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Should I kiss her on the lips and when

Merkurio

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Hello everyone.

She rejected me more, than a year ago, and I believe, she knows, that I still have feelings for her. She has a boyfriend who she doesn't bring up in our conversations. A couple months ago she radically changed the way she treated me from cold to very soft, careful and caring and she also started missing me.

After her behavior changed there was a situation, when I reached out to give her a neck kiss and was already scolding myself in my mind for that, because that happened by instinct and I expected she would gently refuse me and wouldn't let me do that, but she let me and she enjoyed that. Next time I repeated that a couple times and my kisses were longer. She seemed to be enjoying, she closed her eyes, smiled and started stroking my hair, shoulders and spine. Her touching barrier seems to be completely broken with me from that point. I mean, before that point she never let me do even way more innocent things.

I've read a lot of stuff about signs she likes you and I already know, that neck kisses are pretty much intimate and special and women wouldn't let everyone kiss them there. My bf, who knows the situation, thinks I should move on and do my next step. What do you think? Should I kiss her on the lips or not? I won't be seeing her for a month or two, so she'll be missing me, then I'm gonna come and take her to a restaurant, where I want to end the evening with a lip kiss before saying "goodbye" if things go well. Is that a good plan?

P.S. I should mention one thing, but I don't know if it's important or not. Once there was a situation, when I proposed her massage at her place. She already had her boyfriend to that time, but I didn't know. I am extremely good in massage, because I practised a lot. I didn't have plans on making her hot, just wanted to please her a little bit, she was tired. But somehow I noticed she got really hot, which she didn't tell me, but it was like a minute - and you notice she's moaning quietly. She was trying to read, but she couldn't do that and she was doing pauses to enjoy massage. I believe this was how the touching barier was broken.
 

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Cro-Magnon Man
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The simple question for you to answer first: What do YOU want to happen between the two of you? What exactly do you want from her? You have feelings for her, I get that. But that doesn't explain if you want to bone her or adore her.

Merkurio said:
What do you think? Should I kiss her on the lips or not? I won't be seeing her for a month or two, so she'll be missing me, then I'm gonna come and take her to a restaurant, where I want to end the evening with a lip kiss before saying "goodbye" if things go well. Is that a good plan?

You have already massaged this girl and kissed her on the neck, and now you want to travel I don't know how long "just" to kiss her on the lips?

Maybe she wants things the same way. But if she is this comfortable with you, chances are she might want sex with you. Do you want the same?

If yes: you could perhaps skip the restaurant. Go straight to her place, maybe massage each other, kiss her on the lips, escalate things and make love to her.

If no: do whatever you want.

She already has a boyfriend. Don't play the same role as him even though you have feelings for her. If he was fulfilling her sexual desires and needs, she wouldn't allow all this to happen in the first place. She sees you as something different (a lover, I assume).
 
a good date brings a smile to your lips... and hers

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Tool-Bearing Hominid
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NO

Sounds like you have overthought about and overinvested in this girl. At this point it is most likely that whatever you do will come off entirely wrong.

I've been in your shoes before so take my tough love advice : forget about any girl you haven't made progress with relatively quickly. Go out and meet new women.
 
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