Shittest "I bet you didn't get laid yet"

[Damien]

Hey guys,

I would consider myself at least a bit experienced (I'm at sth like 15 lays and several FWBs resulting from them) and finally start to see sth of an abundance mentality, which I'm really happy about!

So I just moved to Mexico for an exchange semester to see what Latin girls have to offer for me. I'm here for about a month and have gotten some make outs and a girl who's apparently chasing me for a relationship that I met from Tinder, but I haven't got laid here yet.

So today I went to a restaurant with two female friends of mine. It was gossip time, because one of them was hitting hard on a friend of mine He refused her, because he's in a relationship. So I told her "Don't worry, there's lots of latinos who dig you" and she replied "Yeah, but I can't help it but I only dig blonde guys" so I replied "Really, you're abroad for 6 months where you don't like the local guys? For me that was at least part of the motivation". I said that with strong eye contact and a bit in a challenging voice. And she replied "No I don't, and I bet you didn't get laid yet here"

So I know I can get laid, but since everything is new here and I actually didn't get laid yet it threw me off balance.
I replied with:"It's a secret", but I think it came across incongruently. She just said "boring", because she already asked me about my dating life here and I didn't give her an answer. We changed topics afterwards, but I wasn't in such a good mood the next 10-15min. I know it shouldn't affect me and I'm pissed it actually did!

How would you guys have responded to that shittest? Sth like "nope never ever"?

TL;DR
How would you guys answer the shit-test "I bet you didn't get laid here yet"

 

[Frost]

I can't think of a response other than exaggerating her statement, because if you're going to say something to show her that you did, no matter what you say it will come across as trying hard to prove yourself.

So when she says that you can remain unfazed and say something along the lines of "yeah I can't even talk to a girl without peeing my pants". I think in the article about frames this idea is explained. It's about making her frame seem silly, and then you change the subject.

 

[foggy]

Depends on the situation. How long have you known this girl for, and do you want to bang her?

Let's say you recently met this girl. If you're good with females then you should have built a little bit of sexual tension with her by now. Girls are not dumb and they know when a guy gets laid a lot. They'll even say things like "You're pretty good with girls" or "You must get laid a lot." Have you ever had a girl say those comments to you?

If you have a great sexual vibe, you're smooth as hell, and there's sexual tension between you two and youre managing it effectively, then she's already going to know you get laid a lot. But she's gonna test you anyways. Remember that body language is equally as important as words when handling shit tests. You could say to her, "no, I'm really shitty with women." But if you're actually good with women, and say that with a sexy smile and open body language, then she'll know you're playing around and lying.

You didn't even have to answer it, you could have just flashed her a seductive look and changed the subject and that would have been a great answer. Or you could have flashed her a skeptical look, which essentially means "Don't say dumb childish stuff like that."

However if you're looking for some replies, here's some:

"No way! You're the first girl I've talked to in my entire life."
"Here? Today?" Nahh I havent gotten laid today....yet. "

She wouldn't bring up your dating life if she wasn't interested, so this could also be a great time to throw out a chase frame such as:

"Why do you keep asking about the girls I've been with? Are you worried about your competition?"

This puts the pressure back on her.

 

[Richard]

Her: "I bet you didn't get laid here yet."

You don't really need to respond in any particular way here because she said "yet." That implies that she thinks you can get laid so you don't need to defend yourself or validate yourself. So, I'd just answer honestly at that point;

Me: "Nope, haven't gotten laid yet. I'm finding these girls tough to crack and the challenge is fun."

Whatever is on my mind or whatever I'm feeling at the time is how I'm going to respond to what she said. I'm a firm believer in owning whatever it is you're feeling or thinking even if it sounds stupid, exposes a weakness (which I'm a fan of doing about myself), etc. Beyond what your friend said, whatever you think or feel just own it completely, if I feel like telling a girl she's fucking cute then I do it, if I want to hang out with a girl I just tell her, etc.

And, in case you haven't already read it; How to Have Sex With Latinas. Latina women are my absolute favorite (as many people on the Boards can tell you hahaha) and you absolutely need to have a few Latinas add notches to your belt. That article should help you out a bit, buddy.

-Richard

 

[Regal Tiger]

And, in case you haven't already read it; How to Have Sex With Latinas. Latina women are my absolute favorite (as many people on the Boards can tell you hahaha) and you absolutely need to have a few Latinas add notches to your belt. That article should help you out a bit, buddy.

-Richard

Fuck yes! Probably the only girl I've ever really fallen head over heels for was an Introverted half Latina girl who had that Latina Fire as she called it. She was a short little fireball

 

[Damien]

Thanks for all the replies guys and sorry for late reply, I was travelling for 4 days! I like that "owning what you think" approach Ricardo! Normally I like doing the playful / mysterious approach, but it really only works when I know that I already got something.

And yeah it's definitely super interesting with the Latinas here. I start seeing some patterns though and don't feel quite as lost as in the beginning. My spanish is also improving rapidly which helps a lot. I'm joking around a lot usually and when I don't get jokes in Spanish it's kind of hard to add on to that hahaha. Thanks for the article recommendation as well! Already read that and working on the dominance. Being a well-mannered German doesn't really help here. It's quite refreshing though when sometimes girls aggressively approach you hahaha. That raaaarely happens in Germany.

 

[Ergon]

Haha I bet you really stand out. At least in my city foreigners were pretty noticeable since you rarely see them.

Being a well-mannered German doesn't really help here.

Can you expand on this? I'm not sure if is actually detrimental

 

[BigW]

Tell her that FOR HER you are not only virgin but planning to stay away from pussy until you get married.

 

[Damien]

Haha I bet you really stand out. At least in my city foreigners were pretty noticeable since you rarely see them.

Being a well-mannered German doesn't really help here.

Can you expand on this? I'm not sure if is actually detrimental

Nice one BigW hahaha.

@Ergon: Well I meant being German is definitely a nice bonus here, but I feel like I still have to be more aggressive here than I'm used to. Mexican guys do way more cold-approaching than my fellow Germans back home so it's not so special if you do it. On the other hand it makes it much easier for me as well to start approaching, because it feels much more normal here than in Germany. Tinder matches very well here as well with some half-decent pictures.

 

[Ergon]

You're right... I was first thinking about a friend there who is quite good with women (a natural) and who was also well-mannered and truly considerate. The problem I saw is that he constantly got tests and challenges from women and men alike (he was superb at handling these but I could see it was wearing for him).

Yeah, the problem with being too well-mannered is that more often than not, it comes across as weak and too submissive. This is actually one of my main sticking points here in the US: recently got called "nice" by two girls; one after a failed escalation. Ouch! This friend, also in the past year figured it out by himself, and became much more of a dick; outright ignoring people, brutally honest, got a bike etc…

Mexican guys do way more cold-approaching than my fellow Germans back home so it's not so special if you do it.

I never actually saw anyone doing "cold approach" per se, but striking up conversation with anyone is more accepted, in most social settings like the bars and public spaces... and thinking about it that actually might the same but with different name hahah

About aggressiveness…
Guys are by habit much more touchy: kissing and hugging is just how you greet people… Sexual innuendo is much more common. "Albur", for example, a pun or a double entendre in which one of the possible meanings is sexual, is done with friends and maybe even relatives almost all the time. So think about upping your touchiness and flirtiness while still calibrated and you should do well… All the advice from GC should still give you an edge...

 

[Damien]

Interesting thoughts from your part! Yeah I'm struggling with that as well. I see why being assholish is appealing to girls, but I feel that on the side you're making yourself less likeable. It's a bit like trading immediate results for longer term ones. I enjoy having a lot of friends/acquaintances that invite you to their parties or introduce them to your friends. And it's true I'm quite a considerate person and you do get tested, but on the other side it's really good training. When it happens all the time it forces you to get good at handling it.

I met a natural here though who's very succesfull. He is like the nice asshole, gotta hang with him more and start emulating his bevahiour.

Already upping my touchiness definitely and I'm as well doing more jokes with double-meaning. Only it's still quite hard for me to do them in spanish hahaha. Got my Mexican flag last week by the way, so no need to worry about how to answer my initial shit-test question again. Abundance mentality here I coooome.

And exactly, by cold-approaching I was just referring to talking up girls you don't know through friends.