Simple Rule of Thumb to Improve Approaches

[Protean]

If you'e an intermediate to advanced player this will be the most obvious thing in the world to you, but for fellow newbies read on.

I've been fiddling around with different strategies to quickly increase my social momentum and talking to the people around me throughout my day has been pretty effective. A couple days ago I got into a conversation with a guy while waiting at an intersection that started off as follows:

Me: Hey man I've gotta say that's a cool shirt. (It was a navy pocket t-shirt with a parrot coming out of the pocket)
Him: Thanks. What you like parrots?
Me: (Laughs) No the parrot adds a nice pop of color. I dig it.
Him: Well I appreciate it man. What's your major?

We then talked about our majors for a bit. How we aren't the best at each other's focus of study, and why we chose to go into our respective fields. It was a brief, but enjoyable conversation that got me pretty warmed up socially.

But walking away something horrifying dawned on me...

I've had that exact same interaction with girls I've approached

Polite, platonic, and nothing remotely resembling seduction. I'm sure most of the girls I've approached just thought I was a social guy at first, then got flustered when I asked them out at the end.

So from then I added this rule of thumb for myself on all my future approaches:

If a straight guy would be comfortable in this interaction, I'm not being sexual enough!

I'm not just talking about the words or conversational threads, but your tonality, the looks you give her, your overall vibe. They should be totally different than what you give to random dudes you're politely conversing with.

I know its not the most advanced tech, but it makes a big difference. Give it a try. It's served me well.

- Protean