but we manage a reasonable communication anyway. It is a good time and a good connection, we show each others pictures, have fun and enjoy the music, take some selfies. She’s a single mother (another one). At about 10pm we leave, and I decide very quickly about pulling or not. I feel some attraction from her but she seems from a somewhat conservative background. She mentioned about how "it doesn’t work like this" with boys in her country, guys taking time. Well I decide I’ll give it a little more time before pulling.

So, we head for the second place, an outdoor bar in the Hilton. It’s nice too, people smoking the Arabic shisha. We have good seats and I take her in my arms. Sip a cocktail... Then I drive her home. No kiss. I leave the kiss for escalation time. She thanks me for the time, it sounds sincere, that pleases me, much better than an entitled girl who believes she is due all this.

On Tuesday I contact her and joke her that I found some of her hair in my car.

Me: Do you have free time tomorrow evening? We go out
Her: Tomorrow I don’t have time, thank you
Me: OK
Her: Hehe
Me: I want to meet you again
Her: Really
Me: Yes
Her: Thank you, next time ok
Her: But now I’m not sure when
Me: I liked our time together
Her: I also liked, you are a romantic, interesting, and have a poise of man
Me: OK I wish to see you again when you have free time
Her: Should have time on Monday evening
Me: Next Monday probably OK but will need to confirm
Me: So what are you busy at?
Her: You are a clever man, I think you should know what I’m busy - ??? LOL good one
Me: Maybe I know, yes
Her: Hehe
Me: But it doesn’t hurt asking - in fact I have no clue what she is talking about. I start suspecting that she has a sugar daddy.

On the Wednesday I text her by 9pm:
Me: Hello L., the busy cute Chinese darling
Her: Haha. Not busy

Then I go silent for a few days.

On Friday 11th:

Me 15:12: Hello young cute busy woman (smile and wink emojis)
Her 19:12: Hello. Sorry I’m late
Me 19:42: Hello

On Saturday 12th, she initiates:

Her: Hi, good morning
little blah blah, then she pushes the ball to me:
Her: Nice (I’m expected to lead the convo now)
Me 10:58: I still want to meet you again (wink). Are you free tonight?
Her 16:22 : Sorry tonight I don’t have time
Me 16:34: Busy business woman (wink)
Her: Hahah
Me 18:03: We meet Monday evening then
Her: where do you want to go?
Me: There’s the Z Lounge, 61st floor. Ladies night on Monday
Her: OK, if Monday I have no time, I will tell you before
Me: No, you tell me now. Or else I do something else
Her: OK - not fully sure if this is "I hear what you say" or "I agree, let’s do it" so I conclude:
Me: On Monday I take you home at 8pm
Her: OK

In the car I keep a relaxed but slightly reserved attitude. There is a low intensity casual chat, mood is good, and I only do a little incidental touching. We reach the Kempinski on go to the Z Lounge. We get the seats in the back, distant from main crowd, and she likes the view, music and atmosphere there. We order some wine and have some photoshoot. The emotional bond warms up, she’s very quickly in my arms and I get her to kiss me on the cheek. We start to dance a little - well, just arms because we’re still seated - and she enjoys and follows me. It’s about 10pm, I pay and we go. I take her to my home. There we have music and start to do a few cha cha steps. She likes it. I take her with me on the sofa, she’s comfortable in my arms and I kiss her in the neck. Time is flowing, 10:45 and she needs to be home at 11. I kiss her briefly in the lips. That triggers her to move out of sofa. I take her to the car. In the car I ask her if she thinks I’m a good man. She says she doesn’t know.

She was physically comfortable with me, clearly enjoying herself in my arm and accepting my touch. But there is still something missing here - it's always coming from me and it doesn't feel right. I know that part of it at least is she still had her guards up. I have been wondering what she meant with her "you should know what I'm busy". Is she a prostitute? Didn't feel so. Part of her was the good girl. Wanted to be back at 11pm before her sister returned from work. Again, I suspect a sugar daddy somewhere. feels like "interested but not available". I decide to just cut the texting. If she's interested and available, she will come back by herself. As of today, two weeks later, she hasn't initiated any text. So... unresolved as of today.

FR - Apple, looking for "Financial help"

Apple is the english translation of her Chinese name. She was the one contacting me in WeChat:

Her: Hey, I'm Apple
Me: Hello Apple, I'm Banana
Her: Nice to meet you, Banana

She inquires if I live alone and what is my job, then ask to see me in video call. She finds me handsome. She asks if I have a GF. I say I have six. "Oh really? You are so charming". I suggest we meet in real. She says "But you have 6 girlfriends. I think you don't need me". Well technically, I don't have 6, but 4, and still have a few days of the week available LOL. But I don't take her BS at face value: "OK up to you" then resume a normal conversation on other topics. 4 days later I engage her again, and this time she's fine to go out.

She comes by taxi at the Kempinski. She’s cute, more cute in real than in pics, seems into me, but it feels strange because she’s complimenting me way too much. But I think she sincerely likes me. She says she knows I’m very experienced with girls - but then she also looks very experienced with men. "I’m 30 years old. Of course I’m experienced with men" then I say same, I’m 47. She hints at if I have alcohol in my home, so I think it’s time to finalize drinks and move home. But then she starts asking me if I had interactions with professional girls before (I say no, I’m not into professional services) then she asks "if I come home with you, will you help me financially?" LOL. I say no, as a matter of principles I won’t pay for sex. She says "forget about the sex part. It’s about helping me financially" but then I say that I sometimes help people that I know very well. Before I drop her home, she says "well if you change your mind..."

FR - Kimberly, date two seven months later
She's the Chinese married woman with whom I went on a lunch date (my post May 1st). Very charming indeed. She recently came back from China and reengaged me on WeChat. We agreed on a date. She’s still super cute, quite classy woman. We go to the Den. She’s 37, mother of one. Her mum came all over from China to help her with taking care of her daughter. She’s about to start over divorce discussions with husband, which has been cheating her for some time but still pretends it doesn’t happen. As she talks, I try to get closer to her, take her in my arms and take her hands in mine. But the mood is too excited, in a negative way, talking about the husband and upcoming divorce. Then I understand that her mum is waiting with her daughter in the city center while she’s having the drinks with me. Forget about it man. As she is having a phone call, I go and settle the bill. We go. About one hour face time in total.

She actually killed my mood. I don’t want to go through that, been into my own divorce discussions, it’s not fun. Don’t want to be her confident in this. I end up at home taking a few wine glasses and shots of rum.

LR - Miss J
Nov 21st. I had left my WeChat online for the night, and in the early morning I see greetings from miss J, a Chinese girl (friend request). We start to chat when I’m in office and learn that she’s in the city center having a coffee. I decide to go and meet her for a short time. I’m in formal business attire. Meeting goes well, 30 minutes of face time. I keep my shit together and maintain frame. She’s cute but has large hands. 28, from China, mother of a 14 years old boy, divorced. Just arrived in Doha to work in a salon.

Nov 22nd. She’s the first to text me since yesterday, and says she started her work. I ask until what time and she says until around maybe 6 or 7. Later when I’m back from office I text her that I’m home. An hour later she says she’s at home. I tell her I’m having a glass of wine.

Her: Do you drink at home alone? (huge sign)
Me: With me and myself. That’s three
Me: You want to drink also. We can arrange that
Her: Do you want me to go to your house for a drink? (At that time I think of it as a major sign, but I want to see her in a neutral place first, to make sure what sort of girl she is.).
Me: There are many places where we can have a drink

We agree to meet at the Shangri-la hotel. There’s a new lounge there I want to try. I tell here 9:30, but she says she’s leaving home right now, so I prepare fast and go. I had a doubt if she would look good because it seemed she left home too quickly to have time to prepare. But she’s there and very pretty and sexy.

The date go well, tone is good, she compliments me, she’s touchy so I proceed with my touch routine, take her in my arms when she wants to shoot pictures, then play with her hair, dance with her a little. She quickly literally puts herself in my arms. Many huge signs of attraction. It’s 10:40 and I’m tired, don’t see myself starting crazy things right now. I drive her home. Drop her around 11pm - about 1h30 for face time. Before she leaves, she’s the one to kiss me.

Nov 25th. In the last few days there has been little exchange with Judy. On the Thursday I keep it silent. On Friday 25th, I reengage her around noon "I’m planning to cook tonight. Come have dinner with me". About half an hour later I see her response: "Ok". We agree to meet at 6:30pm in the city center. From the first minute the contact is warm, she gives me her hand, it looks all in.

We have a nice couple of hours, she helps me in the kitchen then we serve food and have dinner. She has large hands and large feet - which is kind of awkward - but she’s otherwise very pretty and sexy. I have the shadow of a doubt that she could be a ladyboy. At the same time she showed me the pictures of her 14 years old boy who looks like her.

After the dinner the escalation is very easy, she’s cooperating. I quickly have a hand on her pants to check there is no dick here - and there’s nothing. Otherwise she’s soon out of her dress. She has very nice medium sized boobs with nice nipples that I immediately start to suck. She loves it. She starts to undress me as well and soon gives me a nice blowjob. We head to my bedroom, I put on a condom and penetrate her. She loves it, comes maybe two or three times, then it’s me. Sex lasts about one hour. She gives me a Thai massage in the meantime.

Now about 10:30pm and she says she will take a taxi back home. I’ll drive her to the taxi station. And just as she’s about to leave the car, she drops this huge mood killer: "how much do you pay me for the time? The sexy, the company, the massage?" "You should have told me it’s business. Is it always like this with Chinese girls?". I agree to pay her for her taxi expenses - very minimal - but not for the sex. She leaves disappointed. For her, it was just a natural thing to get money in exchange for the time - she expected that money and thought it would be evident. It’s really too bad. I liked her. I would have seen her many more times. But now it is just out of question and everyone is disappointed. No more news from her after that. Nevertheless, this is my 21st lay for the year, beyond my stated objective of 20.

End of this mega post. Was necessary to keep this journal exhaustive. I still need to update with the new developments for this week. Some very promising items on the way. LOL

 

[Seppuku]

December 5th - the ex girlfriends update

First, some good news, things finally got concrete with Chrissy that I've been gaming for more than a month. Here is the link to the lay report. My 22nd lay this year, and together with this Chinese girl a few days before, the end of a temporary dry spell.

And before I get to the heart of my post, I want to report that I spent a few days in Beirut this week end, where I met with kalyan. A very charming young man with a lot of potential. Cheers man, and thanks for the great time! Incidentally it was also the first time I met with another seducer, it was cool to have an open discussion on these topics.

I recently got some news about some of the girls I've been with last year.

Olivia is this Thai girl that I saw the first time of my life when she came to pick me at Bangkok airport, last year in October. We took the taxi and went straight to my hotel, then didn't sleep much. The next day she took me on a visit of the city before I left, and I met her again in December. The drama of her life is that she doesn't want to be with a Thai man, but on the other hand all the foreigners she comes across in Thailand are weirdos. I described it in more details here. After I returned to Doha, she then went on to chase me like crazy for months via texts and video calls.

That was fun for some time, until one day she told me she came across a foreign guy who was clearly boyfriend material, but she wouldn't pursue with him because she "had me in her life". Oops. So let's be clear, I never led her on. I was always saying openly that I was not considering marriage, had no plan to settle in Thailand, that I was currently living 7000 kms away from her, and that she would be better off with a boyfriend living in Bangkok, than with me living so far away. But there was no way to reason her.

So when I heard that she was just letting go a possible boyfriend just to stay with me, I had to react quite strongly and strictly cut all communication with her. It was pretty tough because she was sending the voice notes of her crying. But the crisis stopped and finally her texting got scarce, only once in a very while, and I wouldn't respond.

Until recently. She sent some of her news. She had just (a month ago) met a 60+ years old British guy online. The guy came all the way from OK to Thailand, and "bought her a house and a car" (LOL that's the way she describes it). She tells me she "has to take care of him now". They are looking to marry soon.

Now Jenna. Another great woman I met for the first time in the taxi taking me from Manila airport to hotel. LOL. It was great time with her, and I met her more in Bangkok, then later in Cebu city. I had a great interaction with her, described here.

Same, it didn't work out. I had to let her go in March this year. She got back to me a week ago. She had just met a Canadian guy out of Tinder, spent a week with him fucking like mad every night (I know that special sexual energy of hers ). They deliberately omitted condoms, he wanted to make her pregnant (and she didn't say no, too). He works in Canada (director job) but has plans for a sabbatical year in 2018 and intends to spend it in the Philippines with her. He brought up the subject of exclusivity, says he wants to settle down, doesn't want her to get away, and wants to talk to her mum if she gets pregnant. After he returned to Canada they communicated by video and she tells me she "was a little clingy, and really emotional" (read: she gave him drama to start the process of betaization).

Aaaaah the discreet charms of the beta providers ;-)

I will be looking forward to see the developments there. Dr Seppuku is always ready to administer his well known treatment in case the patient becomes unwell.

 

[Seppuku]

December 13th - weekly update

Nothing much in term of new seduction or prospect. I have this upcoming vacation in a few days and it's counterproductive to start anything new now. There are, however, a number of interesting updates regarding my girls.

Thursday 8th - Gianna is back
In October there had been a growing discomfort - driven mainly I guess by her insecurities. Late October I invited her home, hoping to restore peace, but she came up with a military agenda to break my balls with many explanations and dos and donts and yells. I don't take anything like this, so I took her out of my home and back to a taxi. She left me, fuming and enraged, and sent me lots of frustrated messages that I didn't respond too.

On Wednesday 7th she re-initiates texting - and now gentle and submissive. I invite her home on Thursday night. There is no trace of frustration anymore, the mood is good again and she's effectively gentle and submissive. We have a brief dinner then I take her to bed and make love to her for two hours. She stays overnight. But as with every seduction, there must be a confirmation fuck to seal the deal. We meet again on 11th evening. Her clothes are quickly out and I take her doggy style on my bed. She still has this majestic piece of ass and it's such a pleasure riding her.

Saturday 10th - Chrissy is out
This is the girl that was such a pain to take to bed - but that I managed to lay on our 4th meet (29 Nov). The weekend right after that I was out of the city (in Beirut) so I couldn't secure the second fuck. There was a plan to meet again on the 6th but at the last minute some professional obligations forced me to cancel. So we finally meet on Saturday 10th. More than 10 days, not ideal, but no choice. By text she hadn't been to warm - I'm used to getting lots of texts after taking a girl to bed, but here not much - essentially responding linearly. So here she is now in my home... And it's a pain again. Still playing dead weight, so I try to warm her up with my hands on her, but she constantly says "don't do this". I insist, and she goes more adamant to stop. There's the period excuse, and she gave me the same excuse exactly 3 weeks before, so one of both is bullshit. It's still forbidden to kiss. At some points she goes:

Her: don't worry, your time will come! implying time for sex - and I can't take this. I put my shoes on:
Me: I understand that you want to go back home
Her: So... you're sending me back now!
Me: No, you are sending yourself back. I drive her to a taxi.
Her (before leaving the car): Thank you
Me: You're welcome

I text her that I'm not worried that my time will come, because it's already long past (it was our fifth meeting). I conclude: "Sorry I have no time to play. Good evening. I don't keep bad feelings".

I was very right about her from day one - she's not interested in me, just wanted to play around. My time will be much better used somewhere else.

Video call with Olivia - that Thai girl I mentioned in my last post. She texts me on Friday 9th and asks for a video call. Prince Charming came all the way from UK, talked about marriage, bought a home and a car, and put her inside the home. Sounds like Walt Disney. But now she is telling me that she is not sure that she can stay with him. She says that the guy doesn't have sex with her very often because he's 64 and a little tired. LOL. Girls dichotomy at its finest!

News from Jenna. Got back in text with her... and heard about the bad news. She was sooo happy the week before. The Prince Charming from Canada, who said he wanted to live with her and have children and talk to her mom, turned out to be a fucking lying jerk once he returned to Canada. He admitted to lying to her purposely in order to have sex. Problem is, he actually worked hard 5 nights to make her pregnant (and her accepting willingly of course, because of his lies, and because of girl's blind love for Walt Disney fairy tales). So... her period is now late by one week and she's dead scared to be pregnant. Thinking about it however, according to the timing of her periods and the sexual act with this guy, I think (and hope) that he missed her fertility window by a few days. Well, hoping for the best!

I am sincerely sad to hear this. She is a genuinely nice person, and has already fought hard in life alone with her two kids. She really didn't deserve anything like this. Now to the guys reading this, I want to stress the obvious again:

There is absolutely no need to lie and deceive people in order to have sex. Doing like this guy did is just sick.

The upcoming vacations
I will go to Hong Kong (for my first time) this coming Friday. I expect to meet my Chinese Lily there (she returned to China permanently) and spend a few days with her. I made sure that the hotel room is large and has a king size bed

Then on 21st, I go to Thailand where I will meet my kids and take them to a resort. It will be daddy mode. No seduction expected. The rest of these adventures, hopefully, in 2017!

 

[Seppuku]

January 3rd - End of year update

I'm just back from almost 3 weeks of holidays in Asia - absolutely great time there! although relatively uneventful, seduction wise. I still need to find the time to post on the 2016 review and upcoming 2017 objectives. But for now I will just write an update on the end of 2016.

4 Days in Hong Kong
My first time ever in this great city. I arrived there on Saturday 17th, around 3pm local time. The night in the plane had been awful, trapped in a middle seat between two big guys. The plane was completely packed and no way to move to another seat... So I ended up sleeping like two hours that night. Yet I had agreed to meet a friend at 6pm. We go out, he takes me in a bar for quick drinks before showing me around in Soho and taking me to a nice french bistrot. About 10 pm - I'm dead tired - but he takes me to a nice bar there... and we are joined by one of his gorgeous female friends Unfortunately (for him) he has to go back home in emergency... And I'm left alone with the gorgeous friend. She's Malaysian, in her early 30s, and absolutely beautiful. I start my usual routine and she's very compliant with my touch. Seems I could have pulled something but ultimately, I was overwhelmed with my lack of sleep and had to return home. No luck, young darling.

The Lily disaster
The next day my Chinese girlfriend Lily was due to join me from Shanghai. She came at around 9pm and we spend the rest of the evening fucking good. But then... At night she snored louder than a man, never seen this. Combine this with my jet-lag, and I end up spending the next two nights wide awake, with her snoring by my side. Got very little sleep in the morning. On Monday 19th we go together to The Peak (the heights of Hong Kong island) and the view was stunning... But she shows very little interest in sight seeing. And in the evening it's also a pain to find a restaurant. I love Chinese food but oddly enough, we couldn't find a suitable one where we were. And of course she had very limited taste in anything except Chinese food. So overall, these two days together were very difficult, and it ended badly. I had to have at least one normal night of sleep before flying to see my kids, so I asked her to leave on Tuesday evening instead of Wednesday morning as initially planned. Of course this simple suggestion triggered drama, and finally she left early afternoon. Which was for the best. I spent the rest of the day visiting Times Square and finally had (!) one normal night of sleep.

During these four days I also met with one of the charming hotel staff, and with a young lady during my subsequent flight to Thailand. I had also loads of matches in Badoo and Tinder. But not a minute to act on it unfortunately. Overall a great city, I would come back if I had a chance, and this time alone!

A week with my children in Samui island, Thailand
It had been quite a tight logistic to organize. My ex wife flew with the kids from neighboring Laos, to Bangkok. We met on the 21st in Bangkok airport, then immediately take a flight to Samui island (my kids and me only). The resort is very nice, absolutely welcoming and charming staff, delicious restaurant with a great chef, a nice swimming pool, and a nice beach with big waves. We enjoy our time there, have a lot of fun with the waves, relax by the pool and simply enjoy being together with my kids. These days I only get to see them twice a year, which is a little hard - we were used to meet every two or three months. In the evening I spend a lot of time with my daughter (9 years old) on youtube. She gets a surprising interest for the heavy metal band Metallica - which I used to be fan of, in the 1980's when they started. My son (14) is turning into a very reasonable teenager. I got no authority problem whatsoever and we get along very well. He's now officially taller than me. A thin, tall, handsome boy. Time to teach him a thing or two about girls . The first thing I tell him is "with girls, it works better if you give them just a little attention but not too much, not as much as they would want". He finds it counter-intuitive. But I get to explain that, if the girl thinks she can get him easily, she will lose interest in him. Best to keep her unsure.

Five days in Bangkok
On the 28th, we leave the resort and fly to Bangkok. We spend time visiting the city. It's not my first time (I had a most charming guide to take me through the city, exactly a year ago), but they don't know Bangkok. Huge and nice shopping malls, nice temples and other tourist places... We also give a try to the water transportation system on the canals. Great time, great city! On Jan 2nd, we meet my ex wife and she flies the kids back home. I get the upgrade in business class (yessss!) on my flight back to Doha. Get the feeling that this flight attendant is somewhat into me - but we don't get much time to talk as I end up sleeping most of the time.

So... Here I am back in Doha, but didn't fuck in two weeks. Where are all these girlfriends gone? Need to reconnect after nearly three weeks.

The Jenna drama
I did mention about this past girlfriend of mine (Jenna) who got outright lied in her face by this canadian guy, and got this pregnancy scare. Exactly like I had estimated, he missed her fertility window by a few days and her period finally came with a two weeks delay. A close miss. But I'm hoping for her that she got the lesson. So she will be able to spend her time productively on her business, instead of flying to Canada seeking justice there. Plus, Dr Seppuku might need to administer his infamous treatment to her next time he flies there. With a condom on.

 

[Seppuku]

January 7th - Back in Doha and reflecting on the past year

Reflecting on 2016
Initially 2016 was due to be the year of my departure from Qatar and settling in Asia. I even had bought a condominium unit in Cebu, Philippines, as a place to stay. Then the unexpected happened: when I went to resign, my company finally gave me the career evolution I was seeking to get for three years. So... suddenly no reason to leave. And instead of focusing on getting myself new revenues and self employed, suddenly I had a lot of time to learn seduction.

When I returned to the dating market in March, I found myself quite rusty and my first few dates were flakey. It took about two months of focus to regain the right vibe, but when it was on again I did a stream of killing, with about a new girl in bed each week. The peak was this week in the Philippines in June. Arrived on a Friday night. Saturday, Sunday, Monday, I brought a new girl in my bed. Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday I had a second session with each of these. Friday, my dick demanded a rest so I took a "day off". Saturday I met my ex GF Lucy and spent the night with her. Sunday I was gone. Back in Doha, I finally had the first date with Gianna from Kenya, right at my place, and she came over with a girlfriend. It was a very sexy time, the girlfriend was quite into me as well (like in caressing my dick through the trousers). It was also about that time that I started to have a rotation of girls, with Gianna being my "main" girl.

Back from my summer vacations, I wanted to explore more of the African girls. Had a few positive experiences here before, plus Gianna which was such a pretty and sexy doll. I kept my focus on these girls and took many on dates. Surprise, my success rate is much lower, like 3 out of 10 in my bed, plus 1 LMR. In retrospect, I realize that my game was essentially tuned to Asian / Philippines girls: with these girls I didn't have to pump my value up, and usually needed to be more attainable. With the African girls, it has to be different. These girls usually come with a much stronger frame, they're playing the game with a high value vibe and some of them are lower attainability. Something needs to be tweaked in my game. I need to absorb and dominate their frame. Anyway, it was nevertheless a lot of fun with these girls.

At this point in time (October) I had three African girls in rotation plus my Chinese GF Lily. It was taking some time to maintain everyone satisfied, but at the expense of less available time for new dates. Hard to stay focused. My intake of new girls dropped. In November, I also had a few disappointing experiences with some Chinese girls... Looking for a "generous mentor" who will "help them financially" in exchange for full body massage. Prostitution that doesn't say its name, trying to feel good about it, even very sneaky at times! I got one into bed... and she asked me - after the fact - how much money I should give her for the time. Really tired of this. I need to find a way to filter out this situation before it happens. Probably in my Early Frame Announcement. I think it unfairly paints a quite unflattering picture of Chinese girls - probably not deserved. Too bad.

And finally, the eventual breakdown of my rotation in December. Gianna blew a fuse late October (I was not complying very much to the BF requests). Lily returned to China. Joan disappeared mid November. The last month I was left with Mary only. Gianna returned to me briefly (two fuck sessions) but could not resist the urge to demand her Christmas gift, about 300 USD "if it's OK with you". Of course, giving gifts is my prerogative and no one else's, so it was not OK. This triggered some more unrest, she said she felt like "being used" (LOL), and went into limbo again. About Lily... we spend time in Hong Kong late December, and our full time 48 hours together didn't work out. Ended in drama. To add to the picture, as soon as I left Doha, Mary stopped initiating texts (she's still responding, though). So... Some turnaround in FWB is to be expected of course. But I still have some room for improvement in managing the rotation. Make the whole thing last longer. Overall, it was still a very good experience.

One thing I have tried this year is the use of silence and attention withdrawal. Girls being the attention whores we know, I thought it would be a powerful relationship management tool, in the vein of Drexel's "power of the next" and BlackDragon's "Soft Nexting". In some cases it seems to have worked. With Gianna I'm not sure how much it worked or failed. Overall, it's not something for the faint hearted and must be used wisely. I will still continue to experience with it.

Another I have seen is a trend of "returning" past girlfriends. I know Lucy had a try with a regular BF relationship with another man - an older western man, so somewhat a consistently similar profile as mine - but for some reason it didn't work (she wouldn't talk to me about it). Joan just disappeared mid November and got back with me this week - not sure what happened in the two months, it's open for speculation. Jenna is back too. We haven't exactly fucked because of the distance, but I'm ready to bet it's going a quickly done deal next time I turn up in Cebu. More girls back to my Whatsapp / Wechat (Olivia from Thailand for instance - in spite of her being in full time relationship with a wealthy provider). This is a very interesting development! There are now the existing girls (current rotation), the new girls (not yet bedded or even met), and the "returning" past girls... which is an ever expanding pool.

Overall a great year, had my most amazing sexual experiences ever (including two HB9 in the Philippines), and I largely achieved my objectives posted in this journal on May 28th.

Back to Doha
First week of January, back in Doha after 3 weeks away, I have the pleasant surprise of seeing Joan back to me. "I don't know what I want" she said. My guess is she has been trying the regular BF route with no success, and is back with the no bullshit, light hearted, no headache casual relationship with me. We had a very nice evening out together yesterday (Friday 6th) that ended in a majestic fuck session (1hr+) in my bed. Let's see if we can establish this as a regular basis again. Mary... Had a few texts with her (all initiated by me). She is not showing a hurry to see me. My guess is she's escaping the FWB frame. Let's see. I'm not pushing anything with her if I don't see any willingness on her part to come back to me.

And I also got my first LR of the year. Happened quick. This is a girl I initially (and briefly) chatted in October in Badoo, but I was too busy then to persist on. She came back out of the blue on Tuesday 3rd, asking me "what are you doing now". As explained here, this is a huge sign she's giving out. So I took her on a brief date the same evening (one hour date). Although she's very cute on her profile pics, she turns out to be quite fat in reality. Anyway in my seducer persona, I'm very careful not giving away too much signs to her, to increase sexual tension. It works, she's getting very touchy. I interrupt the date after one hour and drive her back (leaving her wanting for more). No kiss of course. I'm initially planning to leave things there (she's fat), but she shows signs of excitement (she's texting first, "It was nice meeting you Seppuku"). The next day she hints for a second date. Well, at this point Mary is not showing much haste in seeing me, and I'm still unsure about Joan. Didn't fuck in more than two weeks. I take her on a second date, Thursday 5th. I'm still giving out my well controled vibe, with little hints. She's into me, starts speaking like crazy. An hour into the date, she says she "wants to see my home". LOL. Alright darling, you're making my pull easy. I take her home and escalate her with ten minutes. I give her the huge fuck that she wanted. Would have been rude to refuse it. And it feels good after two weeks!

I will need to come up with a list of objectives for 2017 in a separate post.

 

[jdoc]

Re: Seppuku's Journal - dating in Doha

Happy new year seppuku, sounds like you killed in it 2016. Where do you meet the girls in your life?

Jeffrey

 

[Seppuku]

Re: Seppuku's Journal - dating in Doha

Hey jdoc,

Happy new year! Congratulations on all your successes in 2016. I reached Thailand on Dec 21st, but then moved to Koh Samui, and returned to Bangkok on the 28th. Seems like we missed each others by a few days... Although I was in full daddy mode during these vacations, would have been fun to meet in real.

I am meeting all my girls online.

Cheers,
Seppuku

 

[Seppuku]

January 13th: 2017 Objectives

Objectives setting can be a really good tool for progress if the objectives are realistic and actually tracked and followed up on. It is a very good thing to do, I like it, so let's do it. This year there are several topics (other than seduction) I'd like to set objectives on.

Health
The last three months of 2016 I lost a little bit control of my weight (79.5 kgs the last time I weight myself in 2016. For my height I should be 76.5 kgs at most to be "thin"). Overall, I want to live by the precepts of Rogue Health and Fitness website described here.

Objective 1: I am going to reach 75 kgs by March 31st.
I will use a ketogenic diet. Less than 30 grams of net carbs absorbed each day, doing carbs counting on a daily basis. In addition, I am doing intermittent fasting - No food after 7pm, and until 11am the next day. Seems to have worked good so far, at least 1.5 kgs lost since I came back. I will keep track of my weight loss here. Objective to be reviewed by March 31st.

Objective 2: I am going to reduce on alcohol consumption.
This is no more than 4 glasses of red wine each week. No hard liquor, no beer. Objective to be reviewed by March 31st.

Objective 3: I will resume working out. This is essentially weights lifting, as opposed to cardio.
I stopped exercising in early 2015 when I had the kids with me. I need to first adapt to the keto diet, so I will start this objective after Jan 20th. I will then increase progressively. Review March 31st.

Fundamentals
I did a lot of work on my fundamentals back in 2013 - 2014, then stopped after getting some results. But how good is good? Things can always be improved.

Objective 4: I will work to improve on my casual dressing style.
This has to be consistent with the 47 years old man I am. Unfortunately the fashion advice here in GC (the detailed articles) are mostly applicable to younger gents.

Objective 5: Eye contact.
It's something that I am neglecting these days. Make sure I incorporate it back in my interactions.

Seduction
Two months out of 12 roughly I'm with my children and unavailable for new adventures. I normally can reasonably get two lays per month, so that should set a target of 20. However I have to incorporate that I'm going to be busy with new projects. So I am setting the target laycount to 15 for this year. I already had one last week. That's 14 left!

Objective 6: 15 new girls to bed.
I want to continue my learning curve in creating and managing relationships "in my own terms". It was one of my great experiences in 2016. Need to continue.

Objective 7: manage a rotation of 2 to 3 girls.
The preferred focus will be on bringing in "new material" into Dr Seppuku's Sexual System.

Personal business
I am a little behind in terms of personal business objectives. I am aiming to get independent sources of revenue once I terminate my current job and leave Qatar. This is not planned before at least June 2018 (but possibly could be 2019). However I can certainly start the required setup work before. I have a number of ideas:

• 1. a business blog, with regular (at least once a week) contributions, and advertising a number of products and consultancy business
  2. a seduction blog - just for my fun. Will be the continuation of this journal
  3. a holding company - holding my personal portfolio of investments - with the objective of making it my own "pension plan" later.

It is probably best to start with the business blog first.

Objective 8: Feasibility and costs review of holding company

Objective 9: Start a business blog

For these two objectives combined I will need to allocate at least 5 hours of work each week.

Summary:

• Objective 1. To reach 75 kgs by March 31st.
  Objective 2. To reduce on alcohol consumption.
  Objective 3. To resume working out.
  Objective 4. To improve on my casual dressing style.
  Objective 5. To resume eye contact.
  Objective 6. To bring 15 new girls to bed.
  Objective 7. To manage a rotation of 2 to 3 girls.
  Objective 8. To assess the feasibility and costs of a holding company
  Objective 9. To start a business blog

Objectives 1 to 3 are short term objectives. They will be reviewed and potential changed into new ones, or dropped, on March 31st.
Objectives 4 to 9 are end of year objectives. It's an ongoing effort.

It is already enough in terms of objectives. There are other stuff I'd like to do if I have a chance:

• * in the near term, have a better follow up of the girls I'm engaging with. I have a tendency to lose focus these days;
  * somewhat down the road, get a second round of "African moment". There is a lot to be learned here, as pointed in my annual review, first of all these African girls require a tighter, higher value game.
  * But for now I'm happy to go back on my preferred niche, the Asian girls, for a new round of success. Success fuels the mindset, and mindset drives the success. It's a virtuous circle.

Note: I don't include the usual "improve the quality of my girls". I found out last year that laycount per se is also good for the mindset, and therefore the vibe. So as long as she's 6 and above, she's good to go. The girls I retain in my rotation, however, will be of higher standards.

 

[Seppuku]

January 20th: weekly update

Let us start with the fun stuff.

LR: Cathy
It was her initiating contact with me in WeChat on November 21st. She’s 26, from Malaysia, seems very cute. We have a little exchange then, I learn that she’s a single mother, her daughter is 8, living with the dad in Singapore. The contact is then lost, until she comments on one of my wechat posts on Christmas. After I’m back in Doha, I take the pretext of her latest wall post to resume contact (Jan 7th). There is an idea of meeting up thrown in the air. We finally arrange our first meeting on Tuesday evening (Jan 10th).

First date - Jan 10th
Unfortunately she arrives very late (10:30pm), which leaves very little time for action, so it will be a two dates thing. I meet her for the first time face to face, when she picks me up in her car. I keep my composure and immediately start to lead her way as she drives to the Shangri La. And yes, she’s cute in person, she’s very pretty, I like her, although a little belly fat. I touch her belly and asks her "are you pregnant? Well, not from me!" She laughs. I can sense her excitement around me almost immediately - she’s touchy. In the elevator leading to the Lounge, under some pretext I position myself in front of her, smile, look her in the eyes, and comb her hair. She likes it. The date is very good, she is pretty and has a very pleasant personality. She’s very excited, and we start dancing a bit, have a glass, show some pictures, take selfies etc... She’s very touchy.

All good so far, then I do a *slight* mistake. She’s close to me and I have an impulsion to kiss her. I hold myself, but she notices my impulsion. It’s a highly social environment, so she gives her cheek. Need to fix this. I don’t kiss her, but I make her understand that if she kisses me (returning the frame) I may have a big lipstick mark on my cheek. It’s late, we both have work the next day, and we leave. She drives me home. When we're there she leans towards me for the kiss. Consequence of the before. So I have to kiss her. I suggest her to come for a drink, but its too late (and I knew it). I do like kissing, but I usually do it just as part of the escalation process, when I’m about to fuck her. Now is too early, no chance to finish the job so it potentially can ruin the whole interaction.

Second date - Jan 13th
Radio silence two days. Then on Thursday late afternoon I re-initiate texting, teasing her a little, she answers but seems busy so I don’t insist. I try again on Friday mid afternoon, asking if she’s at work, and she’s not, so I tell her about going for another drink out. It’s a yes. I meet her at 7pm at her place then we drive to the Kempinski Z Lounge, one of my highest rated dating spots. It’s a cool and nice two hours there, eating, having a drink, dancing a bit, taking pictures, lots of touch, she lets her head on my shoulder a few times. Good mood, she seems into me. After two hours it’s falling bit flat. She asks what I want to do. I tell her we’re leaving out of here, and going to my home to "listen to some music", and she’s totally fine.

At my place I serve a little wine, put some background music. She wants to see the view, we shut off lights and I take her to the window. After a minute of contemplation, she turns around to face me and we kiss briefly. I make dim lights in the room, and we move to the couch. She’s now against me, I put my arms around her and start to kiss her neck. I detect signs of arousal. Move my hand to cup her breast, and kiss it. She’s now moaning softly. Getting excited. She reaches out for my dick and comments that it’s big (well, I’m average, but thanks). She asks if I have condoms, and yes, I’ve got plenty of them. We’re both quickly naked. She has nice tits, and would be very pretty if not for this belly fat - but it’s still OK. In the bed she moans loud and on a couple occasions she deliberately slows down the rhythm (she must be getting orgasm). I pound her good, then turns her around and finish doggy style. Overall about 15 minutes. I usually can last longer but it was really good and didn’t want to hold it longer. Her comment: “You fuck really good”. Well darling, I had an intensive practice this past two years.

Objectives
Weight goal: I started the year at 80.5. This week I reached 77.7. The keto diet is working fine. The objective of 75kgs seems on track so far.
Working out: I resumed working out today after two years of interruption. Started slowly, but it immediately felt good. I will see to increase the routine progressively.
New girls: With the girl the week before, and Cathy (here) that's make two new LR this year.
Alcohol consumption: I have considerably reduced, but I could not keep the 4 glasses per week limit: I exceeded, to 5 a week, a few times. Even 5 is already a good basis compared to before.

Didn't work on any other objective so far.

Instagram
The quality of girls I got out of wechat and Badoo over the past six months has been declining in general. Let us hope that this is just a temporary thing. But it's time for me to start looking for new avenues. On the advice of my friend Kalyan, and also after reading posts on The City Bachelor, I decided to start an Instagram profile. I started on Sunday 16th (it's my 5th day) and so far I have raised my followership to 62 - organically. I didn't invite existing friends mostly (just 5), because this is essentially my seduction tool, so the followers are built from scratch. I am working on a theme around high value, high lifestyle guy who travels a lot. That's going to be my brand. Seems to be working so far. I'm already having some girls on DM. No date yet. But I'm just started. So hopefully more to come here.

 

[jdoc]

Re: Seppuku's Journal - dating in Doha

Hey seppuku,

Thanks man! Didnt get a chance to reply till now. Thailand was really sweet, and yeah it would've been cool to link up.

Excellent post on your 2017 objectives. Really great that you've listed each one point by point. I think I'm going to have to make one for myself.

Jeffrey

 

[Seppuku]

Re: Seppuku's Journal - dating in Doha

Hello jdoc,

thanks for the post. Yes, formulating clear objectives, writing them down, then following up on them is a great way to progress. It helps to keep focus on a handful of important things. It's a good idea, as long as you commit to them, write them down, track your progress. So you're from Australia?

brief update
Instagram count: 114 (8th day)
Weight: 77.7kg this morning. My weight loss is on a plateau in the last few days, after a steady decline.

Got my first phone number from Instagram, plus a few other interesting leads. It looks very promising! Other than that I have a first date with a new girl coming up on Thursday, baring some last minute change in hearts.

Fixing the link that didn't work out in my last post: The City Bachelor. It's a great website.