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Ryan0802

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Lets say I'm meeting a girl at the bar for a drink. Should I sit next to her at a booth so that our legs are touching - isn't that a bit awkward?

I typically angle myself where we are diagonal at a table so I can give good eye contact, and touch her arm at high points if I'm not already comfortable or at a point where I'm holding her hand. Interested in what you guys do..
 

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I always want to be on the same side of the table with a client to infer we are "working together" and on the same side.

Same true with a woman..

"Sit next to me so I can hear you better"
"See let me show you " as you draw out a diagram
Incidental touch: legs, arms
Whisper in the ear
Take the hand

But you should have touched her before that as you guide her through the door, on the way to the table.
 

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I find that this is great if you can make it happen at some point in the interaction (such as after you've changed locations) but trying to do it from the start in a date seems a bit weird to me

One thing I've also done is say something like "hey let me show you this picture, come over here" to get her to move around to show something on my phone, or whatever the case may be

I usually don't bother since my method is generally one bar and then pull back to my place as the next location. But I think if you run your dates with multiple locations involved getting on the same side of the table at the second location is a smart move
 
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Ryan0802 said:
Lets say I'm meeting a girl at the bar for a drink. Should I sit next to her at a booth so that our legs are touching - isn't that a bit awkward?

I typically angle myself where we are diagonal at a table so I can give good eye contact, and touch her arm at high points if I'm not already comfortable or at a point where I'm holding her hand. Interested in what you guys do..


I generally bring girls to a few different bars around my apt, actually mainly one lol. There is seating at the bar and that is where we usually sit. So you are side-by-side which then you just need to turn to talk to her. This is a great way to sit because you are both pretty close for touching and can even sit sideways in the chair facing her if you guys are hitting it off to make it more intimate (or she will).

The only other bar I've brought girls to had those tall circular tables where you sit at. I do try to close the proximity as close as I can by moving the chair before the girl gets there LOL.

I've never sat at a booth when meeting a girl. To me that seems pretty far away... the only thing you can do is do sexy eye contact / smile and maybe grab her hand to inspect jewelry if shes wearing it.
 

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I always sit side by side. I use a lot of kino and there's no way to do that if you are not sitting close to each other side by side. And it is much more intimate. Of course you also turn a bit sideways to maintain eye contact.

I usually tell them to sit on a certain chair, if they put their bags on the next chair, I pick them up and put it across, if they seem suprised I just tell them, I prefer sitting side by side, feels more casual / I don't like sitting across, feels like an old people date or something along those lines.

Hope it helps :)
 

Ryan0802

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Thanks for the examples guys. It's great to get your perspectives, and I'll begin incorporating this week with upcoming dates to see what works for me.
 
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